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[Worried-Wondering-Mom]

Dear Dangerfox,
Welcome. You are among friends. We are all exploring here. Take a moment to breath - relax - explore some of the threads. My own daughter is close to the age of yours. My daughter has, gradually over the span of about a year, now desisted from the trans-fiction identity. There is hope, support and ideas shared generously from other parents just like you - me - us. Ask anything. We are here for you.

That's such good news.  My daughter is 12 and I just don't know what kind of state she's in.  I've noticed she's started using a nickname a lot at school, which is not terrible, because it is a shortened version of her name that some of us have used with her for years, but it is very gender neutral.  She is letting her hair grow out, but def not in a way that it will be long and feminine, more of a mid-length haircut that lots of tik tokkers have, and many of them who say they are trans.  She wears skirts fairly often, but just as often she wears long shorts and looks mostly like a preteen boy.  I drop her off at school and watch her walking in, hunched over, hands in pockets, like she's hiding.  in weird clothes with weird hair. while other kids walk in around her looking full of confidence.  i'm sure they aren't, but it's just my perception.  my husband thinks this is all a confidence thing and she will break out of this in a year or so. i just don't know.  and she's also very sullen and disprespectful with me.  i try to ignore a lot of that, choosing my battles.  but she's so very ungrateful for all she has, which is a lot.  this is so very hard.  i honestly just try to avoid most of this now and put it out of my mind.  she's asked for a friend to come over this weekend who i suspect is a very, very masculine girl.  i even asked here if this girl was trans, and she informed me angrily, no she is a cisgender girl.  i hate all this language.