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[luckymom]

I wanted to join this group to share my experience with a daughter who was convinced she was a boy when she was 16, but seems to be doing okay now away at college at 19. Please let me know if I can help anyone. I don't have a magic bullet for this problem, but hope others will have hope that it can turn around.

Hi Lucky Mom 

I am so glad to hear she is doing well. When you say she is doing ok -  does she still identify as a boy or has she returned to her biological gender?  If she did return, when did that happen?
Thanks!

Hi Melissa. So, she is no longer insisting she's a boy or referring to herself in the masculine. When referring to herself she refers to herself as female. That being said, her Facebook page still uses "they" "them." She still uses her neutral sounding nickname with her friends, which is fine because we have called her that nickname since birth as well. I still refer to her by her full name and reference her as "she" with no objections. I haven't had a discussion on gender with her since she left for college. I don't think she will quite admit she was wrong. I just know she has backed away from all the scary stuff we dealt with in high school. It has been a slow progression, but I think the real turning point for her was when she started dating a biological "cisgender" boy in 12th grade. All the trans stuff slowly started to fade away slowly. She kept up the façade with friends for a while, and she may still be doing this a bit with old trans friends, but she's no longer obsessed with this issue. I lucked out.