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Hi- I’m another mum of a 14 year old daughter who previously showed no signs of being unhappy as a girl. In fact, in childhood, she was a very girly girl! She changed schools at 11, just as puberty started to hit and both struggled socially and developed acne/needed braces/needed glasses etc, all of which made her very unhappy within herself. She has always enjoyed living in fantasy worlds, pretending to be different characters etc, and gets obsessive about TV shows, other pop culture.

At 11, 2 months after starting at her new school, she ran away from home. The following year she threatened suicide (was in a very toxic friendship with a “best friend”), the next year she announced she was asexual and non binary (this was two months after starting to go to the school’s LBGT group because her current friend was bi- she spent weeks asking me if it was OK for her to go because she was straight!) and now she has announced that she is not a girl; she is a boy. She is uncomfortable being called “she” and wants to bind her breasts (which I won’t allow). The school have embraced this whole heartedly.

She was seeing a psychologist last year who felt she is ASD, but my daughter doesn’t want to be formally diagnosed.

We started calling her by her chosen non binary name over the summer, but now I am wondering if this is just reinforcing and normalising all these beliefs.
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Hi Bonnie151, your account has been activated. Thanks for your patience. You now have access to the members-only forums.

As for the information you've given about your daughter, I am sure it sounds very, very similar to many of us. Each case is unique yet there are components to this which are seen over and over and again in our kids: having a tough time with puberty, autism/Asperger's, cutting or eating disorders, looking for a group to fit in with, starting out "lite" (pan or bi) which escalates to identifying as the opposite sex. These are a few I see in your story. Now that your membership has been activated, let me know if you'd like me to move your post to the members-only forums where it cannot be seen by public readers; also you will be more likely to receive responses to your questions if your post is in the members-only area.

Welcome and thanks for joining.
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Thank you Marge. I’m happy for my above post to stay here. We’ve got so much going on just now with all this, but once I have time to catch my breath I’ll do another post on the main boards.
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It's 3:35am and I've just found this forum after searching for what seems like an eternity. Our story sounds like so many others here. Honestly, it's a relief to finally find some other parents to talk to. Everywhere we've turned to, counselors, school, pediatrician, etc, they've all just affirmed our daughter's decision meanwhile treating us like we're not good parents if we don't go along with this. Our 15 year old daughter who a year and a half ago spent days looking for the perfect dress for her brothers graduation and wearing two piece swimsuits at the beach told us June 30th that she's trans. In less than a year she went from happy girly girl to being trapped in a girls body. I could and will share much more eventually but for now in just grateful to have found this forum and a glimmer of hope.
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Hello guest, welcome.

I'm so sorry to hear about what your daughter and your family are going through. Your story does sound very similar to many others. Kids come up with a shocking, completely out-of-character declaration and everyone who doesn't really know the kid insists it is 100% true, but the parents who know their child, know it is out of character and suspect the trans declaration is some kind of cry for help or indicative of some other problem are shamed, vilified and called phobic. It's completely nuts, IMHO. It's quite outrageous and would almost be amusing if risky medicalization and permanent body modifications weren't the end result.

If you haven't already, I encourage you to sign up as a member of the forum. Once your membership is activated, you'll have access to the members-only area, where you'll be able to communicate with like-minded parents who are going through situations similar to yours, and discuss issues more in-depth and in an atmosphere that's not so public as this portion of the forum.
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(27-Oct-2019, 03:46 PM)Marge Bouvier Simpson Wrote: Hello guest, welcome.

I'm so sorry to hear about what your daughter and your family are going through. Your story does sound very similar to many others. Kids come up with a shocking, completely out-of-character declaration and everyone who doesn't really know the kid insists it is 100% true, but the parents who know their child, know it is out of character and suspect the trans declaration is some kind of cry for help or indicative of some other problem are shamed, vilified and called phobic. It's completely nuts, IMHO. It's quite outrageous and would almost be amusing if risky medicalization and permanent body modifications weren't the end result.

If you haven't already, I encourage you to sign up as a member of the forum. Once your membership is activated, you'll have access to the members-only area, where you'll be able to communicate with like-minded parents who are going through situations similar to yours, and discuss issues more in-depth and in an atmosphere that's not so public as this portion of the forum.
Thank you. I have registered, just waiting for it to be activated. I look forward to finding resources and other parents to talk to.
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(27-Oct-2019, 03:46 PM)Marge Bouvier Simpson Wrote: Hello guest, welcome.

I'm so sorry to hear about what your daughter and your family are going through. Your story does sound very similar to many others. Kids come up with a shocking, completely out-of-character declaration and everyone who doesn't really know the kid insists it is 100% true, but the parents who know their child, know it is out of character and suspect the trans declaration is some kind of cry for help or indicative of some other problem are shamed, vilified and called phobic. It's completely nuts, IMHO. It's quite outrageous and would almost be amusing if risky medicalization and permanent body modifications weren't the end result.

If you haven't already, I encourage you to sign up as a member of the forum. Once your membership is activated, you'll have access to the members-only area, where you'll be able to communicate with like-minded parents who are going through situations similar to yours, and discuss issues more in-depth and in an atmosphere that's not so public as this portion of the forum.
My husband had now also registered and it waiting for approval
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Hi Jennyfair24, I believe both accounts have now been activated. Let me know if cannot access the members-only forums and we will see what we can do to get you in.
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(12-Oct-2017, 09:30 PM)admin Wrote: The Gender Critical Support Board is run for parents and families by parents and families who share the experience of coping with a child, teenager or young adult who believes she or he is transgender. 

We are critical of the phenomenon of transgender youth growing at epidemic rates. 

The forum provides support for parents and families who would like a thoughtful and cautious approach to intervention for their gender dysphoric child. 

Most of the content is only visible to members of the board. This, publicly visible, forum is here to share what the board is about and provide a space for the members to have a voice.

Together, we share our stories, promote public awareness and respectful protest, and seek solutions and answers to questions. 

If you have a child who has desisted from a trans identification, your presence is especially welcome on the forum, and we hope you will join us. You can help other parents learn how to help their child resolve his or her distress without resorting to life-long medical intervention. 

There is strength in numbers. If parents find each other, we can offer each other support and know we are not alone. We can have a louder voice when speaking to schools, professionals, and policy makers. Please come find us. We look forward to seeing you there.

Hello,
       I am new to this forum. I am so excited to find this site. My daughter is 19 and has decided to be a boy. She came out as a lesbian when she was in 7th grade. She stopped shaving her legs about a year ago. My husband and I do not have a clue how to handle this. She tried to commit suicide in September. We have since have avoided saying her name and try to to use any pronouns. She claims to have dysphoria moments. she is very non-social. Has no friends and goes no where. She stays on her phone all the time.  We refuse to buy her a binder but have bought some male clothing. I feel so alone in this. She is in college and not doing as well as she could be but she is passing. Any thoughts would be welcome.
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Hello gm48, welcome to the forum.

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's troubles. Your account has been activated, if you would like to continue this discussion in the members-only area.
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