29-Nov-2019, 02:29 PM
My daughter is 22. She came out as trans two years ago, and instead of fighting for her like I should have, I helped her move to another state because I couldn't stand having her around anymore. Of course, only I knew why I was sending her away; everyone else, including her, thought I was helping her better her career. Over the past two years, we have fought, gone to therapy together, and had some good times. However, I just don't believe this is really who she is. She went from being a beautiful, vibrant, ambitious young woman to being an ugly, overweight, withdrawn nondescript person. I find myself repulsed by this person who stole my daughter, and then I am repulsed by myself for hating her. I am at a total loss and don't know what to do. Should I stop visiting because it makes me so miserable? Should I visit more often and continue to hammer at this bent nail? Or should I just accept the situation as irreparable and try to move on? I just don't know how to overcome this feeling of loathing I have for both my daughter and myself.
