16-Jan-2021, 06:30 PM
I'm really glad to have found this group. I feel like the last 5 years of my life have been an emotional roller coaster and it good to read others know exactly what this is like.
When my daughter was 17, she abruptly broke up with her boyfriend of 18 months and told him she was gay. She cut her hair short and started experimenting with relationships with girls. Before this, she was sweet, had a lot of friends and never got in any trouble.(she still never gets in trouble and is an excellent student)
Then came so many phases; the vegetarian phase, gay phase, goth phase. She became more judgmental and irritable and only hung out with the cool LGBT kids. She went off to college and ended up rooming with a trans girl. I had no idea. They ended up having a relationship and sex. she decided she liked that she (the roommate) had a penis too, in her words the best of both worlds. She was bisexual for the summer. fast forward to sophomore year, now she says she is transgender.
I want to be supportive, but there have been so many phases, I just don't know what to believe. She has been in therapy for 2 years and the therapist has uncovered some things. She apparently was abused by her boyfriend.
I do believe young girls becoming transgender today is a phenomenon that is growing at epidemic rates. I can't recall a single interest she had in anything masculine growing up or any time she expressed being uncomfortable as a girl. I also think the she has had difficulty finding friends and fitting in a group and the transgender community at her school has filled this void for her. It is cult like and encouraged by social media Tumblr etc.
I don't know where to turn and feel I will lose her.
When my daughter was 17, she abruptly broke up with her boyfriend of 18 months and told him she was gay. She cut her hair short and started experimenting with relationships with girls. Before this, she was sweet, had a lot of friends and never got in any trouble.(she still never gets in trouble and is an excellent student)
Then came so many phases; the vegetarian phase, gay phase, goth phase. She became more judgmental and irritable and only hung out with the cool LGBT kids. She went off to college and ended up rooming with a trans girl. I had no idea. They ended up having a relationship and sex. she decided she liked that she (the roommate) had a penis too, in her words the best of both worlds. She was bisexual for the summer. fast forward to sophomore year, now she says she is transgender.
I want to be supportive, but there have been so many phases, I just don't know what to believe. She has been in therapy for 2 years and the therapist has uncovered some things. She apparently was abused by her boyfriend.
I do believe young girls becoming transgender today is a phenomenon that is growing at epidemic rates. I can't recall a single interest she had in anything masculine growing up or any time she expressed being uncomfortable as a girl. I also think the she has had difficulty finding friends and fitting in a group and the transgender community at her school has filled this void for her. It is cult like and encouraged by social media Tumblr etc.
I don't know where to turn and feel I will lose her.
