28-May-2023, 08:19 PM
Hello
I'm desperate and don't know where to turn. My daughter will be 18 in March and wants ALL OF IT! She wants hormones, surgery and all the glorious euphoria she sees posted on social media. She is 1 of 5 in a friend group saying they are trans and this child was "all girl" growing up. She never had any leaning toward boy stuff, toys, clothes etc. At 17 she wants a boyfriend desperately and has never even held hands romantically. Its so sad because she is presenting in a way that pushes boys away from her. The kinds of boys she's interested in don't want a a trans boy, they want a GIRL! When this began I asked, "When did you start feeling like this?" She said, "I saw a TikTok and I liked it." REALLY!? How the hell does a kid see a 1 minute video and decide to permanently alter their entire being? We affirmed at first and for about a year and a half until doing some research about side effects and regret. Now realizing that my daughter has fallen victim to the social contagion. We've been trying to appeal to her common sense and show the other side that no one talks about on social media. The surgery gone wrong, the horrific side effects and the lifetime medicalization that she'd be subjected to. But she's a child so she thinks she already knows. Her heels are dug in deep and I regret ever giving this any attention. I wish I'd never affirmed and bought a binder for her to deform her chest with. I want to go back in time and say no to the hair and the clothes and tell her she is feeling normal thoughts at 15 of being insecure and not happy with a changing body. I want to go back and take the phone away, change schools, get away from the toxic friend group and notice the changes I missed because I didn't think it was a problem. I want a re-do with Covid-19 so instead of trapping her in the house with a phone to scroll TikTok, I'd let her out to see other kids and socialize. The guilt is overwhelming and I fear it will be there until the end of my days. Does anyone else cry everyday?
I'm desperate and don't know where to turn. My daughter will be 18 in March and wants ALL OF IT! She wants hormones, surgery and all the glorious euphoria she sees posted on social media. She is 1 of 5 in a friend group saying they are trans and this child was "all girl" growing up. She never had any leaning toward boy stuff, toys, clothes etc. At 17 she wants a boyfriend desperately and has never even held hands romantically. Its so sad because she is presenting in a way that pushes boys away from her. The kinds of boys she's interested in don't want a a trans boy, they want a GIRL! When this began I asked, "When did you start feeling like this?" She said, "I saw a TikTok and I liked it." REALLY!? How the hell does a kid see a 1 minute video and decide to permanently alter their entire being? We affirmed at first and for about a year and a half until doing some research about side effects and regret. Now realizing that my daughter has fallen victim to the social contagion. We've been trying to appeal to her common sense and show the other side that no one talks about on social media. The surgery gone wrong, the horrific side effects and the lifetime medicalization that she'd be subjected to. But she's a child so she thinks she already knows. Her heels are dug in deep and I regret ever giving this any attention. I wish I'd never affirmed and bought a binder for her to deform her chest with. I want to go back in time and say no to the hair and the clothes and tell her she is feeling normal thoughts at 15 of being insecure and not happy with a changing body. I want to go back and take the phone away, change schools, get away from the toxic friend group and notice the changes I missed because I didn't think it was a problem. I want a re-do with Covid-19 so instead of trapping her in the house with a phone to scroll TikTok, I'd let her out to see other kids and socialize. The guilt is overwhelming and I fear it will be there until the end of my days. Does anyone else cry everyday?
