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[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

Hi - I'm the mum of a very happy 9 year old daughter who doesn't conform to "girl". She wears "boys" clothes, all her friends are boys, and she hates anything girly. She has now asked that her long hair is cut short into a "boy" style. I've asked her if she wants to be a boy, and she has said no. I'm worried about what the future holds, that she is going to be subject to all kinds of pressures.

Hi Wolfie,

You are smart to be looking and thinking ahead. It is great your daughter doesn't want to be a boy, since for one thing it is impossible! I think there may be ways you can "inoculate" your daughter against gender ideology, or at least increase the chances that she won't get pulled in and fall for the lie that liking things that supposedly only boys like, and wanting to play with boys, means she is a boy.

Your membership has been approved. I invite you to bring this conversation into our members-only area, as this public area of the forum doesn't get much traffic. You have the wonderful advantage of not only seeing nonconformity in  your daughter now at age 9, but also the lessons learned by those of us who were blind-sided several years ago before anyone realized what was going on, how pervasive and trendy being trans is among kids, and how kids are being taught in school that if someone doesn't fall in line with sexist stereotypes, it means that person is trans. I think forum members will have lots of positive ideas for you. If only I had had some sort of hint this was coming before age 15, if only I had known the types of things kids were being taught online... perhaps things would be different for my own daughter. Learn all you can, because your daughter might get a trans label suggested to her or even pushed on by others her due to her natural nonconformity. Unfortunately, that is the state of things currently.

Welcome to the forum.