22-Nov-2019, 03:57 PM
Hello, guest.
It is very troubling and confusing when a child takes a sudden 90-degree turn in their life and personality and out of the blue claims to be transgender. I think parents could take it all in stride if it wasn't for the medicalization, as the treatments are often experimental, permanent and even dangerous to one's health. Another troubling aspect about a child suddenly claiming to be transgender is that they typically are affirmed by doctors and therapists as transgender very quickly, as well as being quickly approved for medical treatment, with little or no therapy, even of they had never before shown any inclination toward stereotypical opposite-sex behavior or preferences.
You may be on to something when you state your daughter could be keeping something from you, as many of our kids have suffered some sort of trauma which seems to make an opposite-sex identity very attractive to them and/or makes it seem as though becoming the opposite sex or a new person is the answer to their troubles.
So, despite being a supporter of the LGBTQ community, you are wise to be concerned. Wanting to ensure that your child gets the safest, best, most thorough and most appropriate medical and psychological care is not transphobic, although others may accuse you of transphobia when they learn you are not ready to sign your kid up for a lifetime of ongoing, invasive, experimental medical treatment.
I invite you to join the forum, where you can communicate in our members-only area with other like-minded parents whose kids are in similar situations. To join, simply click on the word "register" in the black band towards the top of this page. Once you have entered your email address and chosen a username and password, your account must then be manually activated by a moderator. This can take anywhere from an hour or two to a day, so please be patient at that stage.
I hope you'll consider registering. All the best to you and your daughter.
It is very troubling and confusing when a child takes a sudden 90-degree turn in their life and personality and out of the blue claims to be transgender. I think parents could take it all in stride if it wasn't for the medicalization, as the treatments are often experimental, permanent and even dangerous to one's health. Another troubling aspect about a child suddenly claiming to be transgender is that they typically are affirmed by doctors and therapists as transgender very quickly, as well as being quickly approved for medical treatment, with little or no therapy, even of they had never before shown any inclination toward stereotypical opposite-sex behavior or preferences.
You may be on to something when you state your daughter could be keeping something from you, as many of our kids have suffered some sort of trauma which seems to make an opposite-sex identity very attractive to them and/or makes it seem as though becoming the opposite sex or a new person is the answer to their troubles.
So, despite being a supporter of the LGBTQ community, you are wise to be concerned. Wanting to ensure that your child gets the safest, best, most thorough and most appropriate medical and psychological care is not transphobic, although others may accuse you of transphobia when they learn you are not ready to sign your kid up for a lifetime of ongoing, invasive, experimental medical treatment.
I invite you to join the forum, where you can communicate in our members-only area with other like-minded parents whose kids are in similar situations. To join, simply click on the word "register" in the black band towards the top of this page. Once you have entered your email address and chosen a username and password, your account must then be manually activated by a moderator. This can take anywhere from an hour or two to a day, so please be patient at that stage.
I hope you'll consider registering. All the best to you and your daughter.
