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Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 30-Nov-2019, 10:26 PM
(30-Nov-2019, 09:08 PM)Worriedmammy Wrote: New member here, so glad I have found this forum!

Our son came out to us as trans 2 years as (at 19) and has now now made his appointment with planned parenthood in January to start HRT. This is all getting a bit too real & we are worried sick. Reading on here and on 4thWavenow (that website has been amazing) I now realise that this trans movement is all akin to a cult and everything he says is identical to everything I’ve read on Reddit/Tumblr etc.

He’s an adult and legally there’s nothing we can do to stop this but it’s heartbreaking to watch someone with mental health issues (BDP/depression/unresolved childhood trauma) focus on this as a miracle cure for all his issues.
Hello, Worriedmammy. 

I'm so sorry to hear about your son's upcoming appointment. You are absolutely correct, because he is an adult and because the movement has such a stronghold on society at the moment, there is really not anything parents can do. It is especially heartbreaking when young people who are so vulnerable due to mental health issues and trauma see transitioning as the solution to their problems, like you say, a cure-all. This is how transitioning is presented to our vulnerable kids and they believe it, while those of us who are older and wiser and/or perhaps do not have the mental health or autism spectrum issues see red flags going up all over the place.

It's simply criminal IMHO and I'm so sorry you're having to deal with it. You'll find lots of support and like-minded parents here. Welcome. You are not alone.
Posted by Worriedmammy - 30-Nov-2019, 09:08 PM
New member here, so glad I have found this forum!

Our son came out to us as trans 2 years as (at 19) and has now now made his appointment with planned parenthood in January to start HRT. This is all getting a bit too real & we are worried sick. Reading on here and on 4thWavenow (that website has been amazing) I now realise that this trans movement is all akin to a cult and everything he says is identical to everything I’ve read on Reddit/Tumblr etc.

He’s an adult and legally there’s nothing we can do to stop this but it’s heartbreaking to watch someone with mental health issues (BDP/depression/unresolved childhood trauma) focus on this as a miracle cure for all his issues.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 29-Nov-2019, 04:32 PM
(29-Nov-2019, 02:29 PM)justkym Wrote: My daughter is 22.  She came out as trans two years ago, and instead of fighting for her like I should have, I helped her move to another state because I couldn't stand having her around anymore.  Of course, only I knew why I was sending her away; everyone else, including her, thought I was helping her better her career.  Over the past two years, we have fought, gone to therapy together, and had some good times.  However, I just don't believe this is really who she is.  She went from being a beautiful, vibrant, ambitious young woman to being an ugly, overweight, withdrawn nondescript person.  I find myself repulsed by this person who stole my daughter, and then I am repulsed by myself for hating her.  I am at a total loss and don't know what to do.  Should I stop visiting because it makes me so miserable? Should I visit more often and continue to hammer at this bent nail?  Or should I just accept the situation as irreparable and try to move on? I just don't know how to overcome this feeling of loathing I have for both my daughter and myself.
Hi justkym. Welcome. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Please don't be too hard on yourself -- parents are in a no-win situation, especially with the rest of society cheering this on. We feel like we are crazy when we are the only ones who do NOT want to cheerlead such destructive behavior and dangerous medical treatment, but then we are pressured with false suicide statistics and woke, feel-good rhetoric to cave in and affirm, which is also torturous. Your account has been activated. I can move your post to the members-only area of you like. Our members are more likely to see your post there, and moving it will also take it out of the public's view. Just let me know.
Posted by justkym - 29-Nov-2019, 02:29 PM
My daughter is 22.  She came out as trans two years ago, and instead of fighting for her like I should have, I helped her move to another state because I couldn't stand having her around anymore.  Of course, only I knew why I was sending her away; everyone else, including her, thought I was helping her better her career.  Over the past two years, we have fought, gone to therapy together, and had some good times.  However, I just don't believe this is really who she is.  She went from being a beautiful, vibrant, ambitious young woman to being an ugly, overweight, withdrawn nondescript person.  I find myself repulsed by this person who stole my daughter, and then I am repulsed by myself for hating her.  I am at a total loss and don't know what to do.  Should I stop visiting because it makes me so miserable? Should I visit more often and continue to hammer at this bent nail?  Or should I just accept the situation as irreparable and try to move on? I just don't know how to overcome this feeling of loathing I have for both my daughter and myself.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 27-Nov-2019, 05:26 AM
Hello and welcome, ChristianMotherofTransgender. Your account is now activated and you should have access to the members-only area.
Posted by ChristianMotherofTransgender - 27-Nov-2019, 12:02 AM
(10-Apr-2018, 01:05 PM)missingmyboy Wrote:
(09-Apr-2018, 07:36 PM)EverHopeful Wrote: Missingmyboy I’m also the parent of a son who fits the descriptions of ROGD girls to The letter. Our son told us he was trans at 16.5 and is now 19. It’s been a living nightmare. I’m here if you want to compare notes or discuss anything specific to boys. I find it’s so similar to the girls stories, but It becomes a b T more complicated for a boy to wear feminine clothes, makeup etc than it is for a girl to wear no makeup, boys clothes etc.

And I don’t mean to reinforce stereotypes by those clothing  labels - just trying to be concise. Of course, kids should be able to wear what they like. My son seems to think the clothes will solve his problems, however. And to do that, they’d have to be magic! His problems run way deeper than those that can be solved by changes in appearance.

Mom, S19

Ironically it is the crowd pushing the transgender ideology that is reinforcing sex stereotypes.   My son owns more nail polish than I have ever owned in my 58 years!  Everything is so extreme in the opposite direction.  Just look at how Bruce Jenner has gone super feminine and trying to be so sexy. We all know men or women who are more masculine or feminine than others.  I  believe there is a continuum within the biological gender you  were born.   That used to be called personality.   Mutilating your body, changing your name, and going full force into the opposite sex does not change who you are inside.  It is wrong to mutilate and permanently change a healthy body.  This to me is the sin of this Transgender ideology being pushed.  The emphasis should be to help these kids learn to love themselves as they were born.  This is a living nightmare,  saddest thing that ever happened to me.  It has been really tough on our marriage as well.  Just really sad..and not necessary.

This is my first post.  I just found this board and am waiting for approval before I can see the whole forum.  I am the mother of a 25 year old male that has recently told us that he is transgender.  Although he is an older male it also came completely out of the blue.  He has completely cut us off because we don't agree with this and do not call him Sarah.  We feel so helpless!
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 03-Sep-2019, 03:47 PM
Hello and welcome, TOmmyboy. Your account is now activated and you should have access to the members-only area. Please post back if you're not seeing it now.
Posted by tommyboy - 03-Sep-2019, 03:32 PM
Hi All, I'm new to this board, and trying to understand how it works.  I just registered, and seem to have access, but I don't know if there's another special activation.  My son just 18 yo, and told us that he is a girl, and is planning to "transition."  This story goes back a few years and has many facets, but basically my wife and I are trying to help him see this as temporary confusion and thought.  We are even trying to acknowledge the female in-him (as a sort of compromise).  Our biggest fear is that he takes hormones and has surgery.  We already found the estrogen pills on him (which he got from Planned Parenthood), and we confiscated.  But he's 18, and just started college, and he is somewhat empowered by the whole trans movement.  Desperately need help to get through to him.  He never had friends, always had no self confidence, which is completely related to shame of his body.  He never felt like he compared to other boys.  This is one of the causes we believe of his confusion.  We're trying to be creative and think out-of-the-box for ways to get through to him.... to just relax and not do anything permanently damaging,
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 29-Aug-2019, 03:06 PM
(29-Aug-2019, 11:39 AM)Cailleach Wrote: How can I get approved as a member here?  My story is eerily similar to all these.

Hi Cailleach, and welcome. 

Thanks for your patience. Each membership is manually activated by a moderator, so activations occur as moderators are online and available. Your membership is now activated; hope to see you "inside."
Posted by Cailleach - 29-Aug-2019, 11:39 AM
How can I get approved as a member here? My story is eerily similar to all these.
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