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[ConfusedParent99999]

Hello, I am new here. I recently discovered that my gaming addicted (discord/twitter user) son identifies as a girl, trans MTF. He uses an anime avatar on his social media accounts, and after all my research this weekend, I see the correlation there. He doesn't know that I know, because I came across this discovery by my own resourcefulness. He has sunken into a deep depression over the last year, and he claims not to sleep, says his mind won't stop which causes the insomnia. He hasn't mentioned being depressed, but a mother knows. I limit the games when i can, but am not always home, and my boys are at their father's half the time, so.....They will always find a way to get online anyway. He goes by a female name he has chosen for himself. I'm just so grateful I found this forum, by way of 4thWaveNow blog (also so grateful for). This was after two days of crying and coming to a form of acceptance that I would have a daughter (who ironically likes girls acccording to the conversations he has with his online trans friends <shakes head>).  Anyway, just saying hello and looking for more learning and support here.

I'm new here as well and trying to figure out this site.  A while back he met a new group of friends online and then started dating a girl (yes, real girl) in another state.  Prior to that he was working out in the gym, would talk politics and was pretty conservative in that aspect.  About two years ago he went to another state to meet the girl he started dating.  then another trip (longer this time) after which he no longer would discuss politics but was still going to the gym.  Then COVID shut down the Gyms, he spent more time in the other state an two weeks ago I learned that my 23 YO biological male child came to the realization last August he was Trans but also still likes girls. Before telling us he got psychiatric consult that confirmed to him his belief. He has ZERO female characteristics, typical slob of a boy.  He claims he likes girls cloths and putting on nail polish but so far other than trying on some things my wife bought him he has done none of that (we are trying to be supportive to not push him away but we are lost).

So what 'girl' doesn't like trying on outfits, mixing and matching to try and put things together.  We've given him nail polish, but he's not attempted to put it on yet.  I don't know what to think but this doesn't strike me as a girl and then there is his sexual interests with girls so I guess he's thinks he's really a lesbian?

Meanwhile my wife and I feel like we've lost our child.  I know he's still here, he's not doing drugs (well not the recreational kind) but the heart still hurts like on some level our son has died.  Thinking over his childhood he's never expressed any interest in girl clothes, toys or anything else.  

anyway, I'm not sure what I'm looking for other than to hear from other parents about if they felt this way, how did they cope?  Are their boys similar, how common is this 'lesbian transsexual' thing, anything at all that can help.

I think I'm a member now but can't seem to navigate the site and don't even know if I'll find my way back to any replies but if anyone has anything to offer, please do.

Hello, ConfusedParent99999 and welcome to the forum. I'm very sorry to hear about your son's situation. You've come to the right place. There are certainly lots of parents here going through the same situation. The grief is real.

All accounts must be manually activated by a moderator before they can access the members-only area. Your account has now been activated, and once you click around a bit in the members-only forum you should be able to navigate easily once you've gotten a little more familiar with the site. This public area of the site can be confusing because it gets filled with spam posts, which are deleted, but the result is a thread full of deleted posts. I think you'll find the members-only area less confusing. If you have questions, don't hesitate to ask and we can help you find your way around until you get accustomed to the site.

Welcome. You are not alone.

Thank you