01-Mar-2021, 03:38 PM
New to all this here.
In Canada, and my daughter just came out as trans male, and is 15, going on 16. It's very sudden, matches all the hallmarks of ROGD. I'm trying, but now the stress of the post-coming out has somehow magically turned into significant motor AND verbal tics over a weekend at Dad's- apparently Dad can't quite accept new name and gender, and has said as much, but is trying. So back to our household, and I admitted that while I've switched names and pronouns (aka. eaten the s**t sandwich that was presented to me) just because I don't "believe" the validity of it, I'm evil, and a jerk. Because I didn't THANK her for the s**t sandwich and pretend it tastes great. Because I questioned how someone can develop a persistent, obvious tic over a weekend, I don't understand anything about anything.
She is doing a fantastic job of trying to push away everyone who cares for her, and it's so hard to try to stay the course.
I'm lost, because my version of being "supportive" definitely doesn't seem to match hers. Looks like she was out for drama, and it went too well over the first 2 weeks after transition, so had to up the ante.
Sigh.
In Canada, and my daughter just came out as trans male, and is 15, going on 16. It's very sudden, matches all the hallmarks of ROGD. I'm trying, but now the stress of the post-coming out has somehow magically turned into significant motor AND verbal tics over a weekend at Dad's- apparently Dad can't quite accept new name and gender, and has said as much, but is trying. So back to our household, and I admitted that while I've switched names and pronouns (aka. eaten the s**t sandwich that was presented to me) just because I don't "believe" the validity of it, I'm evil, and a jerk. Because I didn't THANK her for the s**t sandwich and pretend it tastes great. Because I questioned how someone can develop a persistent, obvious tic over a weekend, I don't understand anything about anything.
She is doing a fantastic job of trying to push away everyone who cares for her, and it's so hard to try to stay the course.
I'm lost, because my version of being "supportive" definitely doesn't seem to match hers. Looks like she was out for drama, and it went too well over the first 2 weeks after transition, so had to up the ante.
Sigh.
