29-Dec-2019, 06:55 AM
My daughter is 13 and has recently identified as a trans gay. She had previously told me she was gender fluid and bisexual and I had not really reacted figuring it was just a stage of her finding herself. I pretty much dismissed the gender fluid as growing up she was always incredibly drawn to "girl" activities. It was her older sister was the tomboy as a kid - she hated soccer but loved dance, dress-up, and barbies. As far as bisexual we weren't really reactive because we didn't really care. Now she has now socially transitioned herself at school to a boy's name and male pronouns. We won't use them at home and continue to call her by her given name. She is fascinated with novels and stories about gay boys falling in love - lovely YA books that normally I wouldn't have a problem with but they seem to be feeding into this fantasy of hers that she is a gay boy. Like others have identified, my daughter can be socially awkward at times, and she had a really hard grade 6 year at a new school, but she has quite a few friends now. However, many of them all attend the GSA at her school. She however has always been reluctant to grow up - unfortunately she started to menstruate and mature early. I think part of wanting to be a boy is wanting to be a kid. She doesn't talk about becoming a trans man - and actually seems uncomfortable when I talk about that idea, just says she is a trans boy.
