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Joining The Support Board
I keep messaging...I'm locked out its indiegirl1965 please e mail me with a password thanks
Hello , I’m new here, I seem to be registered but do not see the members only section yet. My 11 yr old daughter just told me last that she wants to be a boy. She had been showing signs in the last
Couple months of wanting to cut her hair short and wearing baggy clothes but, I just thought it was normal puberty related angst. I feel like I’ve been punched in the gut because she has shown no signs of any gender confusion prior to a couple months ago , she has also been depressed and had a lot of anxiety in the last 3-4 months as well, again, seemed to coincide with starting her period but she has also been spending way too much time online and I know she often chats with her online friends about the idea of being gay, etc. I monitor her use fairly closely and talk to her when I see in appropriate content but perhaps she’s being exposed to ideas that I’m not aware of. I don’t want to dismiss her but I don’t want to encourage a passing phase, if that’s what it is. How do I know?
I think my account may have to be activated? Not sure where I can enter my activation code?
Hello and welcome to Mandy1104 and LovingAussieMom,

Sorry for the delay, your accounts have now been activated. Please post back if you still cannot access the members-only area.

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I keep messaging...I'm locked out its indiegirl1965 please e mail me with a password thanks
Indiegirl, sorry for the delay. Hang tight, I will see what I can do. I will message back soon.
Hello - My daughter Logan(14) is going through what seems to be a VERY rapid onset of Gender Dysphoria. She announced last month that she is transgender and relates more to being a boy than a girl. We went from circle skirts, dresses and hair braiding this past September to wanting to be a boy (cutting hair, binding breasts etc.). This came as a shock to my husband and I. Logan is a very kind and reasonable young girl - a good friend, wise soul and wonderful daughter. Recently, she started a new school and has a new group of friends in the LGBTQ community that has accepted her. Don't get me wrong, we are very accepting of the LGBTQ community but it feels as if things are spinning out of control very quickly. I can't help but wonder if this is a result of social contagion. I also wonder if there is more to her story - something that she afraid to tell us. I think this is a strong possibility.

We of course are supportive of Logan and want to do the right thing. We just have a lot of questions and are not sure where to turn. We feel like we are alone in this, working around a very complex (and perhaps outdated) medical system and frightened. We would love to join this forum. Thanks!!!
Hello, guest.

It is very troubling and confusing when a child takes a sudden 90-degree turn in their life and personality and out of the blue claims to be transgender. I think parents could take it all in stride if it wasn't for the medicalization, as the treatments are often experimental, permanent and even dangerous to one's health. Another troubling aspect about a child suddenly claiming to be transgender is that they typically are affirmed by doctors and therapists as transgender very quickly, as well as being quickly approved for medical treatment, with little or no therapy, even of they had never before shown any inclination toward stereotypical opposite-sex behavior or preferences.

You may be on to something when you state your daughter could be keeping something from you, as many of our kids have suffered some sort of trauma which seems to make an opposite-sex identity very attractive to them and/or makes it seem as though becoming the opposite sex or a new person is the answer to their troubles.

So, despite being a supporter of the LGBTQ community, you are wise to be concerned. Wanting to ensure that your child gets the safest, best, most thorough and most appropriate medical and psychological care is not transphobic, although others may accuse you of transphobia when they learn you are not ready to sign your kid up for a lifetime of ongoing, invasive, experimental medical treatment.

I invite you to join the forum, where you can communicate in our members-only area with other like-minded parents whose kids are in similar situations. To join, simply click on the word "register" in the black band towards the top of this page. Once you have entered your email address and chosen a username and password, your account must then be manually activated by a moderator. This can take anywhere from an hour or two to a day, so please be patient at that stage.

I hope you'll consider registering. All the best to you and your daughter.
Hello to a new member who registered within the last 12 hours or so... I am so sorry but I accidentally deleted your account rather than activating it. I do not remember your chosen user name to address you personally, and I cannot figure out how to retrieve any information from the deleted account, or how to restore it. Please register again. I am so sorry. I certainly hope you will see this message and re-register. Again, I am so sorry.

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