07-Dec-2020, 09:43 PM
(This post was last modified: 07-Dec-2020, 09:51 PM by Marge Bouvier Simpson.)
(07-Dec-2020, 06:51 AM)Needinghelp Wrote: So thankful to have found this group. I have read so many that are exactly like our story. She went to college changed her name and has asked all her teachers to call her the new name and use the proper pronouns. I found out because the school sent an email with the changed name at first she said she didn’t want us to know until she was older because she knew we didn’t understand but that has now changed to her not feeling we support or respect her since we don’t use the new name and pronouns. We tell her we don’t understand it and it’s not going to happen in our home. We have a 6 year old to protect from all of this. We don’t want him hearing about any of it. She has asked for me to take her shopping so she could buy clothes that she feels comfortable in. She said she wanted guys pants and shirts. I’m not doing that. She said it makes her sad that we don’t support her. I just don’t feel in my heart as a mom that this is who she is and i have a hard time supporting that. She’s a gifted kid so she goes from one extreme to another and researched in depth on topics. She’s a gamer and also has lots of online chat groups. She’s 18 and in college so i can’t control that. I’m nervous about her coming home for Christmas we want things to be normal again and we don’t want our 6 year olds Holiday ruined over this. So confused and i feel so lost. How do we know if this is real of just a phase? She has PCOS which i have read can cause body dysphoria or gender issues. We took her to her gynecologist and she just switched her birth control pills and said we needed to seek family counseling. I’ve tracked hormonal changes based on when she talks about these issues. It’s usually week 3 of each month. I feel she’s got a possible hormone imbalance but the dr didn’t even check that. I’m glad to read so many parents are in the same boat as me. I just want off this boat and back to normal again. I’m begging for help here.
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(07-Dec-2020, 02:18 PM)Chicken Wrote: Hi,
I've never been on a forum like this before. Over the last year my daughter has told me she doesn't feel like a girl. She's obsessed with looking at trans boys on Instagram and tick tock. Cut all her hair off during lockdown in her room late at night. Only wears hoodies up now. She won't talk to me and refuses to allow me to tell her dad she's wants to be a boy or anyone else. At her age I hated wearing a bra, makeup etc but when I try to get my experiences across to her for another view she shuts me down. It's breaking my heart to see her do this to herself and her push me away. I need help. How to open communication, stop internet influences etc. She has suspected Asperger's and anxiety. Is very strong willed, the more I try and tackle it the more she will rebel.
Hi chicken, welcome to the forum. Your account has been activated.
I'm sorry to hear about all you and your daughter are dealing with. I encourage you to post your story in the members-only area, where it is more likely to be seen by other parent members and you are more likely to get responses.
Welcome to the forum. You are not alone.
