(03-Aug-2020, 10:13 PM)dharma blade Wrote: Joined up after my 11 yr old daughter dropped what I see is being termed "the form letter" on me announcing her intent. So began researching and glad I found this forum. I cannot believe this is such a huge thing!  I figured it was a niche issue however it's hundreds if not thousands of kids. 
I've always thought of myself as an ally of the LGBTG community, where I support Adults making these decisions wholeheartedly, or at least I did.
Looking into it, it seems there are very militant trans adults trolling youtube for kids like my daughter and taking active measures to bring them into the trans fold. 
I'm afraid I'm closing in on being a fascist about social media with her just to keep these people away.  Local police could care less unless there is an attempt to traffic or entice for sex, yet I see it as being groomed just like those things are. 
Does anyone know if there are any legal resources to go after adults that are actively seeking pre-teen children to coax into this con?

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(07-Jun-2020, 02:10 PM)Brookiema79 Wrote: My 13 year old daughter told me yesterday that she wants to be a boy. That she feels like a boy. I have had my suspicions and knew the time had come to confront them.  We had a long talk and I told her that although I love her, will always be right by her side, and empathize with the confusion and torment she may be feeling over this, that I don’t BLAME HER for her feelings, but that we (she and I), will not agree to accept that lifestyle. I feel like my world is falling apart and just want my little girl back. I feel so alone and ashamed and I blame myself. I created her! I can’t stop crying. I did not share these feelings with her. Except that I blame myself. I am trying to put on a brave face in front of her until I figure out what to do. I realize that in my situation, immediate and consistent action is going to have to be taken. I am glad I found this board and hope that I can get some insight from it. I am at the beginning of what I believe is going to be a difficult road for me and my girl. And I just want my baby back.

 
How are we all going through this?  It's insane!  These should be the years we're talking about normal teenage stuff, not them becoming another person as if they can just discard who they are and start over new, and it's PROMOTED by professionals and the media.  I really hope you can find a path forward with your daughter and she comes back to you.

(07-Jun-2020, 02:10 PM)Brookiema79 Wrote: My 13 year old daughter told me yesterday that she wants to be a boy. That she feels like a boy. I have had my suspicions and knew the time had come to confront them.  We had a long talk and I told her that although I love her, will always be right by her side, and empathize with the confusion and torment she may be feeling over this, that I don’t BLAME HER for her feelings, but that we (she and I), will not agree to accept that lifestyle. I feel like my world is falling apart and just want my little girl back. I feel so alone and ashamed and I blame myself. I created her! I can’t stop crying. I did not share these feelings with her. Except that I blame myself. I am trying to put on a brave face in front of her until I figure out what to do. I realize that in my situation, immediate and consistent action is going to have to be taken. I am glad I found this board and hope that I can get some insight from it. I am at the beginning of what I believe is going to be a difficult road for me and my girl. And I just want my baby back.

(16-Jun-2020, 07:00 PM)Parker005 Wrote: Hello everyone:

We are on day two of my daughter is exploring the idea of trying on boy for size. I do not mean that to downplay anything. She is exploring options. I want to put a lot of context below, and apologize in advance. I am the father

She has feminine mannerisms, and loves lighter brighter colors. A matter a fact we are going to paint a cubby area for her art projects in Pink (We do not push so all choices are hers). She is light hearted, and has more girl friends than boy friends. She broke up with a boy last year, and she cried and was very upset. This lasted days. Eventually they became friends again.
She likes to go outside, likes nature, and calls animal adorable. She started her period about a year ago, and believe it is uncomfortable, as is the changes that are going on inside.

A lot of her friends are part of LGBTQ community, and we support people that truly want to affect change. This is one sphere of influence we believe.
She wanted to cut her hair short (pixie cut), and she likes wearing comfy clothes. Sometimes girlish clothes other times boyish clothes.
While she is testing this out she wanted to call herself Alex. Her good friend is Alexa so there might be something there.

She is into drama, art, nature, and she has had interest in dance, horse back riding, and some sports like softball, Soccer and Field hockey.

She is on a board/group in the LGBTQ community through the school, and I am trying to find a way to see and understand if they are luring her in like a beam, or if it is open support.
She does watch different skits and shows on tmblr, insta, youtube, tick tock....

I had a very open conversation with her. I wanted to get as much information from her so we can try and understand, and a decent amount willingly came out. I believe she was being honest and sincere. She is exploring the idea of being called a boys name, short hair, and some boy clothes. Nothing else at this time. At one moment I broke down and cried, and she started crying as well. Not sure what that means. I told her that I was not angry, my tears were from a lack of understanding as we just found out, and am trying me best to understand. Multiple times she told me she is just trying it out to se how it makes her feel. She wasn't putting up any expectations, but currently that is where she is, and may change.

We did tell her that we would like her and the two older boys to get out more, and get off of the devices. I am not sure this is enough, or if we should take a harder stance or not. It's a sensitive topic, and we do not want her to be defensive. In the end of the day I want her to be the Happiest, and Heathiest version of herself. She said that she doesn't want to loose who she is today. Meaning, nice, caring, loving, sensitive etc... If I think of some potential outcomes I just don't see how someone would be able to go full transgender and keep who they are as a person. We are hoping this is a phase, but are deeply concerned for her future, and afraid she is being lured in by a culture swing more so than what is best for her, and will make her happy even if that is a compromise. She is very young and can be immature at times. Not sure if there is anything there.

On a side note my wife just got home, and they both went shopping. They were looking at a waste basket, and my daughter picked a light blue one with a flower on it.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Again the goal is to support her, but make sure she is the happiest healthiest version.

(27-Feb-2020, 08:24 PM)Zoomo Wrote: Out of the blue, our 16 yo son told us he is transgender about 8 month ago. He has always struggled with social anxiety and depression, but has never shown any inclination that he was a "girl trapped in a boy body." He has been seeing a counselor regularly; even though she is an affirming therapist and an ally, she herself said his story is "not consistent" with her other transgendered clients. We have refused any medical treatments or calling him by a different pronoun or name (which he has changed 5 times), but have let him experiment with feminine clothes/makeup at home. He usually tries something new then discards after a few weeks (because it's not making him happy!). Lately, he's been wearing a stuffed bra to school. It hasn't been noticeable so far because its winter and he wears sweatshirts, but warmer weather is approaching and we are afraid he will be discovered and potentially bullied and/or ostracized than he already is. We feel that wearing feminine clothes/bra in public and the potential for negative reactions from his peer group will confound his capacity for the "cautious exploration." As he still has two more years of high school left to navigate safely, we're torn between letting him publicly explore reactions and putting our foot down. We've been walking a thin line. It's so difficult knowing what to do and there's not much help online.

(27-Feb-2020, 01:26 PM)Mtnmum777 Wrote: Hello,
Wondering if I can join this group?
My son, who's in his early 20's, is dealing with gender dyphoria and we believe he's on female hormones, although he has not told us yet.

Thank you!

(27-Feb-2020, 08:24 PM)Zoomo Wrote: Out of the blue, our 16 yo son told us he is transgender about 8 month ago. He has always struggled with social anxiety and depression, but has never shown any inclination that he was a "girl trapped in a boy body." He has been seeing a counselor regularly; even though she is an affirming therapist and an ally, she herself said his story is "not consistent" with her other transgendered clients. We have refused any medical treatments or calling him by a different pronoun or name (which he has changed 5 times), but have let him experiment with feminine clothes/makeup at home. He usually tries something new then discards after a few weeks (because it's not making him happy!). Lately, he's been wearing a stuffed bra to school. It hasn't been noticeable so far because its winter and he wears sweatshirts, but warmer weather is approaching and we are afraid he will be discovered and potentially bullied and/or ostracized than he already is. We feel that wearing feminine clothes/bra in public and the potential for negative reactions from his peer group will confound his capacity for the "cautious exploration." As he still has two more years of high school left to navigate safely, we're torn between letting him publicly explore reactions and putting our foot down. We've been walking a thin line. It's so difficult knowing what to do and there's not much help online.