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[BlueMom]

I'm shaking as as write this. How did I end up here? And at the same time I'm so comforted that I'm not alone - so many parents going through the same thing... and I'm relieved to have found this forum... 

My beautiful 16-year old daughter has suddenly decided she is transgender - and like so many others - it is completely out of the blue. There have been no signs, no indications that she has ever wanting to be a boy. She has never been a tomboy, never dressed like a boy, never played like a boy, never expressed anything at anytime that would indicate that she is a boy. And like so many others - she "just knows" and "my friends agree too" and "you don't know me". 8 months ago she went from having a serious crush on a male schoolmate to having a girlfriend. And again - nothing has indicated she was bisexual. We have always been close, spending a lot of time together, talking until now. She has closed us out, "we don't understand" and of course all her information comes from numerous YouTube videos and now TikTok. I'm absolutely terrified she will act on her self-diagnosis and be able to find a random free clinic and get access to hormones. And I know she (and me and my husband) needs professional help and guidance  - and I'm frantically screening therapists to find someone who is not all about affirmation of a 16-year old's current mood which seems to be the mainstream response to this today. How do you find an old-school therapist who can guide her through this... 

We have realized we have just started a long marathon with an unknown ending. Just when we thought we were at the end of active parenting with only one year left of high school. I guess it's time to start running. Deep breath....