26-May-2018, 04:30 PM
Hello, I am new to this site, and new to the concept ROGD, a term that I just learned this week. It describes what has happened to my daughter perfectly..
Our daughter announced herself as Trans at 15/16. She said she didn't want to take hormones, didn't want to be a boy but didn't want to be a girl either. Then it became more pronounced. She tried her hardest to look like a boy, became very argumentative and depressed. Changed her name the day she went to college and now wants to take hormones. She says she can't believe we aren't supportive. She is almost 20, but also extremely young and sheltered. At first we tried to find a therapist and they all supported her without questioning. It seemed so irresponsible... We found a psychiatrist who began treating her symptoms of depression and anxiety, and she recommended we stop talking with our daughter about any of this and to placate her and use the they pronoun, etc. This eased tensions but it reinforced her beliefs. Now she feels fully certain she wants to be male, (although she still says she wants to look male, but not be male. She says its the secondary sexual characteristics that make her upset... of being a female. I think she wants to stay young... and androgynous, but she wants a beard?) She says her friends at college are supportive and that is why she wants to make the transition now. She says if she doesn't do it now she worries she never will. Are we too late?
Our daughter announced herself as Trans at 15/16. She said she didn't want to take hormones, didn't want to be a boy but didn't want to be a girl either. Then it became more pronounced. She tried her hardest to look like a boy, became very argumentative and depressed. Changed her name the day she went to college and now wants to take hormones. She says she can't believe we aren't supportive. She is almost 20, but also extremely young and sheltered. At first we tried to find a therapist and they all supported her without questioning. It seemed so irresponsible... We found a psychiatrist who began treating her symptoms of depression and anxiety, and she recommended we stop talking with our daughter about any of this and to placate her and use the they pronoun, etc. This eased tensions but it reinforced her beliefs. Now she feels fully certain she wants to be male, (although she still says she wants to look male, but not be male. She says its the secondary sexual characteristics that make her upset... of being a female. I think she wants to stay young... and androgynous, but she wants a beard?) She says her friends at college are supportive and that is why she wants to make the transition now. She says if she doesn't do it now she worries she never will. Are we too late?