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My daughter has come out as transgender rather suddenly over a letter, she was never like this as a child. She’s 18, at university that’s several hours away from home, and I find sickening that she waited until we had paid for everything and then come out. She changed her name behind our back, and I can’t bare the thought of whether she’s gone through with any of the surgeries or chemicals yet. It’s deeply saddening. I’d love to read accounts from other parents so I know I’m not alone in this mess.
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(27-Nov-2020, 01:22 AM)Batman-n-robin Wrote: My daughter has come out as transgender rather suddenly over a letter, she was never like this as a child. She’s 18, at university that’s several hours away from home, and I find sickening that she waited until we had paid for everything and then come out. She changed her name behind our back, and I can’t bare the thought of whether she’s gone through with any of the surgeries or chemicals yet. It’s deeply saddening. I’d love to read accounts from other parents so I know I’m not alone in this mess.
Hello Batman-n-robin. I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
Your account has been activated. You'll find lots of parents here in similar situations. We offer each other support and try our best to keep up with the latest developments on this subject.
Welcome to the board. You are not alone.
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I'm new here and am having difficulties just navigating the forum.
My son just told us a week ago that he was 'trans'. I didn't even know what it meant. How my husband and I are desperate to find a counselor that will not use an affirmation approach and a doctor who would discourage or refuse hormone therapy without proper counsel... Our son in s 18, in his Sr year, and waited until his 18th birthday to tell us. PLease, are there therapists near Oconomowoc Wisconsin that anyone can recommend?
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(28-Nov-2020, 11:31 PM)Live Wrote: I'm new here and am having difficulties just navigating the forum.
My son just told us a week ago that he was 'trans'. I didn't even know what it meant. How my husband and I are desperate to find a counselor that will not use an affirmation approach and a doctor who would discourage or refuse hormone therapy without proper counsel... Our son in s 18, in his Sr year, and waited until his 18th birthday to tell us. PLease, are there therapists near Oconomowoc Wisconsin that anyone can recommend?
Hello, Live.
Welcome to the forum. You account has been activated and you now have access to the members-only area. I invite you to post your query there, as forum members don't always see the posts in this public area.
I'm sorry to hear about your son. I hope he will put off making any big decisions until he has undergone therapy and given his situation much consideration.
You are not alone.
My son is 30 and married for two years, last night I got a Dear BCC email from him saying he was a woman. He's been seeing a therapist for a year and living in Bangor Maine with his wife. It's just so surreal (also getting this announced in a BCC email). I notice it is mostly trans women here (my daughter told me three of her girlfriends are trans). I feel like I'm on an alien planet.
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My son is 30 and married for two years, last night I got a Dear BCC email from him saying he was a woman. He's been seeing a therapist for a year and living in Bangor Maine with his wife. It's just so surreal (also getting this announced in a BCC email). I notice it is mostly trans women here (my daughter told me three of her girlfriends are trans). I feel like I'm on an alien planet.
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Hello, guest. I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I can only imagine what a shock it was to learn this news. There are many of us here with daughters but also many of us with sons. I encourage you to register an account so that you can post in the members-only area, where you'll find parents who understand what you're going through. Our members don't often frequent this public area of the forum.
Your daughter having three female friends who identify as male is the new normal among teens and twenty-somethings. I don't know how old your daughter is but I'd be willing to bet she falls somewhere in that teens or 20s range. What was once something incredibly rare just 10-20 years ago is now common, yet we are supposed to believe a 3000% increase in girls who identify as male is simply because kids aren't afraid to come out now. I agree with the researchers who say they have found evidence of social contagion. There is evidence of social contagion among males, as well.
Welcome to the forum. I do hope you will register so that you can find support among fellow parents. You are not alone.
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Hello, I don't know what I'm replying to, how do I make a new post?
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(03-Dec-2020, 12:07 AM)GNCMom Wrote: Hello, I don't know what I'm replying to, how do I make a new post?
Hi, GNCMom, and welcome to the forum.
Your membership has been activated and you now have access to the members-only area.
Thanks for your patience and sorry for any confusion; bots post spam on this public area of the forum; the spam is deleted, which leaves all these blank posts within the pages. I can see how it would feel like you're replying to no one.
I invite you to take a look around in the members-only area, where you'll find supportive parents to converse with.
Welcome. You are not alone.
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So thankful to have found this group. I have read so many that are exactly like our story. She went to college changed her name and has asked all her teachers to call her the new name and use the proper pronouns. I found out because the school sent an email with the changed name at first she said she didn’t want us to know until she was older because she knew we didn’t understand but that has now changed to her not feeling we support or respect her since we don’t use the new name and pronouns. We tell her we don’t understand it and it’s not going to happen in our home. We have a 6 year old to protect from all of this. We don’t want him hearing about any of it. She has asked for me to take her shopping so she could buy clothes that she feels comfortable in. She said she wanted guys pants and shirts. I’m not doing that. She said it makes her sad that we don’t support her. I just don’t feel in my heart as a mom that this is who she is and i have a hard time supporting that. She’s a gifted kid so she goes from one extreme to another and researched in depth on topics. She’s a gamer and also has lots of online chat groups. She’s 18 and in college so i can’t control that. I’m nervous about her coming home for Christmas we want things to be normal again and we don’t want our 6 year olds Holiday ruined over this. So confused and i feel so lost. How do we know if this is real of just a phase? She has PCOS which i have read can cause body dysphoria or gender issues. We took her to her gynecologist and she just switched her birth control pills and said we needed to seek family counseling. I’ve tracked hormonal changes based on when she talks about these issues. It’s usually week 3 of each month. I feel she’s got a possible hormone imbalance but the dr didn’t even check that. I’m glad to read so many parents are in the same boat as me. I just want off this boat and back to normal again. I’m begging for help here.
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Hi,
I've never been on a forum like this before. Over the last year my daughter has told me she doesn't feel like a girl. She's obsessed with looking at trans boys on Instagram and tick tock. Cut all her hair off during lockdown in her room late at night. Only wears hoodies up now. She won't talk to me and refuses to allow me to tell her dad she's wants to be a boy or anyone else. At her age I hated wearing a bra, makeup etc but when I try to get my experiences across to her for another view she shuts me down. It's breaking my heart to see her do this to herself and her push me away. I need help. How to open communication, stop internet influences etc. She has suspected Asperger's and anxiety. Is very strong willed, the more I try and tackle it the more she will rebel.