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Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - Yesterday, 03:19 PM
(Yesterday, 04:31 AM)HD26 Wrote: I'm watching my 23 year old daughter basically kill herself. She told me she always knew but did not have the right words to express herself.  She has always been very shy,  anxious and in while away in college got depressed. Jr/snr year Broke up with her boyfriend and dated a girl. Before we could get our heads around that, she broke up with the girl & moved back home and announced she was trans. Because of her age my hands are tied.  She even found herself a counselor who told her where to get hormones. Everything I say is met with "I'll ask what he thinks" .. she is planning on hormone therapy. I met the counselor once and he told me i had to call her a "he" and that he would kick me out if I caused discomfort to my daughter.   My beautiful girl is gone. I'm left with a shell who is always on her phone watching.  .

Hello, HD26, your account has been activated.

I'm so sorry about your daughter. Your story sounds similar to so many of ours. It is especially tragic when this happens to our kdis at or after age 18, because hormones and other medical treatments are available on demand through ICATH (Informed Consent for Access to Trans Health). As you put it, parents' hands are tied. 

While there's not too much that you can do, other than loving your daughter and doing what you can to keep an open path and communication for her to return to herself, you have come to the right place for support, friendship, news and advice. Everyone here knows you are not phobic or cruel, and understands what you are going through and what you are dealing with.

Welcome. You are not alone.

(28-Oct-2021, 06:39 PM)ISA Wrote: Hi all. I am glad to have found this board, but I honestly wish I hadn’t had to, and I wish there weren’t so many of you here as well. It is nice to not feel so alone, but I hate that there are others going through this as well. Our 15 year old daughter announced a few months ago that she is trans. We know that is not who she truly is. She has never shown any inclination of this before. We have been reading book after book, and searching high and low for anything that can help us. We did finally find a counselor willing to work with her and take a neutral position and work on anxiety and depression to start with. We definitely need any help we can get. Right now, we are just praying without ceasing

A belated welcome to you, ISA.

I'm glad you found this forum but sad that you needed to. You are not alone.
Posted by HD26 - Yesterday, 04:31 AM
I'm watching my 23 year old daughter basically kill herself. She told me she always knew but did not have the right words to express herself.  She has always been very shy,  anxious and in while away in college got depressed. Jr/snr year Broke up with her boyfriend and dated a girl. Before we could get our heads around that, she broke up with the girl & moved back home and announced she was trans. Because of her age my hands are tied.  She even found herself a counselor who told her where to get hormones. Everything I say is met with "I'll ask what he thinks" .. she is planning on hormone therapy. I met the counselor once and he told me i had to call her a "he" and that he would kick me out if I caused discomfort to my daughter.   My beautiful girl is gone. I'm left with a shell who is always on her phone watching.  .
Posted by ISA - 28-Oct-2021, 06:39 PM
Hi all. I am glad to have found this board, but I honestly wish I hadn’t had to, and I wish there weren’t so many of you here as well. It is nice to not feel so alone, but I hate that there are others going through this as well. Our 15 year old daughter announced a few months ago that she is trans. We know that is not who she truly is. She has never shown any inclination of this before. We have been reading book after book, and searching high and low for anything that can help us. We did finally find a counselor willing to work with her and take a neutral position and work on anxiety and depression to start with. We definitely need any help we can get. Right now, we are just praying without ceasing
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 25-Oct-2021, 06:36 PM
(25-Oct-2021, 02:00 PM)soconcerned Wrote: Hi, I registered but didn't get an activation email and don't think I can see everything. Thanks!

Hello and welcome, soconcerned.

Thanks for your patience and my apologies for the delay. All memberships must be manually activated by a moderator. Your membership has now been activated. Welcome to the forum.
Posted by soconcerned - 25-Oct-2021, 02:00 PM
Hi, I registered but didn't get an activation email and don't think I can see everything. Thanks!
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 22-Oct-2021, 02:19 AM
(22-Oct-2021, 01:40 AM)rathee Wrote: Hi,

Which state is better for ROGD kids? I don't believe in instant affirmation and would like to buy in some time to address underlying causes. Kindly advise a good place to relocate to, where I can get some support from similar parents as well, if possible. Thank you very much.

Best regards

Hello, rathee, and welcome to the board. 

This map might be helpful to you, as it shows states that have passed anti-conversion therapy laws. These laws, which were designed to prevent cruel, abusive, unethical methods used to supposedly "turn" gay people straight, have been applied to kids who self-identify as trans and basically ban talk therapy (though there may be ways therapists can get around that). 

https://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps/co...on_therapy

Now that your membership has been activated, I invite you to post your question in the members-only area, where more members are likely to see your post and you are more likely to receive responses.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this but glad you found the forum. Welcome.
Posted by rathee - 22-Oct-2021, 01:40 AM
Hi,

Which state is better for ROGD kids? I don't believe in instant affirmation and would like to buy in some time to address underlying causes. Kindly advise a good place to relocate to, where I can get some support from similar parents as well, if possible. Thank you very much.

Best regards
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 17-Oct-2021, 06:12 PM
(17-Oct-2021, 05:23 PM)Lighthouse Wrote: Hello, I registered and activated my account. I can’t see the members only forum. If someone could help me with that, that would be great. Thanks

Hello,

Your account has been activated.

Thanks for your patience, as all new accounts must be manually activated by a mod before they gain access to the members-only area.

Welcome.
Posted by Lighthouse - 17-Oct-2021, 05:23 PM
Hello, I registered and activated my account. I can’t see the members only forum. If someone could help me with that, that would be great. Thanks
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 28-Sep-2021, 02:11 AM
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I have a 12 year old that has decided that she is a trans boy.  Need help in the Los Angeles area.
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Hello,

I encourage you to register as a member, so you will have access to our members-only area. Our members don't frequent this public portion of the board too much. To become a member, click on "register" in the black bar at the top of the screen and follow the prompts. All registrations musy be manually activated, which can take a few hours of maybe even a day.

 I'm sorry about what your family is dealing with. I hope you'll join the board as a member. I think you'll find it helpful. You are not alone.

Take care.
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