23-Oct-2021, 02:27 PM
(This post was last modified: 23-Oct-2021, 02:38 PM by Marge Bouvier Simpson.)
(23-Oct-2021, 12:54 PM)Leonie Wrote: My 14 year old daughter identifies as non binary. She goes by all pronouns and is therefore still happy with me calling her my daughter or she/her. She has however changed her name to Aiden. I try my best to call her by this name, but often slip up and use her birth name. This results in her becoming very angry and accusing me of calling me by her 'dead name'. I am also not allowing her to legally change it until she is old enough to change it herself. I am just concerned that this is a phase. I have helped her to change her known as name at school and medical appointments etc. I find it difficult to understand why she feels non binary. I would understand more if she felt like she wanted to be male. I also happily accept her sexuality which she defines as pan sexual. As I have explained to her, as long as you are with someone that makes you happy and treats you well nothing else matters. Although again I believe 14 is very young to define yourself. I am concerned that defining as a different gender is just becoming a popular thing to do, especially among teenage girls. My daughter also struggles with disordered eating and is overweight (binge eating). I am concerned she is creating a persona for herself to mask the root cause of her unhappiness.
Is there anyone in a similar situation able to give me advice?
Hello, Leonie.
Welcome to the forum. Your account has been activated. I invite you to post in the members-only area, as forum members don't frequent this public portion of the forum too often. In the members-only area, in addition to getting more replies to your questions, you'll also find lots of support and advice.
I will say your situation sounds very familiar. Claiming a trans identity does seem to be a popular thing these days among teens and young adults. It also seems to go hand-in-hand with disordered eating, of course not for all, but there appears to be a connection.
Welcome to the forum. You are not alone.
(15-Oct-2021, 03:08 AM)Jlcb Wrote: Our daughter is 31, identified as non binary, and last week had her breasts amputated. She is extremely hostile to us, won’t answer messages or texts. We’re heartsick and angry at the cultish aspect of this. Any words of comfort or advice.
Welcome to the forum, Jlcb.
My apologies for the late reply. I activated you account back when you joined but apparently never replied to your post. I invite you to post in the members-only area, as forum members don't frequent this public portion of the forum too often. In the members-only area, in addition to getting more replies to your questions, you'll also find lots of support and advice.
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter.
Welcome to the forum. You are not alone.
(13-Jul-2021, 03:24 PM)Ryleighsmom Wrote: My daughter who is 13 has TS. She was diagnosed at the age of 9. She has always had anxiety, even in pre-school. That is an accompanying symptom of the Tourettes. She was diagnosed with severe depression in May after some self harm incidences and then a week after going on meds for depression she was hospitalized for being suicidal. While at this facility she indicated that she was bisexual. My husband and I did not react. Up until that point, she would always point out cute boys so we were not too concerned. Because there wasn't a reaction, she then identified as pan-sexual. Again, no major reaction. She was hospitalized a second time for another suicide attempt. While in the hospital, she was very smitten with a boy who was there at the same time. We enrolled her in partial hospitalization which involved group therapy. There were a couple of transgender participants and now boom...my daughter claims she is a boy. She wants us to use he/him pronouns and gets angry when we don't. We have an 8 year old sun who is very confused by all of this and we try to explain it to him while holding steadfast to our Christian convictions about the topic.
While I feel it is important to support her in this journey/confusing time, I don't know if we should submit and use the preferred pronouns for her mental health and hope that this phase dissipates soon or should we stick with our beliefs and use her natal gender pronouns. My husband refuses to consider her as a boy. I just don't want to cause more mental health harm or have this drag out longer because she is pushing boundaries.
She is in counseling with a new therapist (since the previous therapist missed major red flags) and has only had one session. I"m not sure where the therapist stands on the trans-gender issue.
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
Hello, Rylieghsmom.
Welcome to the forum. Your account was activated long ago but I'm just now realizing I never responded to your post here. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's TS and all the rest.
I'm also sorry you never received a reply here until now. I invite you to re-post in the members-only area, as most members don't frequent this public area of the board.
Welcome. You are not alone.
