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[Jdmum]

I need help , I’m so distraught, I feel helpless. Idk what to do or who to turn to for help now. I have a 16 year old daughter who has recently in the past 2 years came out telling me she is a boy and wants to transition. I feel like my daughter will die and I will have a boy if this happens. I have tried prolonging it as much as i can. But I recently learned she got T online and has been injecting herself with it. This scares me and hurts to the core. I had a girl not a boy. I am not transphobic by any means at all. If she had signs of it or voiced it as a young child I would be ok with it. But she use to be so popular, so girly ,  so absolutely beautiful, involved in sports and church youth groups. She was a very happy child . Then 2 to 3 years ago she became very anxious with anxiety and depression to the point she had to homeschool. She cut her hair, doesn’t shave dresses as a boy and wears a binder . I took her to a gynecologist hoping they could help her feel more like a girl with something,Or checking her female levels of estrogen. But instead it back fired on me. We was sent to a gynecologist in a bigger town that works with young girls because mine could not help her at this age. While at the apt. They tell me she has gender dysphoria and place a IUD in without consulting me first. I was appalled a doctor could do this. The doctor said if I didn’t go along with this she would kill her self. Since she has been dressing and acting like a boy and going by a boy name now her anxiety and depression has become severe, she has no friends and can’t even go into a public place anymore, stays high on marijuana. It seems like this has made depression and anxiety much worse now. I wish I could find a doctor or psychologist who can help us rather than changing who she is. When she becomes an adult in her late 20’s if she still wants to do this then I would fully support her. I just wish she would wait awhile until her child brain fully developed, cause im afraid she’s gonna regret it and blame me. Our minds change so much every 5 years or so . Thats why i want her to wait but when i talk to her she only becomes angry and says i am selfish. I need help

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