Joining The Support Board

[Auntie Seagull]

Our Bulletin Board is run for parents and families by parents and families who share the experience of coping with a child, teenager or young adult who believes she or he is transgender. 

Anyone in that situation is welcome to join us. But first:

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Hi there! I'm new here and I'm not familiar with discussion boards so forgive me if I post the wrong thing into the wrong thread. I am glad I found this place because our daughter, 16, has identified as trans some months ago and we can't see how she could be a boy. Whatever I read here from others is true for her, too. 
We're in Europe and it was only when I looked on english language websites that I finally found some resources that were not of the prevailing vein (or how can I put this?)

D has had some issues with sensory integration as a small child, body awareness, balance and low muscle tension. My idea is that maybe this is part of the problem now. She just finds it hard to connect with her own body maybe and that might lead here to believe her being in the wrong body?She's not ADS but something similar is true for her. Dyslexia applies to and also some Dyspraxia.

By the way can someone explain where the ADS connection is coming from?

She's always been a very easy going laid back person, very easy to handle for us parents, very eager to please and help others. She was never very strong willed and was easily convinced to do or not do things that we needed het to do. You know, when we needed it, simple things like having to go out or do something like visits or shopping. Other kids would throw tantrums, she was okay after some explaining. From when she was 11 or so this started to change and we thought: Oh, it's about time she felt her own will and expressed it, too. She was starting to get real angry sometimes and raging. And of course now this trans thing turns her into a real rebel...

And also she was always a bit different from other children in her class and ended up a loner. So now she has all these friends outside of school that see themselves as outsiders in society. She's now out and about and hanging out with other teenagers
In that respect we are glad for her to finally have found a peer group.
Only it's all build on this idea of not being a cis girls and not being straight. Apparently in that group there is one straight boy and he's the token cis straight boy.

We hope  obviously that she will see sense in the not too distant future and is accepted as the token cis and possibly even straight girl 

One thing is remarkable, too. When she comes home from trans meetings she's rather bad tempered and keeps at a distance. But when she does something unrelated to trans, she becomes this softened happier person again. E.g. she likes child minding/baby sitting. So she comes home relaxed and quite contented from that little job she has.