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(21-Oct-2020, 09:50 PM)pvgirl Wrote:
(09-Apr-2018, 06:23 PM)Libby Wrote: Hi, this is the first time I have found this board and I was wondering if it is for parents of only children and young adults.  My reasons for asking are I have a child (mid-twenties) who is seriously thinking of transitioning (female to male).  I am so distressed and am really struggling to cope.  I love my daughter so much and, up until recently, had believed that she was bi-sexual and felt a sort of mix of male and female.  I am genuinely a supportive and caring parent who wants the absolute best for my child but I feel shaken to the core that she may transition completely.  I'm truly not transphobic but can't help thinking that other avenues should be explored first.  I realise this isn't about looks but she's very feminine looking and soft and gentle so it feels even harder to reconcile somehow with her telling me she is in fact male.  I realise my child seems to be considerably older than the children of other posters.  Maybe I just have to be completely accepting of her decision (I feel 'bad' even saying 'she'!) but any support would be so very welcome.  Thank you.
Hi Libby, do not feel badly about calling your daughter just exactly what she is, a "she."  You have every right to not suspend disbelief and believe your lying eyes. No matter how much medical intervention is thrown at the problem, a female will always be female down to her skeletal structure.  It's a matter of simple biology and nothing can change that.  My beautiful daughter was brainwashed in college and therefore not under my husband's and my direct supervision to try and intervene.  On a visit home her senior year she demanded we support her as a him; it was more of a manifesto/ultimatum.  We were completely unprepared as she'd never hinted at this before, and we encouraged waiting. She responded to our hesitation by being outraged we were not fully supportive, and spouted all the talking points given to her by her trans supporters, including that emotional blackmail trick of suicide.  She then defriended us on Facebook and didn't speak with us for nearly 2 years.  We had to rely on friends and relatives to tell us what she was up to. After we lost our home in the Woosley Fire here in CA in Nov 18, our relationship was reestablished-- but only under the condition that we accept her as "him."  Then without our knowing it came "T", followed by top surgery, followed by egg freezing, followed just recently by a hysterectomy. My beautiful daughter is now poisoned, mutilated and sterile, with a deep voice and beard, and I'm just supposed to say how wonderful, I'm so happy for you!?  
I've just finished reading a book by Abigail Shrier called "Irreversible Damage," and I recommend it to you.  It will anger you at how helpless we parents are and what we're up against.  You will learn how powerful the trans movement is, both online and in our community, and how corrupt the medical and psychological community has become. (Know thy enemy!)  Here's how it works:  kids diagnose themselves through brainwashing by a powerful trans activist community who prey on especially vulnerable young girls.  These kids are then directed to an activist psych who affirms their diagnosis instead of properly treating them for what's obviously gender dysphoria and who also then helps them access all the medical resources they need to transition. Finally, activist doctors violate their Hippocratic Oath by performing radical double mastectomies and hysterectomies on perfectly healthy young girls.  The worst part of what's driving all of this:  thanks to ObamaCare, all of these services and drugs are enshrined in every insurance program now due to equality laws, so the expensive hormones and surgeries are completely free (or nearly so) to the kids.  And, thanks to patient protections, parents cannot know what's going on, even if the child is underage. You might even get social services knocking on your door if your child is underage and you dissent.  (Really wish I were kidding about that.) 
I'm not transphobic or homophobic and resent this labeling.  It's the trans activist community's way of saying "if you're not 100% with us then you're against us!"  I am grateful for this website, as it seems like I'm the only parent out there pulling the fire alarm on this mess!  If your daughter has not transitioned yet, even as she's in her mid-20's, you are still the parent.  Provide the guardrails she so desperately needs and get her to a psych who still has morals.  She will thank you in the future, I promise!

Hi pvgirl,

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter getting caught up in these cult-like beliefs. Your account has been activated. I encourage you to take your discussion into our members-only forums where your posts are more likely to be seen by fellow members. This public area of the forum doesn't get much traffic from our members. You've come to the right place if you are looking for support and camaraderie (commiseration?) among like-minded parents who are dealing with the exact issues you are.

Welcome. You are not alone.
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