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Posted by Jdmum - 16-Jan-2021, 09:03 PM
(16-Jan-2021, 06:30 PM)momofthree2021 Wrote: I'm really glad to have found this group.  I feel like the last 5 years of my life have been an emotional roller coaster and it good to read others know exactly what this is like.
When my daughter was 17, she abruptly broke up with her boyfriend of 18 months and told him she was gay.  She cut her hair short and started experimenting with relationships with girls. Before this, she was sweet, had a lot of friends and never got in any trouble.(she still never gets in trouble and is an excellent student)
Then came so many phases; the vegetarian phase, gay phase, goth phase.  She became more judgmental and irritable and only hung out with the cool LGBT kids. She went off to college and ended up rooming with a trans girl. I had no idea.  They ended up having a relationship and sex. she decided she liked that she (the roommate) had a penis too, in her words the best of both worlds. She was bisexual for the summer. fast forward to sophomore year, now she says she is transgender.
I want to be supportive, but there have been so many phases, I just don't know what to believe. She has been in therapy for 2 years and the therapist has uncovered some things. She apparently was abused by her boyfriend.
I do believe young girls becoming transgender today is a phenomenon that is growing at epidemic rates. I can't recall a single interest she had in anything masculine growing up or any time she expressed being uncomfortable as a girl.  I also think the she has had difficulty finding friends and fitting in a group and the transgender community at her school has filled this void for her.  It is cult like and encouraged by social media Tumblr etc.
I don't know where to turn and feel I will lose her.
Hi mum of three.  Once your account has been activated you will be able to access the members area where you will find a lot of parents going through the same as you x
Posted by momofthree2021 - 16-Jan-2021, 06:30 PM
I'm really glad to have found this group.  I feel like the last 5 years of my life have been an emotional roller coaster and it good to read others know exactly what this is like.
When my daughter was 17, she abruptly broke up with her boyfriend of 18 months and told him she was gay.  She cut her hair short and started experimenting with relationships with girls. Before this, she was sweet, had a lot of friends and never got in any trouble.(she still never gets in trouble and is an excellent student)
Then came so many phases; the vegetarian phase, gay phase, goth phase.  She became more judgmental and irritable and only hung out with the cool LGBT kids. She went off to college and ended up rooming with a trans girl. I had no idea.  They ended up having a relationship and sex. she decided she liked that she (the roommate) had a penis too, in her words the best of both worlds. She was bisexual for the summer. fast forward to sophomore year, now she says she is transgender.
I want to be supportive, but there have been so many phases, I just don't know what to believe. She has been in therapy for 2 years and the therapist has uncovered some things. She apparently was abused by her boyfriend.
I do believe young girls becoming transgender today is a phenomenon that is growing at epidemic rates. I can't recall a single interest she had in anything masculine growing up or any time she expressed being uncomfortable as a girl.  I also think the she has had difficulty finding friends and fitting in a group and the transgender community at her school has filled this void for her.  It is cult like and encouraged by social media Tumblr etc.
I don't know where to turn and feel I will lose her.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 16-Jan-2021, 05:54 AM
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Ive lost my log in details, any idea how i can retrieve them?
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Hello,

Check your email.
Posted by - 15-Jan-2021, 06:36 PM
Ive lost my log in details, any idea how i can retrieve them?
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 07-Dec-2020, 09:43 PM
(07-Dec-2020, 06:51 AM)Needinghelp Wrote: So thankful to have found this group.  I have read so many that are exactly like our story.  She went to college changed her name and has asked all her teachers to call her the new name and use the proper pronouns. I found out because the school sent an email with the changed name at first she said she didn’t want us to know until she was older because she knew we didn’t understand but that has now changed to her not feeling we support or respect her since we don’t use the new name and pronouns.  We tell her we don’t understand it and it’s not going to happen in our home.  We have a 6 year old to protect from all of this.  We don’t want him hearing about any of it. She has asked for me to take her shopping so she could buy clothes that she feels comfortable in.  She said she wanted guys pants and shirts.  I’m not doing that.  She said it makes her sad that we don’t support her.  I just don’t feel in my heart as a mom that this is who she is and i have a hard time supporting that.  She’s a gifted kid so she goes from one extreme to another and researched in depth on topics.  She’s a gamer and also has lots of online chat groups.  She’s 18 and in college so i can’t control that.  I’m nervous about her coming home for Christmas we want things to be normal again and we don’t want our 6 year olds Holiday ruined over this.  So confused and i feel so lost.  How do we know if this is real of just a phase?  She has PCOS which i have read can cause body dysphoria or gender issues.  We took her to her gynecologist and she just switched her birth control pills and said we needed to seek family counseling.  I’ve tracked hormonal changes based on when she talks about these issues. It’s usually week 3 of each month.  I feel she’s got a possible hormone imbalance but the dr didn’t even check that.  I’m glad to read so many parents are in the same boat as me.  I just want off this boat and back to normal again.  I’m begging for help here.

Hello, welcome to the forum. Your account has been activated. I encourage you to post your questions in the members-only area, because this public area doesn't get much traffic from forum members.

I'm sorry to hear about the situation. You are not alone.

(07-Dec-2020, 02:18 PM)Chicken Wrote: Hi, 
I've never been on a forum like this before.  Over the last year my daughter has told me she doesn't feel like a girl.  She's obsessed with looking at trans boys on Instagram and tick tock.  Cut all her hair off during lockdown in her room late at night.  Only wears hoodies up now.    She won't talk to me and refuses to allow me to tell her dad she's wants to be a boy or anyone else.  At her age I hated wearing a bra, makeup etc but when I try to get my experiences across to her for another view she shuts me down.  It's breaking my heart to see her do this to herself and her push me away.  I need help.  How to open communication, stop internet influences etc.  She has suspected Asperger's and anxiety.  Is very strong willed, the more I try and tackle it the more she will rebel.

Hi chicken, welcome to the forum. Your account has been activated.

I'm sorry to hear about all you and your daughter are dealing with. I encourage you to post your story in the members-only area, where it is more likely to be seen by other parent members and you are more likely to get responses.

Welcome to the forum. You are not alone.
Posted by Chicken - 07-Dec-2020, 02:18 PM
Hi, 
I've never been on a forum like this before.  Over the last year my daughter has told me she doesn't feel like a girl.  She's obsessed with looking at trans boys on Instagram and tick tock.  Cut all her hair off during lockdown in her room late at night.  Only wears hoodies up now.    She won't talk to me and refuses to allow me to tell her dad she's wants to be a boy or anyone else.  At her age I hated wearing a bra, makeup etc but when I try to get my experiences across to her for another view she shuts me down.  It's breaking my heart to see her do this to herself and her push me away.  I need help.  How to open communication, stop internet influences etc.  She has suspected Asperger's and anxiety.  Is very strong willed, the more I try and tackle it the more she will rebel.
Posted by Needinghelp - 07-Dec-2020, 06:51 AM
So thankful to have found this group. I have read so many that are exactly like our story. She went to college changed her name and has asked all her teachers to call her the new name and use the proper pronouns. I found out because the school sent an email with the changed name at first she said she didn’t want us to know until she was older because she knew we didn’t understand but that has now changed to her not feeling we support or respect her since we don’t use the new name and pronouns. We tell her we don’t understand it and it’s not going to happen in our home. We have a 6 year old to protect from all of this. We don’t want him hearing about any of it. She has asked for me to take her shopping so she could buy clothes that she feels comfortable in. She said she wanted guys pants and shirts. I’m not doing that. She said it makes her sad that we don’t support her. I just don’t feel in my heart as a mom that this is who she is and i have a hard time supporting that. She’s a gifted kid so she goes from one extreme to another and researched in depth on topics. She’s a gamer and also has lots of online chat groups. She’s 18 and in college so i can’t control that. I’m nervous about her coming home for Christmas we want things to be normal again and we don’t want our 6 year olds Holiday ruined over this. So confused and i feel so lost. How do we know if this is real of just a phase? She has PCOS which i have read can cause body dysphoria or gender issues. We took her to her gynecologist and she just switched her birth control pills and said we needed to seek family counseling. I’ve tracked hormonal changes based on when she talks about these issues. It’s usually week 3 of each month. I feel she’s got a possible hormone imbalance but the dr didn’t even check that. I’m glad to read so many parents are in the same boat as me. I just want off this boat and back to normal again. I’m begging for help here.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 03-Dec-2020, 05:50 AM
(03-Dec-2020, 12:07 AM)GNCMom Wrote: Hello, I don't know what I'm replying to, how do I make a new post?

Hi, GNCMom, and welcome to the forum. 

Your membership has been activated and you now have access to the members-only area.

Thanks for your patience and sorry for any confusion; bots post spam on this public area of the forum; the spam is deleted, which leaves all these blank posts within the pages. I can see how it would feel like you're replying to no one.

I invite you to take a look around in the members-only area, where you'll find supportive parents to converse with.

Welcome. You are not alone.
Posted by GNCMom - 03-Dec-2020, 12:07 AM
Hello, I don't know what I'm replying to, how do I make a new post?
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 30-Nov-2020, 02:39 AM
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My son is 30 and married for two years, last night I got a Dear BCC email from him saying he was a woman. He's been seeing a therapist for a year and living in Bangor Maine with his wife. It's just so surreal (also getting this announced in a BCC email). I notice it is mostly trans women here (my daughter told me three of her girlfriends are trans). I feel like I'm on an alien planet.
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Hello, guest. I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I can only imagine what a shock it was to learn this news. There are many of us here with daughters but also many of us with sons. I encourage you to register an account so that you can post in the members-only area, where you'll find parents who understand what you're going through. Our members don't often frequent this public area of the forum.

Your daughter having three female friends who identify as male is the new normal among teens and twenty-somethings. I don't know how old your daughter is but I'd be willing to bet she falls somewhere in that teens or 20s range. What was once something incredibly rare just 10-20 years ago is now common, yet we are supposed to believe a 3000% increase in girls who identify as male is simply because kids aren't afraid to come out now. I agree with the researchers who say they have found evidence of social contagion. There is evidence of social contagion among males, as well.

Welcome to the forum. I do hope you will register so that you can find support among fellow parents. You are not alone.
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