09-Apr-2018, 06:02 PM
(06-Apr-2018, 08:18 AM)Heroshero Wrote: Add yet one more family to this collection of similar stories.
We’re nearly identical to others: 13 yr old, smart quirky girl binges on YouTube and announces she’s actually a boy. Now 14 1/2, diagnosed with high functioning autism and adhd. Also implementing a similar strategy to others: getting her busy in interests, limited internet, limited phone, gender neutral clothing, no changing name/pronouns. Trying hard to slow it down.
Boy do I wish I’d seen this site a year ago!
So many sleepless nights. Often a black cloud of sadness resides in our hearts. Hard on our marriage. Hard on all of our relationships. So hard to know who to trust. Crying out to God to wake our daughter up.
Feels great to know we’re not alone. Feels terrible to know we’re not alone. It’s membership in the most awful club.
My emotions are exactly as stated by Heroshero. In our case we have a son who at 151/2 came to us with the transgender announcement out of the blue. He is now nearing 17 and continuing in his belief that he is indeed female. My husband is "not happy" about this at all and would like it to end. But his emotional response has not been as deep as mine or hurt as I am. This has been one factor straining our 31 year marriage. This also has strained my relationship with our older kids..both have graduated form college already and are of the belief that gender is a "social construct". Whatever the hell that means???. The description of a cloud of sadness describes my felling for about the last 16 months. I know that most of the ROGD teens are girls but my son meets the description perfectly..he is on the Autism spectrum. I also pray to God all the time to return my wonderful, smart son back to me. Never thought something like this would happen to my family.
Mother of 23 year old ASD son who identifies as a woman for over 7 years. USA
