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Posted by deeply-concerned - 29-May-2023, 02:53 PM
Yes, Zuzu, I cry every day. You are not alone. My daughter is even further down this path taking testosterone, and I too wished I had seen the signs earlier, seen that it was more than a fad or a phase. But you are not alone, and you are in the right place finding this board, and many other resources such as parentsofrogdkids.com and genspect.org, and more. We are stuck in a horrible wave of a cult that hopefully will eventually die down, but our daughters are enmired in it, and it came out of the blue, and our lives may never be the same. But you are in the right place.
Posted by zuzu - 28-May-2023, 08:19 PM
Hello

I'm desperate and don't know where to turn. My daughter will be 18 in March and wants ALL OF IT! She wants hormones, surgery and all the glorious euphoria she sees posted on social media. She is 1 of 5 in a friend group saying they are trans and this child was "all girl" growing up. She never had any leaning toward boy stuff, toys, clothes etc. At 17 she wants a boyfriend desperately and has never even held hands romantically. Its so sad because she is presenting in a way that pushes boys away from her. The kinds of boys she's interested in don't want a a trans boy, they want a GIRL! When this began I asked, "When did you start feeling like this?" She said, "I saw a TikTok and I liked it." REALLY!? How the hell does a kid see a 1 minute video and decide to permanently alter their entire being? We affirmed at first and for about a year and a half until doing some research about side effects and regret. Now realizing that my daughter has fallen victim to the social contagion. We've been trying to appeal to her common sense and show the other side that no one talks about on social media. The surgery gone wrong, the horrific side effects and the lifetime medicalization that she'd be subjected to. But she's a child so she thinks she already knows. Her heels are dug in deep and I regret ever giving this any attention. I wish I'd never affirmed and bought a binder for her to deform her chest with. I want to go back in time and say no to the hair and the clothes and tell her she is feeling normal thoughts at 15 of being insecure and not happy with a changing body. I want to go back and take the phone away, change schools, get away from the toxic friend group and notice the changes I missed because I didn't think it was a problem. I want a re-do with Covid-19 so instead of trapping her in the house with a phone to scroll TikTok, I'd let her out to see other kids and socialize. The guilt is overwhelming and I fear it will be there until the end of my days. Does anyone else cry everyday?
Posted by Mamaheart - 21-Apr-2023, 02:27 PM
(20-Apr-2023, 07:47 PM)hdavid5 Wrote: Hello all, I'm a therapist located in Utah who specializes in working with teenagers or adults who struggle with gender dysphoria or who identify as trans (and their parents who need support as well). I am part of the Gender Exploratory Therapy Association. We will be starting an alliance between therapists in Utah (and hopefully across the United States) to help parents in need. I'm happy to help consult (I can do free consultations to anyone in the U.S.) or provide therapy (Unfortunately, I can only do therapy in the state of Utah right now) to those who may need additional support. Here is my website with contact info - https://www.oasis-ft.com - please feel free to email and/or call/text me. - David

Hi David, are the consultations for the parents to consult about how to help their child, or is the consultation for the teen?
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 21-Apr-2023, 03:21 AM
(20-Apr-2023, 07:47 PM)hdavid5 Wrote: Hello all, I'm a therapist located in Utah who specializes in working with teenagers or adults who struggle with gender dysphoria or who identify as trans (and their parents who need support as well). I am part of the Gender Exploratory Therapy Association. We will be starting an alliance between therapists in Utah (and hopefully across the United States) to help parents in need. I'm happy to help consult (I can do free consultations to anyone in the U.S.) or provide therapy (Unfortunately, I can only do therapy in the state of Utah right now) to those who may need additional support. Here is my website with contact info - https://www.oasis-ft.com - please feel free to email and/or call/text me. - David

Hello, hdavid15, and thanks for joining the board.

Thanks also for the work you do! We need you and several thousand more of you!
Posted by hdavid5 - 20-Apr-2023, 07:47 PM
Hello all, I'm a therapist located in Utah who specializes in working with teenagers or adults who struggle with gender dysphoria or who identify as trans (and their parents who need support as well). I am part of the Gender Exploratory Therapy Association. We will be starting an alliance between therapists in Utah (and hopefully across the United States) to help parents in need. I'm happy to help consult (I can do free consultations to anyone in the U.S.) or provide therapy (Unfortunately, I can only do therapy in the state of Utah right now) to those who may need additional support. Here is my website with contact info - https://www.oasis-ft.com - please feel free to email and/or call/text me. - David
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 20-Apr-2023, 01:19 PM
(20-Apr-2023, 04:50 AM)jlynmc Wrote:
(23-Mar-2023, 03:59 PM)Mamaheart Wrote: I've just joined, and I also am just freshly into this with my daughter. I'm hopeful to jump into the member boards soon as this is just eating me up and consuming all of my thoughts. I have always had such good mama's intuition with her and in my gut I strongly feel this is not her truth. I don't know how to balance making sure she knows she is always loved for who she is with making sure she isn't in this place due to social media and as a way to cope with school anxiety.

This is exactly how i feel about my 15 yo daughter.  I am looking forward to support from this group.

Hello, jlynmc

Welcome to the board. Your account as been activated. 

I'm sorry yet another child is caught up in this madness. You've come to the right place for support. So many people just don't understand what parents in this situation are going through, but this group does.
Posted by WantMyDaughterBack - 20-Apr-2023, 04:50 AM
(23-Mar-2023, 03:59 PM)Mamaheart Wrote: I've just joined, and I also am just freshly into this with my daughter. I'm hopeful to jump into the member boards soon as this is just eating me up and consuming all of my thoughts. I have always had such good mama's intuition with her and in my gut I strongly feel this is not her truth. I don't know how to balance making sure she knows she is always loved for who she is with making sure she isn't in this place due to social media and as a way to cope with school anxiety.

This is exactly how i feel about my 15 yo daughter.  I am looking forward to support from this group.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 04-Apr-2023, 04:04 AM
(03-Apr-2023, 02:47 PM)JJggg Wrote: My son is 14 and wants to become a woman. Early stages of Gender Dysphoria.

I read lots of articles about gender disister detransition and early stages of prevention. My son needs help and he is just confused.

History of the issue:

- hes shown no signs of being gay hes a well-mannnered boy
- no signs of trying to cross-dress when he was little
- doesn't like women's stuff
- was an abrupt decision on his end.

I overheard him talking on the phone 1am in the morning and i knocked on his door and asked him who he was talking to then he became hysterical says he heard a ghost and heard something etc. I told him he was lying because I could clearly hear him talking to someone. Then I kept on asking who he was talking to etc. Then from that point on his mom got involved and eventually, he said hes been visiting a site called Trevorproject and been talking to people there and that it was a site for gender help.

This happened maybe because i grounded him months back. He plays online games a lot very active and has this discord group and he's an admin and very much trash-talking when playing to the point that he carried the attitude towards his parents. So I ended his online games.

I noticed a month after that he was locking his bedroom door now and stays there all day all the time so i ddint bother . He had his phone with him and i think he had a mental breakdown of the sudden stop of his gaming activity.

We don't know what to do as a parent. I feel and believe that he acquired this ideology of being trans online and must have spoken to someone that have hone his curiosity, a predator online. He mentioned hea=s been with trevorproject 5months and it's way enough time to brainwash him into thinking he is really a woman.

He's 14 and he's way to young to decide that he's already wanting to become trans.

Please helpMy son is 14 and wants to become a woman. Early stages of Gender Dysphoria.

I read lots of articles about gender disister detransition and early stages of prevention. My son needs help and he is just confused.

History of the issue:

- hes shown no signs of being gay hes a well-mannnered boy
- no signs of trying to cross-dress when he was little
- doesn't like women's stuff
- was an abrupt decision on his end.

I overheard him talking on the phone 1am in the morning and i knocked on his door and asked him who he was talking to then he became hysterical says he heard a ghost and heard something etc. I told him he was lying because I could clearly hear him talking to someone. Then I kept on asking who he was talking to etc. Then from that point on his mom got involved and eventually, he said hes been visiting a site called Trevorproject and been talking to people there and that it was a site for gender help.

This happened maybe because i grounded him months back. He plays online games a lot very active and has this discord group and he's an admin and very much trash-talking when playing to the point that he carried the attitude towards his parents. So I ended his online games.

I noticed a month after that he was locking his bedroom door now and stays there all day all the time so i ddint bother . He had his phone with him and i think he had a mental breakdown of the sudden stop of his gaming activity.

We don't know what to do as a parent. I feel and believe that he acquired this ideology of being trans online and must have spoken to someone that have hone his curiosity, a predator online. He mentioned hea=s been with trevorproject 5months and it's way enough time to brainwash him into thinking he is really a woman.

He's 14 and he's way to young to decide that he's already wanting to become trans.

Please help

Hello, JJggg. 

I'm sorry for all you and your son are dealing with. His story sounds very familiar. I hope you'll join this board as a member. In the members-only area, you'll find parents who are dealing with this and feel the same way you do, as well as some advice and strategies for possibly helping your son. I recommend joining because most members don't visit this public area of the forum very often. 

To join, click on the word "register" near the top of the page, in the black bar just under the logo, and follow the prompts. Once you register, your acount must be activated by a moderator. This can take anywhere from a minute to a day, depending upon the activity and availability of our moderators.

Your story sounds very similar to the stories of many of our members. I hope you'll join us. Best wishes to you and your son.
Posted by JJggg - 03-Apr-2023, 02:47 PM
My son is 14 and wants to become a woman. Early stages of Gender Dysphoria.

I read lots of articles about gender disister detransition and early stages of prevention. My son needs help and he is just confused.

History of the issue:

- hes shown no signs of being gay hes a well-mannnered boy
- no signs of trying to cross-dress when he was little
- doesn't like women's stuff
- was an abrupt decision on his end.

I overheard him talking on the phone 1am in the morning and i knocked on his door and asked him who he was talking to then he became hysterical says he heard a ghost and heard something etc. I told him he was lying because I could clearly hear him talking to someone. Then I kept on asking who he was talking to etc. Then from that point on his mom got involved and eventually, he said hes been visiting a site called Trevorproject and been talking to people there and that it was a site for gender help.

This happened maybe because i grounded him months back. He plays online games a lot very active and has this discord group and he's an admin and very much trash-talking when playing to the point that he carried the attitude towards his parents. So I ended his online games.

I noticed a month after that he was locking his bedroom door now and stays there all day all the time so i ddint bother . He had his phone with him and i think he had a mental breakdown of the sudden stop of his gaming activity.

We don't know what to do as a parent. I feel and believe that he acquired this ideology of being trans online and must have spoken to someone that have hone his curiosity, a predator online. He mentioned hea=s been with trevorproject 5months and it's way enough time to brainwash him into thinking he is really a woman.

He's 14 and he's way to young to decide that he's already wanting to become trans.

Please helpMy son is 14 and wants to become a woman. Early stages of Gender Dysphoria.

I read lots of articles about gender disister detransition and early stages of prevention. My son needs help and he is just confused.

History of the issue:

- hes shown no signs of being gay hes a well-mannnered boy
- no signs of trying to cross-dress when he was little
- doesn't like women's stuff
- was an abrupt decision on his end.

I overheard him talking on the phone 1am in the morning and i knocked on his door and asked him who he was talking to then he became hysterical says he heard a ghost and heard something etc. I told him he was lying because I could clearly hear him talking to someone. Then I kept on asking who he was talking to etc. Then from that point on his mom got involved and eventually, he said hes been visiting a site called Trevorproject and been talking to people there and that it was a site for gender help.

This happened maybe because i grounded him months back. He plays online games a lot very active and has this discord group and he's an admin and very much trash-talking when playing to the point that he carried the attitude towards his parents. So I ended his online games.

I noticed a month after that he was locking his bedroom door now and stays there all day all the time so i ddint bother . He had his phone with him and i think he had a mental breakdown of the sudden stop of his gaming activity.

We don't know what to do as a parent. I feel and believe that he acquired this ideology of being trans online and must have spoken to someone that have hone his curiosity, a predator online. He mentioned hea=s been with trevorproject 5months and it's way enough time to brainwash him into thinking he is really a woman.

He's 14 and he's way to young to decide that he's already wanting to become trans.

Please help
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 23-Mar-2023, 04:38 PM
(23-Mar-2023, 03:59 PM)Mamaheart Wrote: I've just joined, and I also am just freshly into this with my daughter. I'm hopeful to jump into the member boards soon as this is just eating me up and consuming all of my thoughts. I have always had such good mama's intuition with her and in my gut I strongly feel this is not her truth. I don't know how to balance making sure she knows she is always loved for who she is with making sure she isn't in this place due to social media and as a way to cope with school anxiety.

Hello, Mamaheart, and welcome to the board.

Your account has been activated.

I'm sorry for what you and your daughter are dealing with. My advice is to follow your gut instincts, as you mentioned.

I hope you find the board helpful.

Wishing you the best.
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