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[Marge Bouvier Simpson]

This board has confirmed I am not crazy!!  

I am the parent of a 25 year old natal female who suddenly realized while off pursuing her masters degree in Canada that she is transgender. Never any hint of this prior to her announcement at 23 years old. Being so far away, it was near impossible to question, intercept and/or challenge. Any questioning it from our side ended with her in tears and threatening suicide or claiming we caused her to have a panic attack  

She's now been on T treatments for a little over a year and had top surgery a few months ago.  I suggested family counseling and her response was "Yes, I love therapy!" however, after talking with my therapist, I realized my daughter was expecting an affirmative family therapy. When I told her we probably wouldn't be as affirmative as she is used to and we may have questions/challenges if we did therapy, she thanked us for the consideration and she said she wouldn't enjoy therapy with us, but she still loves us (thankfully she has never hated us or tried to freeze us out). After reading Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier, I am so glad to find there is a support group that isn't all about being affirmative! I was starting to think I was crazy for not accepting this based on the statement by her that it is fact. I'm completely okay if she really is trans; however, due to the suddenness of this announcement, I still have a very hard time believing it.

Hello, CCharles96, and a belated welcome to the forum.

Apologies, for some reason I am just now seeing your post. 

I'm so sorry for all you've been through. Please continue posting if you'd like support from like-minded parents. I recommend posting in the members-only area, where your story will be more readily seen by fellow members. Your account was activated some weeks ago, so you have access to the members-only area.

Again, welcome. You are not alone. And no, you are not crazy.