07-Sep-2018, 07:42 PM
(07-Sep-2018, 04:24 PM)Lookingglass Wrote: Hello, glad to find this forum. Does anyone know of therapists or support groups in the San Francisco Bay Area?
My son is only in kindergarten, and my concerns at this point are relatively mild: for ex., for about 3 years now, he likes to dress up a lot in his older sister's costumes and dresses, pretend he's a princess or girl character, is now asking to be Queen Elsa for Halloween. Occasionally he'll say he wishes he were a girl, usually in the context of wanting to wear those clothes. We've tried our best to walk a fine line: letting him engage in the dramatic play without any shame, while explaining why we don't think it's appropriate, say, to wear a dress to school on costume day.
Sometimes I think we haven't done enough to steer him toward other interests; sometimes I wonder if we should just let him be Queen Elsa for Halloween and see how it goes. (I was more amenable to that when he was 3 or 4 than at almost 6. I fear both reactions: being laughed at, and being told how great it is that we're affirming his choice of gender.)
Bottom line: we could use some guidance and support. In our circles in the Bay Area, it's hard to feel comfortable talking about it even with friends, given the "gender-affirmative" climate.
So recommendations for medical professionals in our area would be great. Also happy to hear from parents with similar experiences.
Thank you.
Someone here wrote recently that Dr. Ken Zucker does phone consults (https://www.kenzuckerphd.com/), he’s in Toronto. My understanding is that he advocates a waiting approach for young kids and encouraging them to engage in more stereotypical activities for their sex. Are you familiar with all the studies that show that 80% of young kids will desist by the time they go through puberty?
Mom, D-14. Now says she’s too young to label herself as anything. In July 2018 said she was non-binary.
