29-Mar-2022, 04:01 PM
I feel like I am going to throw up. Found out my sweet A+ daughter 16 thinks she's a man. Typical story. Right now trying to deal with blocking her access to [recreational] drugs which also came out of her "glitter family" associations, which I'm trying to cut her away from as well. So much swirling around I don't even know where to start.
I need to know how to convince her of reality. I'm seeing parallels between the religious cults we were warned of back in the 70s&80s and the trans affirming "glitter family" community. I think I'll try that tactic - to convince her she's in a cult, not in reality. I have no idea what to do or exactly what to say. I spend all day rehearsing little speeches.
Compounding all this is that I share custody and her other parent thinks affirming is a good idea to prevent suicide. I'm thinking she's already dead and that I'm not going to have her in my life anyway. What the hell is going on? I'm a good dad BUT FOR agreeing with a 16yo that a girl is a boy. I have such anger toward all the groomers who have been part of this.
I will never ever call her by a boy's name or pretend she's a man. Period.
I need to know how to convince her of reality. I'm seeing parallels between the religious cults we were warned of back in the 70s&80s and the trans affirming "glitter family" community. I think I'll try that tactic - to convince her she's in a cult, not in reality. I have no idea what to do or exactly what to say. I spend all day rehearsing little speeches.
Compounding all this is that I share custody and her other parent thinks affirming is a good idea to prevent suicide. I'm thinking she's already dead and that I'm not going to have her in my life anyway. What the hell is going on? I'm a good dad BUT FOR agreeing with a 16yo that a girl is a boy. I have such anger toward all the groomers who have been part of this.
I will never ever call her by a boy's name or pretend she's a man. Period.
