Joining The Support Board

[HD26]

I'm watching my 23 year old daughter basically kill herself. She told me she always knew but did not have the right words to express herself.  She has always been very shy,  anxious and in while away in college got depressed. Jr/snr year Broke up with her boyfriend and dated a girl. Before we could get our heads around that, she broke up with the girl & moved back home and announced she was trans. Because of her age my hands are tied.  She even found herself a counselor who told her where to get hormones. Everything I say is met with "I'll ask what he thinks" .. she is planning on hormone therapy. I met the counselor once and he told me i had to call her a "he" and that he would kick me out if I caused discomfort to my daughter.   My beautiful girl is gone. I'm left with a shell who is always on her phone watching.  .

[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

I'm watching my 23 year old daughter basically kill herself. She told me she always knew but did not have the right words to express herself.  She has always been very shy,  anxious and in while away in college got depressed. Jr/snr year Broke up with her boyfriend and dated a girl. Before we could get our heads around that, she broke up with the girl & moved back home and announced she was trans. Because of her age my hands are tied.  She even found herself a counselor who told her where to get hormones. Everything I say is met with "I'll ask what he thinks" .. she is planning on hormone therapy. I met the counselor once and he told me i had to call her a "he" and that he would kick me out if I caused discomfort to my daughter.   My beautiful girl is gone. I'm left with a shell who is always on her phone watching.  .

Hello, HD26, your account has been activated.

I'm so sorry about your daughter. Your story sounds similar to so many of ours. It is especially tragic when this happens to our kdis at or after age 18, because hormones and other medical treatments are available on demand through ICATH (Informed Consent for Access to Trans Health). As you put it, parents' hands are tied. 

While there's not too much that you can do, other than loving your daughter and doing what you can to keep an open path and communication for her to return to herself, you have come to the right place for support, friendship, news and advice. Everyone here knows you are not phobic or cruel, and understands what you are going through and what you are dealing with.

Welcome. You are not alone.

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Hi all. I am glad to have found this board, but I honestly wish I hadn’t had to, and I wish there weren’t so many of you here as well. It is nice to not feel so alone, but I hate that there are others going through this as well. Our 15 year old daughter announced a few months ago that she is trans. We know that is not who she truly is. She has never shown any inclination of this before. We have been reading book after book, and searching high and low for anything that can help us. We did finally find a counselor willing to work with her and take a neutral position and work on anxiety and depression to start with. We definitely need any help we can get. Right now, we are just praying without ceasing

A belated welcome to you, ISA.

I'm glad you found this forum but sad that you needed to. You are not alone.

[akx]

I just registered but I see a few comments referring to moderator approvals, how do I get approved?

[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

I just registered but I see a few comments referring to moderator approvals, how do I get approved?

Welcome.


Your account has been activated.

[Shaggydog]

I also just registered and can not see the members board. Do we need to post here to be approved?

[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

I also just registered and can not see the members board. Do we need to post here to be approved?

All accounts are activated manually, so the time newly registered members must wait for their memberships to be activated depends upon the availability of a moderator.

Thanks for your patience. Your account has been activated.

[Emz]

I apologise if I am being dim but I cannot see any link to click on in the info below in order to register.


Our Bulletin Board is run for parents and families by parents and families who share the experience of coping with a child, teenager or young adult who believes she or he is transgender. 

Anyone in that situation is welcome to join us. But first:

Some points about confidentiality:

The board was set up as a place for us to discuss our stories, issues and problems in a respectful and non-judgemental space. However, we have no way to verify the identity of members. 

We Cannot Guarantee Confidentiality.

Therefore, we cannot guarantee that everyone on the board will be there in good faith. It is probably safe to operate under the assumption that the forum is being watched by those who would wish us ill. 

Choose an anonymous user name, don't reveal identifying details about yourself, and use appropriate caution when interacting with others on the forum. 

The system requires a valid email address as part of the registration process. This email is stored in case you forget your password, but is not visible to other members unless you explicitly choose to make it visible.

The system logs all personal messages and emails sent from the board.  These are not visible to other members, but can be seen by the moderators and may be examined if you are suspected of abusive behaviour. The moderators may examine the message logs to check that personal messages are not being abused. The moderators have not wish to police what people think or say, but will try protect the members from abuse and take whatever steps they feel are needed.

What's on the board stays on the board.

We ask you to respect the privacy and confidentiality of other members of the board.
 
By registering on this discussion system you agree that you will not disclose, share, download or copy any information or text posted on the discussion system by other users without their explicit permission. You will not describe, discuss or report information about the system, users or material that they have posted. 

Any information you provide on these forums will not be disclosed to any third party without your complete consent, although the staff cannot be held liable for any hacking attempt in which your data is compromised, or for the behaviour of other members of the board.

By continuing with the sign up process you agree to the above rules and any others that the Administrator specifies.

If you wish to join us, you can click the registration link above. After you have filled in and submitted your details, you will receive an email. If you follow the instructions in the email, your membership will then be held up until a moderator activates it.

Please be patient. Once you are registered, your account must be manually activated by a forum moderator. This can take anywhere from a few minutes to a day or two, depending upon the availability of our volunteer moderators.

After activation, you will be able to see the members-only sections of the board.

[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

I apologise if I am being dim but I cannot see any link to click on in the info below in order to register.


Our Bulletin Board is run for parents and families by parents and families who share the experience of coping with a child, teenager or young adult who believes she or he is transgender. 

Anyone in that situation is welcome to join us. But first:

Some points about confidentiality:

The board was set up as a place for us to discuss our stories, issues and problems in a respectful and non-judgemental space. However, we have no way to verify the identity of members. 

We Cannot Guarantee Confidentiality.

Therefore, we cannot guarantee that everyone on the board will be there in good faith. It is probably safe to operate under the assumption that the forum is being watched by those who would wish us ill. 

Choose an anonymous user name, don't reveal identifying details about yourself, and use appropriate caution when interacting with others on the forum. 

The system requires a valid email address as part of the registration process. This email is stored in case you forget your password, but is not visible to other members unless you explicitly choose to make it visible.

The system logs all personal messages and emails sent from the board.  These are not visible to other members, but can be seen by the moderators and may be examined if you are suspected of abusive behaviour. The moderators may examine the message logs to check that personal messages are not being abused. The moderators have not wish to police what people think or say, but will try protect the members from abuse and take whatever steps they feel are needed.

What's on the board stays on the board.

We ask you to respect the privacy and confidentiality of other members of the board.
 
By registering on this discussion system you agree that you will not disclose, share, download or copy any information or text posted on the discussion system by other users without their explicit permission. You will not describe, discuss or report information about the system, users or material that they have posted. 

Any information you provide on these forums will not be disclosed to any third party without your complete consent, although the staff cannot be held liable for any hacking attempt in which your data is compromised, or for the behaviour of other members of the board.

By continuing with the sign up process you agree to the above rules and any others that the Administrator specifies.

If you wish to join us, you can click the registration link above. After you have filled in and submitted your details, you will receive an email. If you follow the instructions in the email, your membership will then be held up until a moderator activates it.

Please be patient. Once you are registered, your account must be manually activated by a forum moderator. This can take anywhere from a few minutes to a day or two, depending upon the availability of our volunteer moderators.

After activation, you will be able to see the members-only sections of the board.

Hi, Emz. 

To join the board, look up toward the top of this page and you will see a black bar going across the page. In that black bar, toward the left-hand side, is the word "register." Click on "register" and follow the prompts to create an account. Once you have completed that process, your account must also be activated by a moderator. The activation process is manual, so you may have to wait a few hours (or more) depending upon moderator availability, before you can access the members-only area.

I hope this info is helpful. If you follow the directions above and are still having issues joining/registering, just post back here again and we will figure something out.

Best wishes, and welcome to the forum.

[MartinH]

I'm trying to register, but the form is rejecting my valid email address - can you tell me how to get past this? It's an email at live.co.uk which is legit.

[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

I'm trying to register, but the form is rejecting my valid email address - can you tell me how to get past this? It's an email at live.co.uk which is legit.

Hi, Martin.

Could it be that you already registered using the screenname jon (all lowercase letters)? Someone registered in December with a similar IP address and a similar live.co.uk email address as your MartinH screenname. Try signing in with your usual email address, using the username jon, then let me know. Once we figure it out, I can delete this reply so that this info does not remain on the web.
Just let me know.