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I’m a 42 male and I have an 11 year old daughter who last year told my wife she wanted to go by the name Noah instead of her given name. My wife is on board with buying her binders and affirming her decision because she says, “she loves her unconditionally” and I say you can love her but as parents we don’t have to do everything our 11 year old wants but we should not encourage the behavior. My wife has said that she will not put her on hormone therapy or allow her to have any medical procedures until she is an adult. I’ve read Abigail’s book and I’m trying to get my wife to read it but she says it’s unlikely to changed her opinion. I’ve also made the argument to my wife that if it was another type of dysmorphia like anorexia you do not affirm it. Not sure how I can get my wife to understand.
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(08-Aug-2021, 07:55 PM)koolzero Wrote: I’m a 42 male and I have an 11 year old daughter who last year told my wife she wanted to go by the name Noah instead of her given name. My wife is on board with buying her binders and affirming her decision because she says, “she loves her unconditionally” and I say you can love her but as parents we don’t have to do everything our 11 year old wants but we should not encourage the behavior. My wife has said that she will not put her on hormone therapy or allow her to have any medical procedures until she is an adult. I’ve read Abigail’s book and I’m trying to get my wife to read it but she says it’s unlikely to changed her opinion. I’ve also made the argument to my wife that if it was another type of dysmorphia like anorexia you do not affirm it. Not sure how I can get my wife to understand.

Welcome to the board, koolzero. Your account has been activated. I invite you to post in the members-only area where forum members are more likely to see your post and respond to it.

It is difficult when spouses aren't on the same page. I hope your wife will consider, with an open mind, the data your provide her. 
Best wishes, and welcome to the forum.
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(15-Jun-2021, 05:21 PM)Drowningonmyown Wrote: I'm new here My 16 year old son announced last August after spending 5 months isolated in his room on the Internet that he believed he was trans,To say we were shocked is an understatement anyway we struggled to understand where this had come from and after a lengthy talk and a few uncomfortable weeks he said he didn't think he was just felt he was unhappy with himself there is  history of depression and anxiety Anyway another 9 months of isolation and Internet and a recent friend who has come out as gender fluid and he's announced it again but just to me his mother this time I'm struggling so badly with this I just need to talk but everyone I've reached out to is telling me to start calling him she and get referrals for gender reassignment I'm just so lost up until 9 months ago this has never been mentioned or even hinted at he has 2 sisters too and has never showed any interest in any of their interests or past times he is also immature for his age and has mild ADD please someone tell me im not alone
My situation is similar. My 17 yo son just told me crying that he thinks he is trans. He has been isolated because covid, addicted to his computer and games; and hopefully now, that school is open, things will get better. He goes to an all boy school so there is the added need to conform to social norms. But it has been very difficult, for him who feels anxious and depressed and us as a family.
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(01-Jan-2018, 03:26 AM)Kassandra Wrote: Dear Dangerfox,
Welcome. You are among friends. We are all exploring here. Take a moment to breath - relax - explore some of the threads. My own daughter is close to the age of yours. My daughter has, gradually over the span of about a year, now desisted from the trans-fiction identity. There is hope, support and ideas shared generously from other parents just like you - me - us. Ask anything. We are here for you.
That's such good news.  My daughter is 12 and I just don't know what kind of state she's in.  I've noticed she's started using a nickname a lot at school, which is not terrible, because it is a shortened version of her name that some of us have used with her for years, but it is very gender neutral.  She is letting her hair grow out, but def not in a way that it will be long and feminine, more of a mid-length haircut that lots of tik tokkers have, and many of them who say they are trans.  She wears skirts fairly often, but just as often she wears long shorts and looks mostly like a preteen boy.  I drop her off at school and watch her walking in, hunched over, hands in pockets, like she's hiding.  in weird clothes with weird hair. while other kids walk in around her looking full of confidence.  i'm sure they aren't, but it's just my perception.  my husband thinks this is all a confidence thing and she will break out of this in a year or so. i just don't know.  and she's also very sullen and disprespectful with me.  i try to ignore a lot of that, choosing my battles.  but she's so very ungrateful for all she has, which is a lot.  this is so very hard.  i honestly just try to avoid most of this now and put it out of my mind.  she's asked for a friend to come over this weekend who i suspect is a very, very masculine girl.  i even asked here if this girl was trans, and she informed me angrily, no she is a cisgender girl.  i hate all this language.
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«Симфония» награждает лучших. Оригинальную систему мотивации собственных служб продаж разработало руководство сети салонов связи «Симфония». С пятнадцатого марта этого года до конца июня там проходила специальная акция среди менеджеров – те из них, кто подключит наибольшее количество абонентов сотового оператора «Мегафон»,
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