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Posted by Begintosee - 04-Dec-2021, 01:20 AM
(20-Oct-2017, 12:43 AM)natsblog30 Wrote: This is so valuable when there are so few resources for parents grappling with these issues, so much that is written in the media and online takes such a completely non-critical look at these issues and we need more thorough questioning of the principles behind this great rush towards transgenderism.  My daughter is nearly 16 and for the last 2 years has gone from being a happy girl to being so depressed and consumed with adopting a male identity, after being strongly influenced by school friends and stuff she watched on the internet.  She is convinced she hates her girl body and is really a boy however she has never been so unhappy and confused and I watch on with huge anxiety hoping she will reconcile with who she really is and get back to being her happy self again.  I know how I felt myself, growing up and feeling uncomfortable with my adolescent body and shy and awkward. She is very sensitive and has been very much the same as I was approaching puberty, but the difference now is that young girls can ask google "why do I hate my breasts and my girl body?"  and the answer comes back very swiftly and surely  "because you have gender dysphoria and you will never be happy being a girl! you are really a boy in a girls body!  Embrace the real you!  Tell your parents to call you male pronouns and if they refuse tell them you are at risk of suicide if they don't support you!!!".  Girls aren't getting the chance to slowly grow into their new bodies and gradually find their identity as a young woman who can doing anything a boy can do!  My daughter has always been very feminine and confident but now she is so anxious living under a cloud of uncertainty about her future.  She is binding her breasts and wearing boys clothes and doesn't want to go out anymore, she just wants to be on the internet and assume her male identity online.  My beautiful girl has been brainwashed and I am gently trying to entice her off the internet and shower her with love and patience so she keeps trusting in my instincts and gives herself a chance at being a girl.  
It makes me so sad to see the trend amongst young women to join the transgender cult and its definitely a huge blow for feminism.   The medical world is being swept along before proper research has been done to determine the far reaching consequences of the hormone treatments on physical and mental health.  Mutilating surgeryies are being done and its some sort of crazy social experiment that only us in the 1st world areas can afford to indulge in.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 03-Dec-2021, 02:31 AM
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I just found this board - my 13 year old told us this summer she is a boy.  She told me via text.  She never showed any signs of dysphoria.  She was always long hair and pink and glitter and sparkles and bows.  She started experiencing severe social anxiety at the beginning of puberty and then made some new friends in middle school.  One of these friends had a older sister who came out as trans.  A couple of years later so did the younger sister and then a whole flock of girls in my daughters grade.  About a month later she told us she’s a boy.  We found out that she had been swallowed whole by tik tok and you tube tutorials basically teaching her that God isn’t real and that if she’s feeling anxious it’s because she’s a boy.  I desperately want to get her into therapy but I’m scared to take her to anyone that will affirm this so we have just been holding steady and loving her like crazy and telling her she is a girl.  I would love to be approved into the private forum so someone can help me get through this and find a therapist who will help us.
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Hello, and welcome.

I'm sorry for what you're going through. It's a crazy world when kids' self-diagnoses are taken at face value, and some people are insisting there's no way social contagion is involved, even when "flocks" of kids are claiming to be trans. 

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Posted by - 03-Dec-2021, 12:37 AM
I just found this board - my 13 year old told us this summer she is a boy. She told me via text. She never showed any signs of dysphoria. She was always long hair and pink and glitter and sparkles and bows. She started experiencing severe social anxiety at the beginning of puberty and then made some new friends in middle school. One of these friends had a older sister who came out as trans. A couple of years later so did the younger sister and then a whole flock of girls in my daughters grade. About a month later she told us she’s a boy. We found out that she had been swallowed whole by tik tok and you tube tutorials basically teaching her that God isn’t real and that if she’s feeling anxious it’s because she’s a boy. I desperately want to get her into therapy but I’m scared to take her to anyone that will affirm this so we have just been holding steady and loving her like crazy and telling her she is a girl. I would love to be approved into the private forum so someone can help me get through this and find a therapist who will help us.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 25-Oct-2021, 06:13 PM
(25-Oct-2021, 03:32 PM)soconcerned Wrote: I finally got the email but still can't see members sections

Welcome, and thanks for your patience. All memberships must be manually activated by a moderator, and this can take time depending upon moderator availabily.

Your account has been activated. I hope you find the forum helpful.
Posted by soconcerned - 25-Oct-2021, 03:32 PM
I finally got the email but still can't see members sections
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 07-Oct-2021, 05:09 PM
(07-Oct-2021, 03:46 PM)Truth Seeker Wrote: I am SO happy to have found this group. Our 14-year-old daughter told us about a month ago she wants to change her pronouns to he/him and change her name. She was a very girly little girl, but since adolescence she has become much less feminine. Which is fine - I don't like gender stereotypes either! She was extremely angry when she started her period, and she vociferously says she doesn't want kids. She is dressing in baggy clothes and wearing her hair to cover her face, but less than a year ago she was really into cos play with frilly dresses and wigs. We've been in watch and wait mode, but now she is telling us she wants to pursue double mastectomy when she turns 18. She seems to be getting more serious about what we were hoping would just be a phase she would shift out of once she started high school. As I read more about gender "affirming" care, I've become more and more distressed about where we can go to help navigate this. I have so many questions about what is it we are actually affirming, while we are encouraging our daughters to reject their female bodies! I feel so sad that she is in danger of hijacking her high school experience, and we can't have normal parent/daughter conversations with her about normal growing up problems. My wish for her is to love her body, to grow into her sexuality and experience it positively. There is so much media trans-positive messaging, it's a nightmare to navigate, and we just have no idea how to talk to her about all of this. I can't wait until my account is approved and I can explore here to get advice and provider recommendations.

Hello and welcome.

I'm sorry to hear about what your daughter is going through. I hope you'll find the forum helpful. 

Your account has been activated.
Posted by Truth Seeker - 07-Oct-2021, 03:46 PM
I am SO happy to have found this group. Our 14-year-old daughter told us about a month ago she wants to change her pronouns to he/him and change her name. She was a very girly little girl, but since adolescence she has become much less feminine. Which is fine - I don't like gender stereotypes either! She was extremely angry when she started her period, and she vociferously says she doesn't want kids. She is dressing in baggy clothes and wearing her hair to cover her face, but less than a year ago she was really into cos play with frilly dresses and wigs. We've been in watch and wait mode, but now she is telling us she wants to pursue double mastectomy when she turns 18. She seems to be getting more serious about what we were hoping would just be a phase she would shift out of once she started high school. As I read more about gender "affirming" care, I've become more and more distressed about where we can go to help navigate this. I have so many questions about what is it we are actually affirming, while we are encouraging our daughters to reject their female bodies! I feel so sad that she is in danger of hijacking her high school experience, and we can't have normal parent/daughter conversations with her about normal growing up problems. My wish for her is to love her body, to grow into her sexuality and experience it positively. There is so much media trans-positive messaging, it's a nightmare to navigate, and we just have no idea how to talk to her about all of this. I can't wait until my account is approved and I can explore here to get advice and provider recommendations.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 28-Sep-2021, 02:06 AM
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Hello, I am the mom of a 16-year-old girl who has gender dysphoria. Also anxiety and self-harm. She was always a very girly girl, much like many of the kids described here. She is starting with a psychiatrist this week and I am hoping to find some support for parents like me. Can my membership be approved?

Thank you,
HPS
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Hello, 

Yes, I can activate your membership. Have you joined yet? If not, click on "regisre" in the black bar at the top of the screen to create a membership. Let me know if you need help.
Posted by - 27-Sep-2021, 06:20 PM
Hello, I am the mom of a 16-year-old girl who has gender dysphoria. Also anxiety and self-harm. She was always a very girly girl, much like many of the kids described here. She is starting with a psychiatrist this week and I am hoping to find some support for parents like me. Can my membership be approved?

Thank you,
HPS
Posted by Momof2boys - 19-Sep-2021, 02:10 AM
(27-Aug-2021, 07:41 PM)Waiting for some light Wrote:
(15-Jun-2021, 05:21 PM)Drowningonmyown Wrote: I'm new here My 16 year old son announced last August after spending 5 months isolated in his room on the Internet that he believed he was trans,To say we were shocked is an understatement anyway we struggled to understand where this had come from and after a lengthy talk and a few uncomfortable weeks he said he didn't think he was just felt he was unhappy with himself there is  history of depression and anxiety Anyway another 9 months of isolation and Internet and a recent friend who has come out as gender fluid and he's announced it again but just to me his mother this time I'm struggling so badly with this I just need to talk but everyone I've reached out to is telling me to start calling him she and get referrals for gender reassignment I'm just so lost up until 9 months ago this has never been mentioned or even hinted at he has 2 sisters too and has never showed any interest in any of their interests or past times he is also immature for his age and has mild ADD please someone tell me im not alone
My situation is similar. My 17 yo son just told me crying that he thinks he is trans. He has been isolated because covid, addicted to his computer and games; and hopefully now, that school is open, things will get better. He goes to an all boy school so there is the added need to conform to social norms. But it has been very difficult, for him who feels anxious and depressed and us as a family.

I was completely blindsided two weeks ago by my 17yo son emailing me to say he is trans and is ready for hormone replacement therapy. I’ve zero idea where this has come from. I’ve searched and searched for any signs that perhaps I missed, but have come up with nothing. He left for college in Colorado a month ago. There were no indications beforehand. He is open to meeting with a therapist but adamant about starting hormones. After reading and now searching and searching, I’ve not been able to find a therapist who won’t immediately affirm his wish to be female. I’m supporting him in that I tell him that he has my unconditional love and I will provide access to therapy. However, I don’t want him jumping into things. He seems to have done internet research but also gets lots of his information from Discord groups, which all seem to be affirming his wishes. I need help finding him a therapist who will be neutral about the gender dysphoria and actually get a good mental health assessment. He’s spend an enormous amount of time sequestered in his room over the last year and a half with COVid and virtual school. Did that contribute to this new revelation he has just shared?? Help!
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