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[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

I am SO happy to have found this group. Our 14-year-old daughter told us about a month ago she wants to change her pronouns to he/him and change her name. She was a very girly little girl, but since adolescence she has become much less feminine. Which is fine - I don't like gender stereotypes either! She was extremely angry when she started her period, and she vociferously says she doesn't want kids. She is dressing in baggy clothes and wearing her hair to cover her face, but less than a year ago she was really into cos play with frilly dresses and wigs. We've been in watch and wait mode, but now she is telling us she wants to pursue double mastectomy when she turns 18. She seems to be getting more serious about what we were hoping would just be a phase she would shift out of once she started high school. As I read more about gender "affirming" care, I've become more and more distressed about where we can go to help navigate this. I have so many questions about what is it we are actually affirming, while we are encouraging our daughters to reject their female bodies! I feel so sad that she is in danger of hijacking her high school experience, and we can't have normal parent/daughter conversations with her about normal growing up problems. My wish for her is to love her body, to grow into her sexuality and experience it positively. There is so much media trans-positive messaging, it's a nightmare to navigate, and we just have no idea how to talk to her about all of this. I can't wait until my account is approved and I can explore here to get advice and provider recommendations.

Hello and welcome.

I'm sorry to hear about what your daughter is going through. I hope you'll find the forum helpful. 

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