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My story is about the same with my daughter.  Beautiful, healthy, happy, very feminine in her maturation. No signs of ever wanting to be male, then BAM, a sterile scripted letter at 14 -15.  We had just moved and she had no friends and then she tried on boys clothes at a new friends sleep over and they all started hugging her and claiming that they understood how she was feeling and that they would support her.  I became the enemy when I told her it did not seem right to all of a sudden walk away from everything that she was very happy with, just to be cook with new friends.  Problem here is that she just turned 18, and told her friends to call her by a male name.  Ugh. I can't repeat some of it.  She was diagnoised with ADD, anxiety, & depression.  She cuts, threatens to kill herself, cut all her hair off, stopped shaving her legs and wears baggy, ugly clothes.  She complains that she is ugly no matter what? And the worst for me is that she has taken on the language of a very sexist and crude person. She loved theatre and has been in ballets, plays ever since she was 3.  She now hates it all and only wants to be behind the scenes.  She is addicted to chat rooms and connecting with people out of state that game.  School is falling through.  She has a 504 due to the ADD anxiety & depression so she is still very much under my care.  She has a phone and talks to someone I have no idea who it is.  She has gone to neighbors and teachers and told them that I am abusive which is such a shock as I have a MA in Women, Gender & Sexuality and am a national anti-violence anti-trafficking advocate and speaker.  I have had counseling that tells me to be honest with her but understanding of what she might be going through. I actually tell her that I get that she is confused and experimenting, but I do not agree because I not seen anything organic about her claim to be trans.  How do I help her?  She is 18 and needs help.

My daughter is 17 adn just told me she is a boy.  I am so schocked.  I know she hung out with LGBTQ friends but being open minded I did not object.  She is very sensitive and does not make friends easily so I am glad she has friends.  She has anxiety, ADD but otherwise veru smart.  My husband blames me for her anxiety.  She has transformed from a nice girl to being so rude and sexist.  She has her breast at 11 and hated them because kids at school teased her big breasts.  I thought it was normal because I used to hate having menses too.  

I read that with psychotherapy this can be treated.  Anyone has any success with it?