(12-Jan-2021, 06:18 PM)Twinmom Wrote: Hi.  I have a 15 year old daughter who, out of the blue, announced that she is “ pansexual” and “gender fluid”.  We live in a very conservative, religious community.  I don’t even know where she would have heard of this...however, with Covid she has been on the internet more.  What I thought were harmless groups of “theatre kids” reading scrips together, seems instead to be placed where kids encourage each other to question....well, everything about themselves to the point of maybe a social contagion sort-of thing.  This is frightening and mind-blowing to us.

(21-Dec-2020, 07:53 PM)Marge Bouvier Simpson Wrote:

(21-Dec-2020, 06:23 PM)Jdmum Wrote:

(21-Dec-2020, 03:50 PM)Iwantmysweetgirlback Wrote: My 15 year old daughter just told me she is trans.  It's all I can think about now.  I wish she would have come to me sooner.  She knows all the jargon and sounds like she's really been researching into it and is even already saying she wants to be accepted by her family but if they don't accept her she just won't them any more.  This sucks.

Once your account has been activated you will be able to access the forum & other parents going through the same.  I’m sure Admin will authorise soon.

Thanks so much for responding to our newest member, Jdmum.

Iwantmysweetgirlback, your account has been activated. You now have access to the members-only area. You'll find lots of support and advice in the members-only area. You are not alone.

(21-Dec-2020, 06:23 PM)Jdmum Wrote:

(21-Dec-2020, 03:50 PM)Iwantmysweetgirlback Wrote: My 15 year old daughter just told me she is trans.  It's all I can think about now.  I wish she would have come to me sooner.  She knows all the jargon and sounds like she's really been researching into it and is even already saying she wants to be accepted by her family but if they don't accept her she just won't them any more.  This sucks.

Once your account has been activated you will be able to access the forum & other parents going through the same.  I’m sure Admin will authorise soon.

(21-Dec-2020, 03:50 PM)Iwantmysweetgirlback Wrote: My 15 year old daughter just told me she is trans.  It's all I can think about now.  I wish she would have come to me sooner.  She knows all the jargon and sounds like she's really been researching into it and is even already saying she wants to be accepted by her family but if they don't accept her she just won't them any more.  This sucks.

(28-Nov-2017, 01:08 AM)southofgravity Wrote: Feel guilty for hoping this board was updating like a ticker tape.  Thousands and thousands of threads - too many to count - but still happy to read I'm not alone.

Admittedly, after I didn't sleep for a month prying - taking over transportation duties to remove influences - installing keyboard capture software - searching texts every night at 3am - I just went into a funk - a bit of a depression.  Found online the "dismal tide" was high, and there weren't any obvious voices.  Was I wrong?

Sure, it sounds crazy that 90% of the voices are screaming at those of us defining gender as evil.  Telling us we are outdated, yet telling our kids if they don't conform to the very gender norms we are hated for observing, then most likely their "identity is broken" - so they need to hate themselves and their body and mutilate it and take chemicals ASAP.  Why doesn't that sound like insanity anymore??

Seriously, why has HATE become disguised as "acceptance" - and how can we stop it?  How did a 19 year old introvert get convinced overnight that "accepting" herself for what she is - has only one alternative "death" - which apparently is the equivalent of a parent's ignorance and lack of understanding.  Yet, when I explain to her in clear, concise terms I love her "exactly" the way she is and she should celebrate her differences - I'm suddenly categorized - as she has been TAUGHT by this movement all of what is the equivalent of the "apologist tricks" of the un-accepting parent.  There is not a single 'logical', 'factual' argument that can be made...and yes...I found the videos on YouTube she 'started' with...and they are equally confused teens...'teaching' others [not out of hate, but simply out of a need for comradery] exactly what to say...what every parental response means...and very subtle in their revelation that "suicide" is a powerful tool.

...one day I spoke aloud about it to a single friend.  It wasn't easy.  His eyes got moist and he got antsy.  I thought he'd confided in my all his son's issues, but suddenly he felt relieved to tell me about a "3 months of shear Hell" where his introverted, socially awkward son - found the SAME influence very suddenly and quickly and it moved fast - but they got him here and there and moved quickly.  My friend calls the stress of it like "sitting with your back to something horrible, hoping it will disappear back into the darkness and not kill you" and I completely understand.   I also learned during that conversation it's a "dismal tide", parents afraid, scared to get kids in the 'wrong' counseling situation, in the wrong group, so afraid of tripping into the wrong influence...THARN.

   What is happening.  It's a question and a statement.

(24-Sep-2020, 05:08 PM)LostNotCalm Wrote: Hi everyone, I’m glad I have found this website and to know that I’m not alone. It has been a difficult journey and one I can’t see an end. It turned my life and specially my daughters life, upside down. What was once north, now is south, east is now west.
In primary school, my daughter never had many friends. In fact, she had one friend. Teachers would make me aware that my daughter would spend her school breaks sitting alone. It broke my heart.
We moved house (I’m separated from her dad) and she started high school in a different town.
No other kids from primary will be at her new school, and she could start fresh, making new friends.
She has always been very girly, loved make up, dressing up, all things girly. She started making friends and I was over the moon! I thought moving town was the best thing we ever done! How wrong was I!
I discovered that her new friends were part of the LGBT community. Don’t get me wrong, it’s amazing kids are getting support they need! My son is gay and I’m proud of him! Everyday! But soon after, my daughter decided she wanted to be a boy! I thought it was just a phase and everything will come to normal. Well, I’m here... If it would be something I knew it would come from her, if I could feel it in her bones, I would have done something about it a long time ago. But I trust my gut feeling, and I know that my daughter is following the steps of the ones that gave her attention. Who dedicated time to her. Who became her friends. She cut her her short, her name in school was changed. Now she wants to start hormone therapy. And now it’s very real to me! I’m scared, don’t know who to turn for help. She is very quiet, she has social anxiety, no friends outside the LGBT community and spends her life in front of the computer talking solely with other LGBT members. I want to talk to her but she’s really closed. She has a lot of social issues, no social skills whatsoever, except when she’s on the computer, where she comes to life! She talks forever, laughs, etc. For anyone else, she nods or waves. No words, no nothing. She doesn’t eat in front of anyone. She’s a follower of anything or anyone that gives her attention. I want her to go to therapy, to speak with someone about all it’s going on, but I’m scared she would leave the session with hormones without much thought. She would say that she always wanted to be a boy when I know for a fact that was exactly the opposite. The therapist wouldn’t know as he/she never met her. Not before, not now. It’s not that I don’t accept, transgender, gay, binary, etc. But I know this is a phase and I can’t let her ruin her future. She has 0 confidence in her self. She has never left the house to meet a friends. Outside the community, she has no one. I want to help her to discover her true self, to be confident and happy. I don’t know where to start, what to say to show her that I love her no matter what. But I can’t allow her to rush into transitioning without exhausting any other possibilities. If someone could share a word, I would very much appreciated it. I’m lost, I’m so lost, where I need to be strong.
Thank you for your time!