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Posted by LI Mom - 11-Aug-2024, 11:52 AM
(13-Aug-2018, 07:23 PM)mom1211 Wrote:
(13-Aug-2018, 12:10 PM)MAMANYC Wrote: Any referrals in NYC? my 12 year old just told us she wants to a be a boy.  Growing up she was always interested in boys and girls things (toys etc). Lately she keeps her hair short and wears t shirts and jeans or long shorts.  She goes to an all girls school and a girl in her class  (of 50 kids) just became FTM.  She herself still likes american girl, etc.  All of a sudden she tells me she wants to be  a boy. The only kind of weird thing is she is very creative and draws her own graphic novels but mainly a male character.  Recenltly she was complaining though to DH that there is only ONE female ninja in lego ninjago.
She was an easy toddler but is easily distracted in school. She does not meet criteria for ADHD but is close (we had her evaluated 3 years ago)/ . Also, she is a little immature for age/ her class.  She has always been self conscious about showing skin and is terrified of going out without sunblock!
I really believe she is a girl.  I dont want a therapist who will try to help her transition.

I believe Sasha Ayad has a recommendation in NYC. You can contact her here for a list she keeps of recommended therapists: https://inspiredteentherapy.com/thanks/

Hello Mamanyc,
This is a few years after your post here and I hope all has been well for you and your daughter since. Of course I am wondering if you have any recommendations for a therapist who has been helpful? Going through same nightmare here. 
Thank you so much,
LI Mom
Posted by LI Mom - 11-Aug-2024, 11:38 AM
(12-Jun-2018, 02:55 AM)Willfred Wrote: Hello,

I am looking for a therapist on Long Island for my 19 year old daughter who announced a year ago she was transgender.

I had bad experiences with her college therapist in Massachusetts because she was referred to the Fenway Clinic and they wanted to immediately start hormones. They also convinced her she wasn't trans enough and she insisted after meeting with them she needed to be moved to a boys dorm floor.  I had to pay an extra $2000 to provide a private room with a private shower.  Fenway told her to use the boys showers. UGH. 

She is home now from college and still speaking about hormones.  KM is a recent ROGD.  She has a history of anxiety, cutting, depression, dyslexia, low self esteem from learning disabilities, poor reaction to SSRI's, hospitalizations, bullying, hypothyroid, PCOS.    I was given 2 names. Shervin Shadianloo MD and Richard Pleak, MD.  I saw one comment on Dr. Pleak from a woman who stated felt pressured into hormones and surgery by Dr. Pleak and his staff and now regrets it.  I'm not sure about Dr. Shadianloo.  I saw that he wrote sections of textbooks about trans gender issues and he may be too gender affirming but I'm not completely sure of his opinions.  He did not have any reviews on any boards that I saw.

I'd appreciate any suggestions.

Thank you.

Hello Willfred,
I feel like I could have written this post myself. Hope all is going well for you and your daughter these several years later. Of course I’m on here looking for a recommendation for a therapist in either the NY or Mass area myself. Or virtual. If you have any names of someone who helped I would greatly appreciate it. 
Thank you so much,
LI Mom
Posted by Heather - 14-Mar-2024, 06:29 PM
HI there Dadtofindhelp,
Welcome to the board. Your account has been activated.
I'm sure some of our members will respond to your request for help soon.  In the meantime, I encourage you to search among the previous postings. You probably will find a lot of useful advice from other parents and descriptions of what they've been seeing and hearing to compare your own situation to.
You are not alone,
Heather
Posted by Dadtofindhelp - 14-Mar-2024, 03:40 PM
Hello,

I am looking for a referral to a therapist in Northern Virginia.  My son (age 14) has come out as trans.  He informed us of this while we were testing him for Autism and depression.  We are looking for someone who will work on the underlying issues, rather than short cutting to a solution.  Any help would be appreciated.

Concerned Dad.
Posted by CommonSenseDad74 - 10-Mar-2024, 08:44 PM
I am desperate to find gender critical counseling for my daughter in West Virginia. Both therapists we've tried have told my wife and I to affirm my daughters dysphoria and to refer to her as her chosen male name. I've spent countless hours searching forums and found nothing. Please help us. We feel like we're being held hostage.
Posted by - 25-Feb-2024, 11:54 PM
(13-Dec-2023, 07:17 AM)TruthSeeker1 Wrote: I saw this helpful article written by Rebecca Taylor, a psychotherapist from Sandy, Utah.  If you're looking for a therapist in that area, you might want to reach out to her.  She may also offer zoom counseling. 

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/pare...bc24&ei=19

Thank you thank you thank you. You have no idea how much this helps. I will def check her out. Truly appreciate it!!!!
Posted by TruthSeeker1 - 13-Dec-2023, 07:17 AM
I saw this helpful article written by Rebecca Taylor, a psychotherapist from Sandy, Utah.  If you're looking for a therapist in that area, you might want to reach out to her.  She may also offer zoom counseling. 

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/pare...bc24&ei=19
Posted by TruthSeeker1 - 13-Dec-2023, 07:10 AM
I saw this article recently by Rebecca Taylor, a psychotherapist practicing in Sandy, Utah. Anyone looking for a good therapist in that area might want to reach out to her. She may even do zoom counseling. 
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/pare...bc24&ei=19
Posted by Heather - 12-Dec-2023, 11:26 AM
(29-Nov-2023, 01:48 AM)TXIY Wrote:
(19-Apr-2019, 03:13 PM)TXmom Wrote:
(15-Jan-2019, 01:32 AM)cathy2144@mail.com Wrote: Hello,

We are looking for a gender critical therapist in the Dallas-Fort Worth, Texas area.  Anyone have any referrals?

15 year daughter ROGD, current therapists did not want to help, now daughter is 16 years old and  we are back looking for new therapist.  I feel like we lost a year of finding the root cause of any underlying issues.

Concerned Mom

Tried to reply in the public space as I was not sure you had joined.  Did you find a therapist?  I may have one if she is taking new patients.  I will check.  I do believe from all our visits that she is taking a critical eye to my son's "diagnosis".  We together decided not to go to Genecis who will only affirm.


Did you find help in the DFW area? I need help with my daughter too.

This might be helpful. If you are looking for a psychiatric professional -- a therapist or a psychiatrist -- to help your child and your family, it's probably a good idea to work out for yourself what specific characteristics you are looking for, the most important of which is an agreement between you and the professional you are "auditioning" on what the job is. 

It's like hiring a contractor to repair your home. If you hire someone to fix your plumbing, but the candidate is only knowledgeable about (and interested in) the roof, you've got to be honest with yourself about whether your reason for thinking the problem is a broken pipe is based on the fact that you actually saw water actually pouring out of a broken pipe, or you need to be open to exploring the possibility that you are wet in your own home because of a leaky roof, that your initial assumption that all that water you've noticed is really not coming out of a broken pipe but originates from a hole in the roof. The professional worth her salt is capable of convincing you of that fact about your specific house, and not just expecting you go along with her theory about all houses.

In other words, you need to figure out if the mental professional you are thinking of hiring has roughly the same criteria for distinguishing between reality and illusion that you have, and can explain to you the difference. Also, the professional should have respect for you as a parent, when it comes to your child. You are someone who has been on the scene much longer than anyone else has, which makes you a valuable source of information. If you get the sense the candidate therapist/psychiatrist doesn't respect your knowledge about your child (even if there is general knowledge about psychology you may lack that this professional can provide), treat that as a red flag.

So here's Dr. Steven Levine's presentation at the GenSpect conference on what good therapy is, which I think might be helpful to watch before you interview one. I've pulled out a few quotes from his presentation that might be useful. 

Denver: Key Elements of Comprehensive Psychiatric Evaluation & Psychotherapy with Dr Stephen Levine

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iM3bPA80...x=8&t=254s

Quote:Conversational therapy is a conversation with somebody who knows more about the general problem -- whom I call 'Doctor"' -- and the patient, who's the world's expert on the patient's life. 'That doctor' and 'this doctor' are having a prolonged conversation over time to teach both of them what the other knows.



Quote:My job is to improve the child's function, to diminish his or her symptoms, and to improve their capacity to socialize and to think clearly.



Quote:Youthful trans identities are creative intrapsychic adaptations with future outcomes that represent limited life possibilities.
Posted by TXIY - 29-Nov-2023, 01:48 AM
(19-Apr-2019, 03:13 PM)TXmom Wrote:
(15-Jan-2019, 01:32 AM)cathy2144@mail.com Wrote: Hello,

We are looking for a gender critical therapist in the Dallas-Fort Worth, Texas area.  Anyone have any referrals?

15 year daughter ROGD, current therapists did not want to help, now daughter is 16 years old and  we are back looking for new therapist.  I feel like we lost a year of finding the root cause of any underlying issues.

Concerned Mom

Tried to reply in the public space as I was not sure you had joined.  Did you find a therapist?  I may have one if she is taking new patients.  I will check.  I do believe from all our visits that she is taking a critical eye to my son's "diagnosis".  We together decided not to go to Genecis who will only affirm.


Did you find help in the DFW area? I need help with my daughter too.
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