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Posted by treadingcarefully - 22-May-2020, 01:15 PM
(22-May-2020, 01:08 PM)Marge Bouvier Simpson Wrote: Welcome to both Treadingcarefully and RAVIC.

Your accounts have now been activated.

Thank you
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 22-May-2020, 01:08 PM
Welcome to both Treadingcarefully and RAVIC.

Your accounts have now been activated.
Posted by treadingcarefully - 22-May-2020, 12:02 PM
Hi, I've just joined, how do I get to the members only area? I'm not too keen on posting on public pages.
Posted by RAVIC - 22-May-2020, 12:28 AM
Hello, I'm glad I found this forum.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 12-May-2020, 08:21 PM
Hi Worried Dad,

Your account has been activated. Welcome to the forum. Your daughter's situation sounds quite similar to the stories of so many of our kids. I invite you to post your story in the members-only area where it will be seen by more members are more likely to get a response. The notifications in this area don't always work properly and members may not see this post.
Posted by thorn4115 - 09-May-2020, 08:46 PM
Oh you could be me 3 years ago.   My son suddenly decided he was a girl.  Last year of college.  Looking back I should have seen problems, honestly I did not see anything like this.  He had been really nasty and selfish with his siblings, they almost had stopped talking to him.  He was practically living with his girlfriend at college.  I think I was in shock the first 8 months.  I wish I had not been, I should have gone there and had him have an incomplete for the year and brought him home.  Even in his early 20's he was immature enough that I would have had some control over him. I wish I had thrown his cell phone and our internet over the hill then.   Now it is too late.  He graduated, came home, and began taking estrogen later in that year.  Worked in retail for a bit.  He moved out, which I am thankful for.  It honestly hurts terribly to see him this way.  He was a good looking kid.  I have been helping him a bit but recently told him that I am not going to anymore, he made his path and I am not contributing to this one.  He would like to have a good relationship with me.  I just cant.  We have not gone out even to dinner as a family since this all started and do not expect it to change any.  No vacations etc.  I am barely holding it together and his father cannot stand to be in the same room with him and hear him talk in a high sissy voice.   It is not easy.  Everyone here understands and prays for all of our kids
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 07-May-2020, 06:11 PM
Hello, mambear09. You've come to the right place.

You are smart to be concerned about finding a professional that won't immediately affirm. It is not impossible, but the odds of finding one aren't great.

Your membership has been activated. Welcome.
Posted by mamabear09 - 07-May-2020, 02:20 PM
So glad to have found this as well! After pointing out to my daughter (soon to be 11) earlier this week that she should start wearing a training bra, she came to me a couple of days later to tell me that she doesn't feel like a girl or a boy, and I needed to start using they/them and call her by a different name. I have told her we are not making any major changes until she talks to a professional, but I'm terrified that I won't be able to find one that will see this is likely just normal puberty fear and being a quirky kid compounded by coronavirus fears. There's more I won't go into here, but looking forward to getting some advice from people who won't rush to tell me to let a kid with an undeveloped brain make such major life decisions.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 02-May-2020, 01:49 PM
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So glad to have found this forum.  My 11 year old daughter who has just started her period says she hates her body and is fixated on gay you tubers and has recently said she is transgender.  She is having difficulty making friends at school, has been bullied and has not had a good male role model in her life so I think these are all contributing factors but the main issue is what I see as this trans cult on the internet, it sickens me that they are encouraging transitioning at such a young age.  Everything you read tells you to support it but my gut says absolutely not.  How do you all handle the internet use issue?  I would love to take the iPad away entirely but that is not realistic.  Would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on how you are handling this, what seems to work and doesn’t.
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Welcome, guest.

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. As you have probably read here in the previous posts, the members of this forum feel basically the same as you, that a kid who suddenly announces they are trans, especially one who is suddenly says they're trans
after going through some sort of personal life difficulty and/or binge-ing on YouTube, should definitely not be immediately affirmed and supported as trans. Your daughter sounds like so many of our own kids as far as what she is going through and the circumstances surrounding her new-found trans identity.

I agree that it is difficult to completely unplug a kid from the internet, especially now that most schools have gone completely online due to the coronavirus pandemic. There are some fairly decent parental control programs such as Disney Circle. Consider installing that for the short term, then perhaps unplugging her completely (or nearly completely) once the school year is over, which hopefully for your area is soon. Then keep her busy-busy-busy this summer with anything and everything you can think of: arts and crafts, sports, hiking, cooking, gardening, fishing, a musical instrument, a few new or extra chores, pet sitting, books and board games, coin collecting, maybe even a new pet, researching/planning your family's "dream" vacation for next summer (hopefully we can all travel again next summer!) etc. Anything and everything you can think of that would strike her fancy, keep her busy and/or get her doing something constructive and productive rather than navel-gazing and ruminating.

There is much more information in the members-only area. A new member joined just around the time of this post; if that is you, your membership is now activated. If that was not you who joined, I invite you to join so that you can access the members-only area.
Posted by - 02-May-2020, 11:55 AM
So glad to have found this forum. My 11 year old daughter who has just started her period says she hates her body and is fixated on gay you tubers and has recently said she is transgender. She is having difficulty making friends at school, has been bullied and has not had a good male role model in her life so I think these are all contributing factors but the main issue is what I see as this trans cult on the internet, it sickens me that they are encouraging transitioning at such a young age. Everything you read tells you to support it but my gut says absolutely not. How do you all handle the internet use issue? I would love to take the iPad away entirely but that is not realistic. Would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on how you are handling this, what seems to work and doesn’t.
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