13-Aug-2023, 05:09 AM
Hello,
I'm a young man who has a female friend ('Dani') who is going through a roughpatch.
She is the daughter of one of my father's friends. We first met when she was 11 years old. I'm somewhat older than her, so I didn't spend much time with her back then, but I remember her well enough to know that she showed no evidence of childhood onset gender dysphoria. Over the years I would see her at parties and I never 'coded' her as being on the LGBT spectrum. She was a little tomboyish as a young teen but not excessively so. She fit in well with other girls, was happy, was outgoing, and dressed normally.
The only noteworthy things about Dani were that:
1) She sometimes had anxiety issues. This would happen at seemingly random times.
2) She had an intense fascination with WWII, the Eastern Front, and the Baltic Countries.
I ended up becoming reacquainted with her last year (she was 18) and it became clear that she had a very intense crush on me. She struck me as surprisingly attractive, gifted, and witty - but depressed. She didn't seem ready to be in a serious relationship and I had some health issues to deal with so I decided that we should be casual friends.
We started chatting a bit a few months ago. I learned that all of Dani's other friends are LGBT and that she had been toying with various gender non-conforming identities. I also learned, from a relative, that Dani had lost nearly all of her non-LGBT friends under difficult circumstances (she had been bullied by two girls who she'd previously been friends with).
Many of the traits described in this thread fit her:
- Depressed.
- Socially isolated.
- Gifted.
- Anxious and Shy.
- Physically Feminine / AKA Not Masculine (she's actually quite big chested for a thin girl and I think this may have caused some anxiety for her growing up).
- Difficult Relationship With Her Parents.
There's more that I can say, but I'd rather not put it on a public thread.
Would deeply appreciate being able to read the rest of the forum and see others experiences.
I'm a young man who has a female friend ('Dani') who is going through a roughpatch.
She is the daughter of one of my father's friends. We first met when she was 11 years old. I'm somewhat older than her, so I didn't spend much time with her back then, but I remember her well enough to know that she showed no evidence of childhood onset gender dysphoria. Over the years I would see her at parties and I never 'coded' her as being on the LGBT spectrum. She was a little tomboyish as a young teen but not excessively so. She fit in well with other girls, was happy, was outgoing, and dressed normally.
The only noteworthy things about Dani were that:
1) She sometimes had anxiety issues. This would happen at seemingly random times.
2) She had an intense fascination with WWII, the Eastern Front, and the Baltic Countries.
I ended up becoming reacquainted with her last year (she was 18) and it became clear that she had a very intense crush on me. She struck me as surprisingly attractive, gifted, and witty - but depressed. She didn't seem ready to be in a serious relationship and I had some health issues to deal with so I decided that we should be casual friends.
We started chatting a bit a few months ago. I learned that all of Dani's other friends are LGBT and that she had been toying with various gender non-conforming identities. I also learned, from a relative, that Dani had lost nearly all of her non-LGBT friends under difficult circumstances (she had been bullied by two girls who she'd previously been friends with).
Many of the traits described in this thread fit her:
- Depressed.
- Socially isolated.
- Gifted.
- Anxious and Shy.
- Physically Feminine / AKA Not Masculine (she's actually quite big chested for a thin girl and I think this may have caused some anxiety for her growing up).
- Difficult Relationship With Her Parents.
There's more that I can say, but I'd rather not put it on a public thread.
Would deeply appreciate being able to read the rest of the forum and see others experiences.
