03-Nov-2020, 12:32 AM
I am a transwoman (born male) in my late 30s. I have lived "full time" in my gender for a number of years, including many surgeries and therapies to get there. That may be all you need to know to not like me, and that's fair, but I do wish to critically examine things with you all. I've read a great deal of your posts, and do sympathize with all of you. In some regards, you will find I agree with you on many things too(even exploring my own resolve and commitment by considering a detransition). As such, I'm not here to defend trans, call you wrong or phobic, change your kids, or demand anything more than maybe being a resource.
The poster a bit above is not wrong. The hormones have sterilized me, I've surgically altered my body in many ways, often painful and costing tens of thousands of dollars, I'm required to take very dangerous hormones for the rest of my life, which put me at double risk for things like cancer (or even outright kill me), some hormone replacement parts I take are experimental cancer pharmaceuticals, very very expensive, but as poster above said, Obamacare guarantees it. Though I have a very successful career, educated, traveled, quite passing female to point of modeling and in a reasonably good place in life, I have been raped, assaulted, pornographically exploited, and given money for sex--not because I need money, I make great money, I just wanted the affirmation.
I understand, you don't want your kids to be me, who would wish that on anybody? That's terrifying. Granted, not all trans are me, that is my experience.
To further your possible disdain, I am who your children confide in, currently. I've met a great deal of self identifying trans youth over the years, and everyday. When they haven't told you, when they're in the closet, when they've come out and met resistance, when they're "free" of parents and off to college, they find me. Over time I see some transition, some hurt themselves with black market alternatives and self-transitioning, some exploit themselves sexually, and some hurt by their parents and loved ones to point of absolute breakdown and suicide. I am not medically qualified, nor promote myself as such a person. They find me because they are desperate and confused. I try to steer them towards a parent, a family member, a professional, even a school counselor, but they ultimately want my help. If you wish a very genuine, and perhaps uncomfortable look into this from a person that has experienced it all, and the confidant of your kids then I can provide that.
Honestly, the amount of online resources for your side seem muted and gagged, which is not cool. Even if I didn't agree, muting the very real concerns or uncomfortable view points only stops us from helping to fix anything.
So, I may not be welcome, but I'd like to learn a great deal from you all and perhaps my unique situation can be a boon to you, sincerely, thank you.
The poster a bit above is not wrong. The hormones have sterilized me, I've surgically altered my body in many ways, often painful and costing tens of thousands of dollars, I'm required to take very dangerous hormones for the rest of my life, which put me at double risk for things like cancer (or even outright kill me), some hormone replacement parts I take are experimental cancer pharmaceuticals, very very expensive, but as poster above said, Obamacare guarantees it. Though I have a very successful career, educated, traveled, quite passing female to point of modeling and in a reasonably good place in life, I have been raped, assaulted, pornographically exploited, and given money for sex--not because I need money, I make great money, I just wanted the affirmation.
I understand, you don't want your kids to be me, who would wish that on anybody? That's terrifying. Granted, not all trans are me, that is my experience.
To further your possible disdain, I am who your children confide in, currently. I've met a great deal of self identifying trans youth over the years, and everyday. When they haven't told you, when they're in the closet, when they've come out and met resistance, when they're "free" of parents and off to college, they find me. Over time I see some transition, some hurt themselves with black market alternatives and self-transitioning, some exploit themselves sexually, and some hurt by their parents and loved ones to point of absolute breakdown and suicide. I am not medically qualified, nor promote myself as such a person. They find me because they are desperate and confused. I try to steer them towards a parent, a family member, a professional, even a school counselor, but they ultimately want my help. If you wish a very genuine, and perhaps uncomfortable look into this from a person that has experienced it all, and the confidant of your kids then I can provide that.
Honestly, the amount of online resources for your side seem muted and gagged, which is not cool. Even if I didn't agree, muting the very real concerns or uncomfortable view points only stops us from helping to fix anything.
So, I may not be welcome, but I'd like to learn a great deal from you all and perhaps my unique situation can be a boon to you, sincerely, thank you.
