26-Aug-2018, 06:28 PM
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I have a 17 year old who insists that she’s a man. She intends to treansition at 18! With the help of Planned Parenthood. We’ve been ghosted by our therapist & need a good unbiased one in the Metro N.Y.J area. We were traveling round trip three hours for the last one so location isn’t an issue. Thx! I’m running out of time—-18 in April!!!!!
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I’m in Seattle. To find a therapist I looked online for people who dealt with teens, body issues, women/feminist issues, eating disorders and did not say anything about LGBT stuff anywhere on their site. I then sent an email with a short summary of my daughter’s issues and a paragraph or two about what we were looking for in a therapist. I specifically said we did not want her automatically affirmed and we wanted to focus on underlying issues and helping her to feel more confidence in her own skin.
I came up with around 20 potential names, half took my insurance so I emailed them. Out of 10 emails I got 2 people I thought could help us, and just had our first session with one of them a few days ago. As it turns out, both have a religious background. We are not religious, but I’m willing to give them a try knowing the alternative.
I spoke with Sasha Ayad (inspired teen therapy.com) and she recommended asking more open ended questions. But, I am scared crapless of cold calling a bunch of Seattle therapists and hearing over and over again about how I need to affirm. For me, it was just easier to send an email out and be straightforward in what i was looking for. I didn’t get any rude emails back, a few just ignored me, some said politely they weren’t the best match and then gave me another therapists name.
Hope this helps!
I have a 17 year old who insists that she’s a man. She intends to treansition at 18! With the help of Planned Parenthood. We’ve been ghosted by our therapist & need a good unbiased one in the Metro N.Y.J area. We were traveling round trip three hours for the last one so location isn’t an issue. Thx! I’m running out of time—-18 in April!!!!!
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I’m in Seattle. To find a therapist I looked online for people who dealt with teens, body issues, women/feminist issues, eating disorders and did not say anything about LGBT stuff anywhere on their site. I then sent an email with a short summary of my daughter’s issues and a paragraph or two about what we were looking for in a therapist. I specifically said we did not want her automatically affirmed and we wanted to focus on underlying issues and helping her to feel more confidence in her own skin.
I came up with around 20 potential names, half took my insurance so I emailed them. Out of 10 emails I got 2 people I thought could help us, and just had our first session with one of them a few days ago. As it turns out, both have a religious background. We are not religious, but I’m willing to give them a try knowing the alternative.
I spoke with Sasha Ayad (inspired teen therapy.com) and she recommended asking more open ended questions. But, I am scared crapless of cold calling a bunch of Seattle therapists and hearing over and over again about how I need to affirm. For me, it was just easier to send an email out and be straightforward in what i was looking for. I didn’t get any rude emails back, a few just ignored me, some said politely they weren’t the best match and then gave me another therapists name.
Hope this helps!
Mom, D-14. Now says she’s too young to label herself as anything. In July 2018 said she was non-binary.
