16-May-2018, 04:19 AM
Hi All,
I’m not sure if this is where I’m supposed to create a new post, I’m technologically impaired.
I’m new to this site and just looking for support from parents going though the same thing I am.Im not even sure where to begin. Last year my daughter came out as gay. I already knew this before she told us. She had cut her hair and started to dress more masculine. Soon after that she told me she was non binary, I also knew this as I sneak her phone every so often to check up on her. She had been looking up non binary stuff of YouTube.
Cut to this past March and she started to have a lot of problems. Her behavior was changing and her grades were dropping. The school counselor called us in because a parent of her friend had voiced concerns over her mental health. My daughter admitted to the counselor that she has thought about suicide. My husband and I took her to a children’s mental health hospital where she stayed for a week. During this time it came out that my younger brother had been molesting her between ages 6-11. He was 10-15. We were floored. Everything was hotlines and my daughter was placed on a small dose of meds for depression and PTSD. She was good for about a month.
Her agitation started to increase recently and she has spent more time in her room with the door shut. She finally told us that she has changed her name to Grayson for the past year and wants to be referred to as a boy. She gets mad if I even bring up periods or anything to do with femininity. This was never a problem in the past. I’m lost and don’t know what to do.
Has anyone else had their child want to change genders after sexual trauma? My heart tells me this has to be the reason why. I just don’t know what to do. Ive been trying to find a therapist that is right for this situation. I don’t want someone who is just going to tell me to accept this without them trying to figure out if this is due to the trauma.
Sorry if this list is all over the place. I’m just in a very dark place right now. Our family is being torn apart and I don’t know how to fix it.
I’m not sure if this is where I’m supposed to create a new post, I’m technologically impaired.
I’m new to this site and just looking for support from parents going though the same thing I am.Im not even sure where to begin. Last year my daughter came out as gay. I already knew this before she told us. She had cut her hair and started to dress more masculine. Soon after that she told me she was non binary, I also knew this as I sneak her phone every so often to check up on her. She had been looking up non binary stuff of YouTube.
Cut to this past March and she started to have a lot of problems. Her behavior was changing and her grades were dropping. The school counselor called us in because a parent of her friend had voiced concerns over her mental health. My daughter admitted to the counselor that she has thought about suicide. My husband and I took her to a children’s mental health hospital where she stayed for a week. During this time it came out that my younger brother had been molesting her between ages 6-11. He was 10-15. We were floored. Everything was hotlines and my daughter was placed on a small dose of meds for depression and PTSD. She was good for about a month.
Her agitation started to increase recently and she has spent more time in her room with the door shut. She finally told us that she has changed her name to Grayson for the past year and wants to be referred to as a boy. She gets mad if I even bring up periods or anything to do with femininity. This was never a problem in the past. I’m lost and don’t know what to do.
Has anyone else had their child want to change genders after sexual trauma? My heart tells me this has to be the reason why. I just don’t know what to do. Ive been trying to find a therapist that is right for this situation. I don’t want someone who is just going to tell me to accept this without them trying to figure out if this is due to the trauma.
Sorry if this list is all over the place. I’m just in a very dark place right now. Our family is being torn apart and I don’t know how to fix it.
