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[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

Hi. I am hoping that I am posting good in the right area. I am looking for a discussion where parents can talk with each other and compare stories and just support each other. About 3 months ago my barely 20 year old son announced he was a girl. Two weeks ago he started estrogen. I am a wreck over this. I had suspected he might be gay because he had never had a girlfriend, but he didn't seem to like guys either. He says he is a lesbian. He now has a girlfriend. I am divorced and don't have much for people to talk about this with and am hoping to find people who think similar to me and have some personal experience to share.
thank you.

This board is set up for what parents like you. We tend to be sceptical about the whole "born in the wrong body"  thing, but aren't here to argue about it but are here to support each other and have a space to talk about how we feel. 

This area of the board, the public area, colored blue is open to anyone to read. If you like I can move your post (and this reply) to the members only area of the board. Just reply here and I will sort it out.

Do bear in mind that we cannot control who joins up, so you should take care not to reveal identifying information about yourself.

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This is my very first post - my wife and I learned just 72 hours ago that our biological son (mid-20s and only child) and living in another state is transgender. We never had any signs, whatsoever, and this has hit us hard, shaking our world in a way we simply never imagined. The onset seems quite sudden to us and since "they" live alone, have not had much face-to-face interaction with people, except us an our monthly visits. It appears that all of his research, conversations, and virtual counseling happened after months into the covid lockdowns and protocols.

We love our child beyond all measure and want nothing but the best life for them but this seemingly rapid onset has us frightened and confused. Our child is exceptionally intelligent and in a grad program. They have NEVER rushed into anything like this before but they want us to trust that they are certain.

I kept it together until our visit ended but I burst into sobs when we got in the car and drove away. I feel like we have lost or are in grave danger of losing our adult child. I am currently seeking a therapist that my wife and I can speak with. 

I am so scared and we both feel so alone right now as we cannot tell anyone until our child is ready to come out.

Any thoughts and comments are greatly appreciated.

Welcome, Befuddled. Now that your account has been activated, I invite you to post in our members-only area. Your post is more likely to be seen there, since members don't typically visit this public area of the forum too often.

I'm sorry to hear about your son. I think you'll find helpful advice and fellowship in the members-only area. There are so many parents in similar situations. You are not alone.