05-May-2018, 09:22 PM
New here. 14 yr old thinks she may be a boy, or at least gender-fluid. Just this past Halloween she sewed a dress for herself & her friend so they could be the moon & sun. Was excited to get her first bra and couldn't believe how mean I was to not let her get a bikini last summer. Now wants to wear suits some days and skirts others, depending on how she feels. Still enjoys ballet and dance. Recently told me about unwanted attention from boys in her class, and some nasty comments some girls made about other girls in her class, although she says they are not related to how she is feeling. We have agreed to work on developing as a person (neither male or female) for right now (arts, hobbies, etc), then in two years revisit with a therapist. No permanent changes right now (no name change); short hair OK (she picked some really cute bobs from Pinterest). Hasn't really thought about kissing at all. We have both agreed to pray for God's Will in her life and to accept God's Will (I suspect we have different views on what God's Will is going to be) for her life, because doing what God wants is the only way to real peace and happiness.
