I am so glad that I have found this forum. My 17 year old daughter has been for two years trying to transition to a boy but is afraid of upsetting us so she is only trying to dress as a boy (which I passively sabotage). She does have a smart phone and her own laptop which I have severely limited her online time and blocked some apps on her phone including tumblr, reddit and youtube and any incognito browsers.
I KNOW that she has been indoctrinated online because she has autism and has no friends outside of the internet. Also, I stalked her on Reddit and she was talking to adults about transgender transitioning.
My husband and I are devastated. We have put our foot down and told her that transitioning, dressing like a boy, using male pronouns or any other type of transition will NEVER happen. Since she has autism we can get a guardianship, which we almost decided against because she was lying and saying she was dropping the issue, but just today I checked my online parenting control website and saw her texting a friend about wanting to transition again. I will be calling a lawyer that her behavioral pediatrician gave me about a partial guardianship or conservatorship. One that will prevent her from moving out, making medical and financial decisions and even who she associates with. She is not of the mind to make those decision with having autism.
On the other hand our hopes and dreams are that she finishes high school with honors (she is well on her way) goes to college and has a successful career in computer related field.
Oh, we are so disappointed and sad. I get very depressed when she acts up like this. I suffer from anxiety and depression and the anxiety has been so severe lately that I had to quit a job that I just started and I am on medication. Now finding this out today makes me spiral into depression. And guess what? Today is my 19th wedding anniversary!! What a bummer. My husband works a very demanding job and if I tell him what I found today he will not be of the right mind to complete his work tonight (he has to do some work from home most nights).
I did reach out to a therapist who is Christian and should side with me about getting to the bottom of why she is wanting to be a boy and not encouraging her any further. I pray that they can see her. I am trying to keep her busy but I am starting a new job from home and I have to work. She will end up bored and playing video games and wanting to go on the internet.
What is there to do? I wish I had a magic wand that I could wave to make her go back to the cute girl I once knew. I have been praying for years that she would accept her femininity. I am still waiting for my answer to prayer.
I KNOW that she has been indoctrinated online because she has autism and has no friends outside of the internet. Also, I stalked her on Reddit and she was talking to adults about transgender transitioning.
My husband and I are devastated. We have put our foot down and told her that transitioning, dressing like a boy, using male pronouns or any other type of transition will NEVER happen. Since she has autism we can get a guardianship, which we almost decided against because she was lying and saying she was dropping the issue, but just today I checked my online parenting control website and saw her texting a friend about wanting to transition again. I will be calling a lawyer that her behavioral pediatrician gave me about a partial guardianship or conservatorship. One that will prevent her from moving out, making medical and financial decisions and even who she associates with. She is not of the mind to make those decision with having autism.
On the other hand our hopes and dreams are that she finishes high school with honors (she is well on her way) goes to college and has a successful career in computer related field.
Oh, we are so disappointed and sad. I get very depressed when she acts up like this. I suffer from anxiety and depression and the anxiety has been so severe lately that I had to quit a job that I just started and I am on medication. Now finding this out today makes me spiral into depression. And guess what? Today is my 19th wedding anniversary!! What a bummer. My husband works a very demanding job and if I tell him what I found today he will not be of the right mind to complete his work tonight (he has to do some work from home most nights).
I did reach out to a therapist who is Christian and should side with me about getting to the bottom of why she is wanting to be a boy and not encouraging her any further. I pray that they can see her. I am trying to keep her busy but I am starting a new job from home and I have to work. She will end up bored and playing video games and wanting to go on the internet.
What is there to do? I wish I had a magic wand that I could wave to make her go back to the cute girl I once knew. I have been praying for years that she would accept her femininity. I am still waiting for my answer to prayer.
