02-May-2020, 01:49 PM
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So glad to have found this forum. My 11 year old daughter who has just started her period says she hates her body and is fixated on gay you tubers and has recently said she is transgender. She is having difficulty making friends at school, has been bullied and has not had a good male role model in her life so I think these are all contributing factors but the main issue is what I see as this trans cult on the internet, it sickens me that they are encouraging transitioning at such a young age. Everything you read tells you to support it but my gut says absolutely not. How do you all handle the internet use issue? I would love to take the iPad away entirely but that is not realistic. Would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on how you are handling this, what seems to work and doesn’t.
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Welcome, guest.
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. As you have probably read here in the previous posts, the members of this forum feel basically the same as you, that a kid who suddenly announces they are trans, especially one who is suddenly says they're trans
after going through some sort of personal life difficulty and/or binge-ing on YouTube, should definitely not be immediately affirmed and supported as trans. Your daughter sounds like so many of our own kids as far as what she is going through and the circumstances surrounding her new-found trans identity.
I agree that it is difficult to completely unplug a kid from the internet, especially now that most schools have gone completely online due to the coronavirus pandemic. There are some fairly decent parental control programs such as Disney Circle. Consider installing that for the short term, then perhaps unplugging her completely (or nearly completely) once the school year is over, which hopefully for your area is soon. Then keep her busy-busy-busy this summer with anything and everything you can think of: arts and crafts, sports, hiking, cooking, gardening, fishing, a musical instrument, a few new or extra chores, pet sitting, books and board games, coin collecting, maybe even a new pet, researching/planning your family's "dream" vacation for next summer (hopefully we can all travel again next summer!) etc. Anything and everything you can think of that would strike her fancy, keep her busy and/or get her doing something constructive and productive rather than navel-gazing and ruminating.
There is much more information in the members-only area. A new member joined just around the time of this post; if that is you, your membership is now activated. If that was not you who joined, I invite you to join so that you can access the members-only area.
So glad to have found this forum. My 11 year old daughter who has just started her period says she hates her body and is fixated on gay you tubers and has recently said she is transgender. She is having difficulty making friends at school, has been bullied and has not had a good male role model in her life so I think these are all contributing factors but the main issue is what I see as this trans cult on the internet, it sickens me that they are encouraging transitioning at such a young age. Everything you read tells you to support it but my gut says absolutely not. How do you all handle the internet use issue? I would love to take the iPad away entirely but that is not realistic. Would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on how you are handling this, what seems to work and doesn’t.
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Welcome, guest.
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. As you have probably read here in the previous posts, the members of this forum feel basically the same as you, that a kid who suddenly announces they are trans, especially one who is suddenly says they're trans
after going through some sort of personal life difficulty and/or binge-ing on YouTube, should definitely not be immediately affirmed and supported as trans. Your daughter sounds like so many of our own kids as far as what she is going through and the circumstances surrounding her new-found trans identity.
I agree that it is difficult to completely unplug a kid from the internet, especially now that most schools have gone completely online due to the coronavirus pandemic. There are some fairly decent parental control programs such as Disney Circle. Consider installing that for the short term, then perhaps unplugging her completely (or nearly completely) once the school year is over, which hopefully for your area is soon. Then keep her busy-busy-busy this summer with anything and everything you can think of: arts and crafts, sports, hiking, cooking, gardening, fishing, a musical instrument, a few new or extra chores, pet sitting, books and board games, coin collecting, maybe even a new pet, researching/planning your family's "dream" vacation for next summer (hopefully we can all travel again next summer!) etc. Anything and everything you can think of that would strike her fancy, keep her busy and/or get her doing something constructive and productive rather than navel-gazing and ruminating.
There is much more information in the members-only area. A new member joined just around the time of this post; if that is you, your membership is now activated. If that was not you who joined, I invite you to join so that you can access the members-only area.
