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[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

As a Grandfather I feel helpless since my daughter in law has assumed the role of "bestie" instead of Mother and even said that she is Gay.  My Son does not know what to do and just told my Granddaughter that he disagrees with the whole cult but continues to love and accept her as his daughter not his son.  How can I as a third party encourage my Granddaughter to embrace the reality that she is a beautiful woman and not a young boy.

It's so frightening and frustrating, isn't it? Parents feel so helpless, and I imagine that feeling of helplessness is multiplied when you're a grandparent and don't feel as influential or involved as a parent. 

It's wonderful that you are involved and want to be there for your granddaughter. My brief advice is to stay in her life as much as possible. Continue nurturing her and keeping your relationship with her strong. Be that person in her life who never refers to her as a boy, if you can lovingly walk that line without getting access to her cut off. Take her on confidence-building outings, just the two of you. Be there for your son, as well, since it sounds like the two of you are on the same page.

I encourage you to create a membership for this message board and post your question in the members-only area. Forum members don't visit this public area all that often. A group effort of advice from multiple members will be much better than the quick advice I've given here. To join, click on "register" in the black bar across the top and follow the prompts. It may take  several hours for your membership to be manually activated, so please be patient with the activation process. I think you'll find the members-only area helpful. Your son may be interested in joining, as well.

Best wishes.