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Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 16-May-2022, 04:22 PM
(16-May-2022, 12:27 PM)Rainbows and Sunshine Wrote: I don't know what to write or say about what is happening with my 16yr. old daughter. She is consumed with Anime and cosplay and totally convinced she is trans.
I'm scared, confused, heartbroken and lost.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hello, Rainbows and Sunshine,

Welcome to the board. Your account has been activated and you now have access to the members-only forums. I invite you to post your query there, as most members don't frequent these public boards very often.

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I hope you'll find the forums helpful.
Posted by Rainbows and Sunshine - 16-May-2022, 12:27 PM
I don't know what to write or say about what is happening with my 16yr. old daughter. She is consumed with Anime and cosplay and totally convinced she is trans.
I'm scared, confused, heartbroken and lost.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Posted by Questioning - 18-Jan-2022, 03:25 AM
(13-Dec-2021, 06:18 PM)Detransguy1397 Wrote: Hello everyone, I am new here. My name is Alex and I am a male detransitioner (MtFtM). I just wanted to thank everyone who criticizes the gender ideology. I finally love myself and accept who I am!

Hi Alex and welcome,

As a parent of a boy (who claims to be a "demi-girl" and goes by a girl's name and she/they at school), it is good to see male detransitioners as these seem to have been less visible than the female detransitioners online.

May I ask what prompted your detransition?
Posted by - 17-Jan-2022, 05:51 AM
Exulansic has a YouTube channel that goes deep into medical transition complications that famous trans kids are showing.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 14-Dec-2021, 02:09 AM
(13-Dec-2021, 06:18 PM)Detransguy1397 Wrote: Hello everyone, I am new here. My name is Alex and I am a male detransitioner (MtFtM). I just wanted to thank everyone who criticizes the gender ideology. I finally love myself and accept who I am!

Hello Detransguy1397 and welcome to the board. I'm so glad to hear you love and accept yourself. Terrific news! 

Your account has been activated. I'm sure forum parents would love for you to join our discussions and give your valuable perspective. Members tend to frequent to members-only area of the forum, which you now have access to.

Welcome and thanks for joining. Congrats on finding contentment with yourself.
Posted by Detransguy1397 - 13-Dec-2021, 06:18 PM
Hello everyone, I am new here. My name is Alex and I am a male detransitioner (MtFtM). I just wanted to thank everyone who criticizes the gender ideology. I finally love myself and accept who I am!
Posted by HD26 - 29-Nov-2021, 05:36 AM
(06-Apr-2018, 08:18 AM)Heroshero Wrote: Add yet one more family to this collection of similar stories.
We’re nearly identical to others: 13 yr old, smart quirky girl binges on YouTube and announces she’s actually a boy. Now 14 1/2, diagnosed with high functioning autism and adhd. Also implementing a similar strategy to others: getting her busy in interests, limited internet, limited phone, gender neutral clothing, no changing name/pronouns. Trying hard to slow it down.
Boy do I wish I’d seen this site a year ago! 
So many sleepless nights. Often a black cloud of sadness resides in our hearts. Hard on our marriage. Hard on all of our relationships. So hard to know who to trust. Crying out to God to wake our daughter up.
Feels great to know we’re not alone. Feels terrible to know we’re not alone. It’s membership in the most awful club.
Same boat!  Daughter now over 18, baking this for about a year that we know if.  Has a counselor who is leading her down to T and my girly girl is behaving tough,  wearing man's clothing,  even her walk, . We never even saw it coming!
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 23-Oct-2021, 02:27 PM
(23-Oct-2021, 12:54 PM)Leonie Wrote: My 14 year old daughter identifies as non binary. She goes by all pronouns and is therefore still happy with me calling her my daughter or she/her. She has however changed her name to Aiden. I try my best to call her by this name, but often slip up and use her birth name. This results in her becoming very angry and accusing me of calling me by her 'dead name'. I am also not allowing her to legally change it until she is old enough to change it herself. I am just concerned that this is a phase. I have helped her to change her known as name at school and medical appointments etc. I find it difficult to understand why she feels non binary. I would understand more if she felt like she wanted to be male. I also happily accept her sexuality which she defines as pan sexual. As I have explained to her, as long as you are with someone that makes you happy and treats you well nothing else matters. Although again I believe 14 is very young to define yourself. I am concerned that defining as a different gender is just becoming a popular thing to do, especially among teenage girls. My daughter also struggles with disordered eating and is overweight (binge eating). I am concerned she is creating a persona for herself to mask the root cause of her unhappiness.

Is there anyone in a similar situation able to give me advice?

Hello, Leonie. 

Welcome to the forum. Your account has been activated. I invite you to post in the members-only area, as forum members don't frequent this public portion of the forum too often. In the members-only area, in addition to getting more replies to your questions, you'll also find lots of support and advice.


I will say your situation sounds very familiar. Claiming a trans identity does seem to be a popular thing these days among teens and young adults. It also seems to go hand-in-hand with disordered eating, of course not for all, but there appears to be a connection. 

Welcome to the forum. You are not alone.

(15-Oct-2021, 03:08 AM)Jlcb Wrote: Our daughter is 31, identified as non binary, and last week had her breasts amputated.  She is extremely hostile to us, won’t answer messages or texts.  We’re heartsick and angry at the cultish aspect of this.  Any words of comfort or advice.

Welcome to the forum, Jlcb. 

My apologies for the late reply. I activated you account back when you joined but apparently never replied to your post. I invite you to post in the members-only area, as forum members don't frequent this public portion of the forum too often. In the members-only area, in addition to getting more replies to your questions, you'll also find lots of support and advice.


I'm sorry to hear about your daughter.

Welcome to the forum. You are not alone.

(13-Jul-2021, 03:24 PM)Ryleighsmom Wrote: My daughter who is 13 has TS. She was diagnosed at the age of 9.  She has always had anxiety, even in pre-school. That is an accompanying symptom of the Tourettes. She was diagnosed with severe depression in May after some self harm incidences and then a week after going on meds for depression she was hospitalized for being suicidal.  While at this facility she indicated that she was bisexual.  My husband and I did not react.  Up until that point, she would always point out cute boys so we were not too concerned.  Because there wasn't a reaction, she then identified as pan-sexual.  Again, no major reaction. She was hospitalized a second time for another suicide attempt.  While in the hospital, she was very smitten with a boy who was there at the same time.  We enrolled her in partial hospitalization which involved group therapy.  There were a couple of transgender participants and now boom...my daughter claims she is a boy.  She wants us to use he/him pronouns and gets angry when we don't. We have an 8 year old sun who is very confused by all of this and we try to explain it to him while holding steadfast to our Christian convictions about the topic. 
While I feel it is important to support her in this journey/confusing time,  I don't know if we should submit and use the preferred pronouns for her mental health and hope that this phase dissipates soon or should we stick with our beliefs and use her natal gender pronouns.  My husband refuses to consider her as a boy.  I just don't want to cause more mental health harm or have this drag out longer because she is pushing boundaries.
She is in counseling with a new therapist (since the previous therapist missed major red flags) and has only had one session.  I"m not sure where the therapist stands on the trans-gender issue. 
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

Hello, Rylieghsmom.

Welcome to the forum. Your account was activated long ago but I'm just now realizing I never responded to your post here. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's TS and all the rest. 

I'm also sorry you never received a reply here until now. I invite you to re-post in the members-only area, as most members don't frequent this public area of the board. 

Welcome. You are not alone.
Posted by Jlcb - 15-Oct-2021, 03:08 AM
Our daughter is 31, identified as non binary, and last week had her breasts amputated.  She is extremely hostile to us, won’t answer messages or texts.  We’re heartsick and angry at the cultish aspect of this.  Any words of comfort or advice.
Posted by Ryleighsmom - 13-Jul-2021, 03:24 PM
My daughter who is 13 has TS. She was diagnosed at the age of 9. She has always had anxiety, even in pre-school. That is an accompanying symptom of the Tourettes. She was diagnosed with severe depression in May after some self harm incidences and then a week after going on meds for depression she was hospitalized for being suicidal. While at this facility she indicated that she was bisexual. My husband and I did not react. Up until that point, she would always point out cute boys so we were not too concerned. Because there wasn't a reaction, she then identified as pan-sexual. Again, no major reaction. She was hospitalized a second time for another suicide attempt. While in the hospital, she was very smitten with a boy who was there at the same time. We enrolled her in partial hospitalization which involved group therapy. There were a couple of transgender participants and now boom...my daughter claims she is a boy. She wants us to use he/him pronouns and gets angry when we don't. We have an 8 year old sun who is very confused by all of this and we try to explain it to him while holding steadfast to our Christian convictions about the topic.
While I feel it is important to support her in this journey/confusing time, I don't know if we should submit and use the preferred pronouns for her mental health and hope that this phase dissipates soon or should we stick with our beliefs and use her natal gender pronouns. My husband refuses to consider her as a boy. I just don't want to cause more mental health harm or have this drag out longer because she is pushing boundaries.
She is in counseling with a new therapist (since the previous therapist missed major red flags) and has only had one session. I"m not sure where the therapist stands on the trans-gender issue.
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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