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Posted by Questioning - 18-Jan-2022, 03:25 AM
(13-Dec-2021, 06:18 PM)Detransguy1397 Wrote: Hello everyone, I am new here. My name is Alex and I am a male detransitioner (MtFtM). I just wanted to thank everyone who criticizes the gender ideology. I finally love myself and accept who I am!

Hi Alex and welcome,

As a parent of a boy (who claims to be a "demi-girl" and goes by a girl's name and she/they at school), it is good to see male detransitioners as these seem to have been less visible than the female detransitioners online.

May I ask what prompted your detransition?
Posted by - 17-Jan-2022, 05:51 AM
Exulansic has a YouTube channel that goes deep into medical transition complications that famous trans kids are showing.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 14-Dec-2021, 02:09 AM
(13-Dec-2021, 06:18 PM)Detransguy1397 Wrote: Hello everyone, I am new here. My name is Alex and I am a male detransitioner (MtFtM). I just wanted to thank everyone who criticizes the gender ideology. I finally love myself and accept who I am!

Hello Detransguy1397 and welcome to the board. I'm so glad to hear you love and accept yourself. Terrific news! 

Your account has been activated. I'm sure forum parents would love for you to join our discussions and give your valuable perspective. Members tend to frequent to members-only area of the forum, which you now have access to.

Welcome and thanks for joining. Congrats on finding contentment with yourself.
Posted by Detransguy1397 - 13-Dec-2021, 06:18 PM
Hello everyone, I am new here. My name is Alex and I am a male detransitioner (MtFtM). I just wanted to thank everyone who criticizes the gender ideology. I finally love myself and accept who I am!
Posted by HD26 - 29-Nov-2021, 05:36 AM
(06-Apr-2018, 08:18 AM)Heroshero Wrote: Add yet one more family to this collection of similar stories.
We’re nearly identical to others: 13 yr old, smart quirky girl binges on YouTube and announces she’s actually a boy. Now 14 1/2, diagnosed with high functioning autism and adhd. Also implementing a similar strategy to others: getting her busy in interests, limited internet, limited phone, gender neutral clothing, no changing name/pronouns. Trying hard to slow it down.
Boy do I wish I’d seen this site a year ago! 
So many sleepless nights. Often a black cloud of sadness resides in our hearts. Hard on our marriage. Hard on all of our relationships. So hard to know who to trust. Crying out to God to wake our daughter up.
Feels great to know we’re not alone. Feels terrible to know we’re not alone. It’s membership in the most awful club.
Same boat!  Daughter now over 18, baking this for about a year that we know if.  Has a counselor who is leading her down to T and my girly girl is behaving tough,  wearing man's clothing,  even her walk, . We never even saw it coming!
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 23-Oct-2021, 02:27 PM
(23-Oct-2021, 12:54 PM)Leonie Wrote: My 14 year old daughter identifies as non binary. She goes by all pronouns and is therefore still happy with me calling her my daughter or she/her. She has however changed her name to Aiden. I try my best to call her by this name, but often slip up and use her birth name. This results in her becoming very angry and accusing me of calling me by her 'dead name'. I am also not allowing her to legally change it until she is old enough to change it herself. I am just concerned that this is a phase. I have helped her to change her known as name at school and medical appointments etc. I find it difficult to understand why she feels non binary. I would understand more if she felt like she wanted to be male. I also happily accept her sexuality which she defines as pan sexual. As I have explained to her, as long as you are with someone that makes you happy and treats you well nothing else matters. Although again I believe 14 is very young to define yourself. I am concerned that defining as a different gender is just becoming a popular thing to do, especially among teenage girls. My daughter also struggles with disordered eating and is overweight (binge eating). I am concerned she is creating a persona for herself to mask the root cause of her unhappiness.

Is there anyone in a similar situation able to give me advice?

Hello, Leonie. 

Welcome to the forum. Your account has been activated. I invite you to post in the members-only area, as forum members don't frequent this public portion of the forum too often. In the members-only area, in addition to getting more replies to your questions, you'll also find lots of support and advice.


I will say your situation sounds very familiar. Claiming a trans identity does seem to be a popular thing these days among teens and young adults. It also seems to go hand-in-hand with disordered eating, of course not for all, but there appears to be a connection. 

Welcome to the forum. You are not alone.

(15-Oct-2021, 03:08 AM)Jlcb Wrote: Our daughter is 31, identified as non binary, and last week had her breasts amputated.  She is extremely hostile to us, won’t answer messages or texts.  We’re heartsick and angry at the cultish aspect of this.  Any words of comfort or advice.

Welcome to the forum, Jlcb. 

My apologies for the late reply. I activated you account back when you joined but apparently never replied to your post. I invite you to post in the members-only area, as forum members don't frequent this public portion of the forum too often. In the members-only area, in addition to getting more replies to your questions, you'll also find lots of support and advice.


I'm sorry to hear about your daughter.

Welcome to the forum. You are not alone.

(13-Jul-2021, 03:24 PM)Ryleighsmom Wrote: My daughter who is 13 has TS. She was diagnosed at the age of 9.  She has always had anxiety, even in pre-school. That is an accompanying symptom of the Tourettes. She was diagnosed with severe depression in May after some self harm incidences and then a week after going on meds for depression she was hospitalized for being suicidal.  While at this facility she indicated that she was bisexual.  My husband and I did not react.  Up until that point, she would always point out cute boys so we were not too concerned.  Because there wasn't a reaction, she then identified as pan-sexual.  Again, no major reaction. She was hospitalized a second time for another suicide attempt.  While in the hospital, she was very smitten with a boy who was there at the same time.  We enrolled her in partial hospitalization which involved group therapy.  There were a couple of transgender participants and now boom...my daughter claims she is a boy.  She wants us to use he/him pronouns and gets angry when we don't. We have an 8 year old sun who is very confused by all of this and we try to explain it to him while holding steadfast to our Christian convictions about the topic. 
While I feel it is important to support her in this journey/confusing time,  I don't know if we should submit and use the preferred pronouns for her mental health and hope that this phase dissipates soon or should we stick with our beliefs and use her natal gender pronouns.  My husband refuses to consider her as a boy.  I just don't want to cause more mental health harm or have this drag out longer because she is pushing boundaries.
She is in counseling with a new therapist (since the previous therapist missed major red flags) and has only had one session.  I"m not sure where the therapist stands on the trans-gender issue. 
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

Hello, Rylieghsmom.

Welcome to the forum. Your account was activated long ago but I'm just now realizing I never responded to your post here. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's TS and all the rest. 

I'm also sorry you never received a reply here until now. I invite you to re-post in the members-only area, as most members don't frequent this public area of the board. 

Welcome. You are not alone.
Posted by Jlcb - 15-Oct-2021, 03:08 AM
Our daughter is 31, identified as non binary, and last week had her breasts amputated.  She is extremely hostile to us, won’t answer messages or texts.  We’re heartsick and angry at the cultish aspect of this.  Any words of comfort or advice.
Posted by Ryleighsmom - 13-Jul-2021, 03:24 PM
My daughter who is 13 has TS. She was diagnosed at the age of 9. She has always had anxiety, even in pre-school. That is an accompanying symptom of the Tourettes. She was diagnosed with severe depression in May after some self harm incidences and then a week after going on meds for depression she was hospitalized for being suicidal. While at this facility she indicated that she was bisexual. My husband and I did not react. Up until that point, she would always point out cute boys so we were not too concerned. Because there wasn't a reaction, she then identified as pan-sexual. Again, no major reaction. She was hospitalized a second time for another suicide attempt. While in the hospital, she was very smitten with a boy who was there at the same time. We enrolled her in partial hospitalization which involved group therapy. There were a couple of transgender participants and now boom...my daughter claims she is a boy. She wants us to use he/him pronouns and gets angry when we don't. We have an 8 year old sun who is very confused by all of this and we try to explain it to him while holding steadfast to our Christian convictions about the topic.
While I feel it is important to support her in this journey/confusing time, I don't know if we should submit and use the preferred pronouns for her mental health and hope that this phase dissipates soon or should we stick with our beliefs and use her natal gender pronouns. My husband refuses to consider her as a boy. I just don't want to cause more mental health harm or have this drag out longer because she is pushing boundaries.
She is in counseling with a new therapist (since the previous therapist missed major red flags) and has only had one session. I"m not sure where the therapist stands on the trans-gender issue.
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
Posted by - 21-Jun-2021, 03:33 PM
(16-Jun-2021, 03:42 PM)lastbreath Wrote:
(29-Dec-2020, 06:27 PM)InNeedOfAdvice Wrote: Hello. I guess my story is the same as many others on this site. My 13 year old daughter came to me and told me that she was non-binary about 6 months ago. Then she said she was trans and when I asked her about it she said that non-binary is a form of trans but then last night she made a comment about waiting until she was an adult to transition. This came out of the blue. She never gave any indication that she wanted to be a boy. She got her period about 6 months prior to her announcing this and also had a "boyfriend" who "cheated" on her. I put quotes because I don't think they ever even held hands and although the "cheating" was him making out with a now former friend of hers who seems to be heading in the direction of teen pregnancy. This girl is the girl who announced one day that my daughter was now "dating" this boy. She was a problem to me in that she would tie her shirt up to show her belly and my daughter started doing the same. After all this happened she cut off all her hair, wears 3 bras in an attempt to bind herself and wears her older brothers old clothes. She has a TikTok account where she is very popular doing cosplay of boys and all the comments refer to her as a "king" and a boy. I don't even recognize her anymore. I found a piece of paper where she wrote all over it about being trans like "it's not a phase" etc and one of the comments was "boys can never hurt me again". Maybe it's in response to this boy who hurt her? She went from being one of the most popular girls in school to being pretty much antisocial and only associating with one or two friends who will tolerate her constant obsession with the LGBTQ community. EVERYTHING in her life is about LGBTQ now. She is extremely obsessed with it. Like others, I wish I never got her a phone or laptop. Now that the pandemic has hit and she does school online I cannot get rid of her laptop or the internet and I feel helpless with what she watches and who she communicates with. I have a son who is 15 and she has a twin sister who is 13 so whenever I try to change the rules regarding their devices and internet I am severely gained up on. I am also a single parent with no father around so it is just me. I feel outnumbered. I feel overwhelmed. I feel helpless and heartbroken. I miss my daughter. On the plus side she has no problem talking to me about this as long as I listen and don't say anything that isn't to her liking. She is increasingly moody and will fly off the handle easily and then just as easily be back to normal in her mood. The school calls her a "he" and her "preferred name" like she requested. It really annoys me how me as a parent has no say in any of this with them. I have tried really hard to be supportive and I let her have her own fashion, decorations in her room etc but I won't call her by a different name or pronoun. I just can't do it. It makes her mad but she has seemed to let go of her anger over that part. I told her that I worked really hard on coming up with the best name for her and that because of that, I want to continue using her name that I gave her. I just keep waiting for this nightmare to be over. My other two kids don't understand why it's such a big deal to me. My friends tell me that I should be supportive and do what she asks like I am this terrible intolerant person. I'm not. I have always raised my kids to believe that race, sex, religion are to be respected so I guess I feel like a bit of a hypocrite but it is def a different sceneiro when it's YOUR child who wants to changer her sex. I am all alone. I just want to yell at her and tell her to quit all this BS and force her to be her old self. I don't of course do that but I wish so much that it would be that simple and that she would change back. I keep waiting for the day that she tells me she's changed her mind. I'm still waiting. I just truly don't believe that she is transgender. I don't know if this pandemic in combination with the boy she dated and her period manifested this? I just NEED this to stop. I want my daughter back. I want to be able to take away all social media, internet, everything but I feel like I am just in so deep now with these kids. I am just finding this all so hard to deal with and it just gets harder every day. I try to listen to her when she goes on and on about being trans and how her "x" calls her an "it" and how she seems to take some sort of pleasure in that and just her going on and on about being trans in general but how can I share in her new found "joy" of all of this when it breaks my heart? Anyways, thank you for listening.
This sounds exactly like mine! I don't know what to do. I am a single mom too. She is SO fixated on the trans and lgbtq culture and considers all "cis" an enemy. Is there an update on your story?
Hello:  We all have the same story.  My daughter is 19 now and this started around 16 y/o.  Don't blame yourself that you are a single mom.  I was too, for years...this evil indoctrination does not discriminate.  It has reached all of our children across the globe.  I am perhaps one of the few people that does not believe in this crap at all.  I will not pretend and I will not support her delusion.  I had many loving convos with her about how I knew she was struggling with things and I wanted to do whatever to help.  Once she jumped online, the internet became her family and I became the enemy.  It is heartbreaking and exhausting.  I have a strained relationship with my daughter and I know she knows that I love her.  She dresses in men's clothes, kept her hair long and I see no evidence of testosterone right now.   She is a college student with goals and is a hard worker, kind and sensitive.    I believe her appearance and state of mind will prevent opportunities that otherwise she would have.  That is a harsh reality of the world....but being in this world will never be easy.  I pray for all of us mothers and parents constantly.  This phenomenon is destroying families.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 16-Jun-2021, 06:32 PM
(16-Jun-2021, 03:42 PM)lastbreath Wrote: This sounds exactly like mine! I don't know what to do. I am a single mom too. She is SO fixated on the trans and lgbtq culture and considers all "cis" an enemy. Is there an update on your story?

Hello, lastbreath. Welcome.

I invite you to join the forum so that you may have access to the members-only area, where you will find support, advice and discussion from other parents in similar situations. This public portion of the board doesn't get much traffic from members.

To become a member, click on "join" in the black bar at the top of the page and follow the prompts. Once you've joined, you'll have to wait for a forum administrator to manually activate your account. This can take anywhere from an hour or a day, depending upon admin availability. I hope you'll join.
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