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Posted by ptbp - 29-Apr-2021, 06:38 AM
(28-Jan-2019, 07:15 PM)lovingbutconcernedparent Wrote: [quote pid='20189' dateline='1540674184']
I know this is not a local forum. However, if there are any parents in the Seattle WA area who would like to form a parental support group in person, please reach out to me. My daughter is 14 and never had any childhood markers.

Hi, I just joined and see that you’re in Seattle which is where I live. Have you connected with anyone in Seattle? My daughter is 14 and just announced she is confused and says she is more boy than girl. I’d like to connect if you can. 
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Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 18-Apr-2021, 03:24 AM
[quote pid='46973' dateline='1618684439']
I very much want to register for your site but no matter what username I put in the lettering always comes up with red and when I push submit registration it just redirect me back to the username as if it won’t except it. I have tried up to 14 random letters and it still won’t except it. Any ideas?
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Hello. I'm sorry you haven't been able to successfully join. This is highly unusual. I do not recall this happening before. Perhaps if you could try joining while using a different browser, or joining after clearing your history and cookies? Those aren't the most innovative suggestions but perhaps they will work.

Please post back and let me know how that goes. We will figure out something so that you can join.
Posted by - 17-Apr-2021, 06:56 PM
Hello. I am new to this forum as well. Just reading over some of the post here has been very comforting and reassuring. My beautiful daughter who will third turn 13 tomorrow told us four weeks ago and she thinks she might be a boy. Our lives have been shattered.  I allowed her to cut off her long beautiful golden curls into a short boyish hairstyle. She is seeing a Christian psychologist who we really like and will see a psychiatrist for the first time next week. All of us seem to begin or coincide with the starting of the pandemic. She is now severely depressed and anxious and withdrawn. I feel like I am losing my little girl. I have taken a Leave of absence from my from my job as a teacher because I am unable to function very well right now due to all of this.
Posted by - 17-Apr-2021, 06:33 PM
I very much want to register for your site but no matter what username I put in the lettering always comes up with red and when I push submit registration it just redirect me back to the username as if it won’t except it. I have tried up to 14 random letters and it still won’t except it. Any ideas?
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 16-Apr-2021, 01:41 PM
(14-Apr-2021, 04:44 AM)Rang Wrote: Hello I'm new to the forum. Today my 12 year daughter told me she is a boy. She wants me to call her son. I told her I love her but will not be calling her son, she was born a girl. I feel in today's society this way of life is being pushed and if I feel different I'm some how not understanding or an awful person. To be honest I have no idea what to do. One thing I won't do is play in to this gender role. She is my daughter and I love her but I will not be calling her my son because she is not. I have always been there for her and still will be. 

I'm I a horrible parent because I will not follow today's society and just go along with my daughter calling her my son and treating her like she is a boy? I really need some advice. Thank you

Hi Rang,

Sorry for the slow reply. I'm just now seeing your post. Your account has been activated; welcome to the board. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter and what your family is dealing with. 

I invite you to post your story and questions in the members-only area, because members don't frequent this public area of the forum too often. You'll also find lots of information and advice in the members-only area. 

Hope to see you there.
Posted by Rang - 14-Apr-2021, 04:44 AM
Hello I'm new to the forum. Today my 12 year daughter told me she is a boy. She wants me to call her son. I told her I love her but will not be calling her son, she was born a girl. I feel in today's society this way of life is being pushed and if I feel different I'm some how not understanding or an awful person. To be honest I have no idea what to do. One thing I won't do is play in to this gender role. She is my daughter and I love her but I will not be calling her my son because she is not. I have always been there for her and still will be. 

I'm I a horrible parent because I will not follow today's society and just go along with my daughter calling her my son and treating her like she is a boy? I really need some advice. Thank you
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 11-Apr-2021, 04:44 PM
(11-Apr-2021, 04:38 PM)ccrocker Wrote:
(08-Apr-2021, 02:55 PM)Marge Bouvier Simpson Wrote: [quote pid='46798' dateline='1617891738']
(12-Feb-2021, 03:34 AM)Lisa_E Wrote: I have a 14 yo daughter who is witty, smart, beautiful and has always suffered from FOMO (fear of missing out). We live in Ontario Canada (near Toronto) and have been in pandemic lockdown since March 2020. Our family has gone through drastic changes since 2016 (divorce, two house moves, job loss (dad), girlfriends, job changes, and ... puberty!). Summer 2020 she comes out as bi-sexual. Fall 2020 ... she starts insisting that she cuts her hair shorter and shorter. Winter 2020/2021 she comes out as trans. This is happening all so fast. She is the kid who fights for the underdog and would be burning her bra if we were in 1960. She is (IMO) not trans but rather... lonely, wanting, needing... feeling lost and disconnected. She is acting as though she is in a cult and drinking the kool aid by the gallon. She wants desperately to be the 'cool' kid... the outrageous one... the brave one... the one that is a bit different and gets the attention she desires. But is looking for affirmation in all the wrong places. Is there any other parent in the Toronto area that has or is dealing with this? While I don't believe she is trans and I'm pretty sure she doesn't believe she is trans... she would rather save face and do something crazy (b/c she's 14) than admit she might not be. At this point I feel like we are in a game of chicken or go and it's about saving face. Has anyone else experienced this as well?  My end goal.. to keep her safe, healthy and her options OPEN!
Hi Lisa, I feel for you.  For the last few days, i've been extremely emotional because my daughter has been doing the same thing and she is only 10.5 but has already reached puberty and it seems like she spiraled downhill since the pandemic, anxiety has gone up, feelings of depression.  She says she now identifies as a boy and wants to cut her hair short.  She's so beautiful and has a beautiful female body and it hurts to my deepest being that she's going through this and our family is now dealing with this.  My wife doesn't think she can handle this and I'm not sure I can either, let alone our relatives who don't really know yet.  I didn't expect this to ever happen to any of my children and i'm now fearful for her life and how it's going to turn out.  I'm in Toronto as well and am looking at calling a psychiatrist about this so she can talk to someone.  I'm not activated yet but i'd like to connect at some point with you.  Thanks.

Hello, guest, and welcome. Your account has been activated. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter but glad you found the forum. 

Be very careful about any doctor or therapist you take your daughter to. Interview them before allowing them to see your daughter -- whether over the phone, by email or in person, and without your daughter present -- to get their views on how they would approach treatment for a girl in your daughter's situation. Most of them will immediately affirm your daughter as a boy rather than helping her look for reasons that might be causing her to wish she was not a girl. You'll have to carefully sniff out someone who won't.

And again, welcome. I hope you'll find the forum helpful.
I am also in a similar situation. Prior to the pandemic in 6th grade my 12 year old daughter told me about an older student in 8th grade that was "trans". She made friends with other students who saw themselves as LGB but she always said she was the "straight" one.  In May, after 2 months into lock down and school closure, she told my husband, her brother and I she was bisexual. Then in July she told me she was nonbinary and wanted to use the pronouns "they/them".  I met this was surprise and told her that I would be unable to do that.  That I loved her very much but was not comfortable with this idea.  As the fall approached she expressed the desire to get her hair cut shorter and then shorter.  She was spending a great deal time on the internet due to a hybrid school schedule, but this had been unfortunately consistent throughout the whole lockdown. It was becoming more obvious to me as to where this was going but we did not have a candid conversation.  In January she told me she wanted to be a boy.  And that she had felt like this since the summer. I had some tears and did talk with her in a caring way. But we did not make this a focus of our everyday life. I knew her friends were using a male name for her, but they all had nicknames that were male.  She had been on Prozac due to increased anxiety since December, which didn't seem to be making things better.  In late February early March she told her teachers she wanted them to call her by her male name.  We were unaware.  She also started requesting people to use he/him pronouns.  None of which we were doing in the home.   In March she expressed feelings of self harm and she was hospitalized. Our lives have all been turned upside down.  During the hospitalization we were pretty much forced to affirm her new male name and pronouns.  It was very difficult to have your child suffer such a traumatic experience and not be able to call the hospital and ask for your child by the name you have given them.  She is home now with no expressed thoughts of self harm and on a new medication.  We have been spending a great deal of time together which has been nice and we reduced her online access significantly. Her periods have always been difficult, frequent with cramps and some vomiting.  I believe this has contributed to her dislike of her body.  She is beautiful, caring, smart.  My husband and her brother want to help her navigate this in a healthy way.  I know she was not born in the wrong body.  I feel she has been brainwashed by the internet and the lack of social contact created through the pandemic was a breeding ground for her dysphoria.  I thought this before I even started reading information or other peoples post, and now realize we are not alone.  I am hopeful that she will overcome this but I am so scared for what the future holds.
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Welcome, ccrocker, to the forum. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's troubles but glad you found this site. Your membership has been activated. I hope you find the forum helpful.
Posted by Crocks - 11-Apr-2021, 04:38 PM
(08-Apr-2021, 02:55 PM)Marge Bouvier Simpson Wrote: [quote pid='46798' dateline='1617891738']
(12-Feb-2021, 03:34 AM)Lisa_E Wrote: I have a 14 yo daughter who is witty, smart, beautiful and has always suffered from FOMO (fear of missing out). We live in Ontario Canada (near Toronto) and have been in pandemic lockdown since March 2020. Our family has gone through drastic changes since 2016 (divorce, two house moves, job loss (dad), girlfriends, job changes, and ... puberty!). Summer 2020 she comes out as bi-sexual. Fall 2020 ... she starts insisting that she cuts her hair shorter and shorter. Winter 2020/2021 she comes out as trans. This is happening all so fast. She is the kid who fights for the underdog and would be burning her bra if we were in 1960. She is (IMO) not trans but rather... lonely, wanting, needing... feeling lost and disconnected. She is acting as though she is in a cult and drinking the kool aid by the gallon. She wants desperately to be the 'cool' kid... the outrageous one... the brave one... the one that is a bit different and gets the attention she desires. But is looking for affirmation in all the wrong places. Is there any other parent in the Toronto area that has or is dealing with this? While I don't believe she is trans and I'm pretty sure she doesn't believe she is trans... she would rather save face and do something crazy (b/c she's 14) than admit she might not be. At this point I feel like we are in a game of chicken or go and it's about saving face. Has anyone else experienced this as well?  My end goal.. to keep her safe, healthy and her options OPEN!
Hi Lisa, I feel for you.  For the last few days, i've been extremely emotional because my daughter has been doing the same thing and she is only 10.5 but has already reached puberty and it seems like she spiraled downhill since the pandemic, anxiety has gone up, feelings of depression.  She says she now identifies as a boy and wants to cut her hair short.  She's so beautiful and has a beautiful female body and it hurts to my deepest being that she's going through this and our family is now dealing with this.  My wife doesn't think she can handle this and I'm not sure I can either, let alone our relatives who don't really know yet.  I didn't expect this to ever happen to any of my children and i'm now fearful for her life and how it's going to turn out.  I'm in Toronto as well and am looking at calling a psychiatrist about this so she can talk to someone.  I'm not activated yet but i'd like to connect at some point with you.  Thanks.

Hello, guest, and welcome. Your account has been activated. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter but glad you found the forum. 

Be very careful about any doctor or therapist you take your daughter to. Interview them before allowing them to see your daughter -- whether over the phone, by email or in person, and without your daughter present -- to get their views on how they would approach treatment for a girl in your daughter's situation. Most of them will immediately affirm your daughter as a boy rather than helping her look for reasons that might be causing her to wish she was not a girl. You'll have to carefully sniff out someone who won't.

And again, welcome. I hope you'll find the forum helpful.
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I am also in a similar situation. Prior to the pandemic in 6th grade my 12 year old daughter told me about an older student in 8th grade that was "trans". She made friends with other students who saw themselves as LGB but she always said she was the "straight" one.  In May, after 2 months into lock down and school closure, she told my husband, her brother and I she was bisexual. Then in July she told me she was nonbinary and wanted to use the pronouns "they/them".  I met this was surprise and told her that I would be unable to do that.  That I loved her very much but was not comfortable with this idea.  As the fall approached she expressed the desire to get her hair cut shorter and then shorter.  She was spending a great deal time on the internet due to a hybrid school schedule, but this had been unfortunately consistent throughout the whole lockdown. It was becoming more obvious to me as to where this was going but we did not have a candid conversation.  In January she told me she wanted to be a boy.  And that she had felt like this since the summer. I had some tears and did talk with her in a caring way. But we did not make this a focus of our everyday life. I knew her friends were using a male name for her, but they all had nicknames that were male.  She had been on Prozac due to increased anxiety since December, which didn't seem to be making things better.  In late February early March she told her teachers she wanted them to call her by her male name.  We were unaware.  She also started requesting people to use he/him pronouns.  None of which we were doing in the home.   In March she expressed feelings of self harm and she was hospitalized. Our lives have all been turned upside down.  During the hospitalization we were pretty much forced to affirm her new male name and pronouns.  It was very difficult to have your child suffer such a traumatic experience and not be able to call the hospital and ask for your child by the name you have given them.  She is home now with no expressed thoughts of self harm and on a new medication.  We have been spending a great deal of time together which has been nice and we reduced her online access significantly. Her periods have always been difficult, frequent with cramps and some vomiting.  I believe this has contributed to her dislike of her body.  She is beautiful, caring, smart.  My husband and her brother want to help her navigate this in a healthy way.  I know she was not born in the wrong body.  I feel she has been brainwashed by the internet and the lack of social contact created through the pandemic was a breeding ground for her dysphoria.  I thought this before I even started reading information or other peoples post, and now realize we are not alone.  I am hopeful that she will overcome this but I am so scared for what the future holds.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 08-Apr-2021, 02:55 PM
[quote pid='46798' dateline='1617891738']
(12-Feb-2021, 03:34 AM)Lisa_E Wrote: I have a 14 yo daughter who is witty, smart, beautiful and has always suffered from FOMO (fear of missing out). We live in Ontario Canada (near Toronto) and have been in pandemic lockdown since March 2020. Our family has gone through drastic changes since 2016 (divorce, two house moves, job loss (dad), girlfriends, job changes, and ... puberty!). Summer 2020 she comes out as bi-sexual. Fall 2020 ... she starts insisting that she cuts her hair shorter and shorter. Winter 2020/2021 she comes out as trans. This is happening all so fast. She is the kid who fights for the underdog and would be burning her bra if we were in 1960. She is (IMO) not trans but rather... lonely, wanting, needing... feeling lost and disconnected. She is acting as though she is in a cult and drinking the kool aid by the gallon. She wants desperately to be the 'cool' kid... the outrageous one... the brave one... the one that is a bit different and gets the attention she desires. But is looking for affirmation in all the wrong places. Is there any other parent in the Toronto area that has or is dealing with this? While I don't believe she is trans and I'm pretty sure she doesn't believe she is trans... she would rather save face and do something crazy (b/c she's 14) than admit she might not be. At this point I feel like we are in a game of chicken or go and it's about saving face. Has anyone else experienced this as well?  My end goal.. to keep her safe, healthy and her options OPEN!
Hi Lisa, I feel for you.  For the last few days, i've been extremely emotional because my daughter has been doing the same thing and she is only 10.5 but has already reached puberty and it seems like she spiraled downhill since the pandemic, anxiety has gone up, feelings of depression.  She says she now identifies as a boy and wants to cut her hair short.  She's so beautiful and has a beautiful female body and it hurts to my deepest being that she's going through this and our family is now dealing with this.  My wife doesn't think she can handle this and I'm not sure I can either, let alone our relatives who don't really know yet.  I didn't expect this to ever happen to any of my children and i'm now fearful for her life and how it's going to turn out.  I'm in Toronto as well and am looking at calling a psychiatrist about this so she can talk to someone.  I'm not activated yet but i'd like to connect at some point with you.  Thanks.
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Hello, guest, and welcome. Your account has been activated. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter but glad you found the forum. 

Be very careful about any doctor or therapist you take your daughter to. Interview them before allowing them to see your daughter -- whether over the phone, by email or in person, and without your daughter present -- to get their views on how they would approach treatment for a girl in your daughter's situation. Most of them will immediately affirm your daughter as a boy rather than helping her look for reasons that might be causing her to wish she was not a girl. You'll have to carefully sniff out someone who won't.

And again, welcome. I hope you'll find the forum helpful.
Posted by - 08-Apr-2021, 02:22 PM
(12-Feb-2021, 03:34 AM)Lisa_E Wrote: I have a 14 yo daughter who is witty, smart, beautiful and has always suffered from FOMO (fear of missing out). We live in Ontario Canada (near Toronto) and have been in pandemic lockdown since March 2020. Our family has gone through drastic changes since 2016 (divorce, two house moves, job loss (dad), girlfriends, job changes, and ... puberty!). Summer 2020 she comes out as bi-sexual. Fall 2020 ... she starts insisting that she cuts her hair shorter and shorter. Winter 2020/2021 she comes out as trans. This is happening all so fast. She is the kid who fights for the underdog and would be burning her bra if we were in 1960. She is (IMO) not trans but rather... lonely, wanting, needing... feeling lost and disconnected. She is acting as though she is in a cult and drinking the kool aid by the gallon. She wants desperately to be the 'cool' kid... the outrageous one... the brave one... the one that is a bit different and gets the attention she desires. But is looking for affirmation in all the wrong places. Is there any other parent in the Toronto area that has or is dealing with this? While I don't believe she is trans and I'm pretty sure she doesn't believe she is trans... she would rather save face and do something crazy (b/c she's 14) than admit she might not be. At this point I feel like we are in a game of chicken or go and it's about saving face. Has anyone else experienced this as well?  My end goal.. to keep her safe, healthy and her options OPEN!
Hi Lisa, I feel for you.  For the last few days, i've been extremely emotional because my daughter has been doing the same thing and she is only 10.5 but has already reached puberty and it seems like she spiraled downhill since the pandemic, anxiety has gone up, feelings of depression.  She says she now identifies as a boy and wants to cut her hair short.  She's so beautiful and has a beautiful female body and it hurts to my deepest being that she's going through this and our family is now dealing with this.  My wife doesn't think she can handle this and I'm not sure I can either, let alone our relatives who don't really know yet.  I didn't expect this to ever happen to any of my children and i'm now fearful for her life and how it's going to turn out.  I'm in Toronto as well and am looking at calling a psychiatrist about this so she can talk to someone.  I'm not activated yet but i'd like to connect at some point with you.  Thanks.
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