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Posted by Bonnie151 - 08-Oct-2019, 09:49 AM
Thank you Marge. I’m happy for my above post to stay here. We’ve got so much going on just now with all this, but once I have time to catch my breath I’ll do another post on the main boards.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 06-Oct-2019, 04:13 PM
Hi Bonnie151, your account has been activated. Thanks for your patience. You now have access to the members-only forums.

As for the information you've given about your daughter, I am sure it sounds very, very similar to many of us. Each case is unique yet there are components to this which are seen over and over and again in our kids: having a tough time with puberty, autism/Asperger's, cutting or eating disorders, looking for a group to fit in with, starting out "lite" (pan or bi) which escalates to identifying as the opposite sex. These are a few I see in your story. Now that your membership has been activated, let me know if you'd like me to move your post to the members-only forums where it cannot be seen by public readers; also you will be more likely to receive responses to your questions if your post is in the members-only area.

Welcome and thanks for joining.
Posted by Bonnie151 - 06-Oct-2019, 07:36 AM
Hi- I’m another mum of a 14 year old daughter who previously showed no signs of being unhappy as a girl. In fact, in childhood, she was a very girly girl! She changed schools at 11, just as puberty started to hit and both struggled socially and developed acne/needed braces/needed glasses etc, all of which made her very unhappy within herself. She has always enjoyed living in fantasy worlds, pretending to be different characters etc, and gets obsessive about TV shows, other pop culture.

At 11, 2 months after starting at her new school, she ran away from home. The following year she threatened suicide (was in a very toxic friendship with a “best friend”), the next year she announced she was asexual and non binary (this was two months after starting to go to the school’s LBGT group because her current friend was bi- she spent weeks asking me if it was OK for her to go because she was straight!) and now she has announced that she is not a girl; she is a boy. She is uncomfortable being called “she” and wants to bind her breasts (which I won’t allow). The school have embraced this whole heartedly.

She was seeing a psychologist last year who felt she is ASD, but my daughter doesn’t want to be formally diagnosed.

We started calling her by her chosen non binary name over the summer, but now I am wondering if this is just reinforcing and normalising all these beliefs.
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 03-Oct-2019, 03:31 AM
Hi Ruby12345, your account has been activated. Welcome.
Posted by ruby12345 - 03-Oct-2019, 02:40 AM
I'm so, so glad I found this forum! My 13 year old son recently told me he is nonbinary and wants my husband and I to stop using masculine pronouns and referring to him as our "son." He asked me to buy him female clothing and a purse. This has come completely out of the blue. Even my son admits to these feelings coming on very suddenly. This all began shortly after he got an iPhone and a few of his female friends came out as nonbinary/trans. He also came out as gay several months ago and said this was also a sudden realization on his part. My son loves theater and several of the actors he admires are trans or gender nonconforming in some way. It seems to be "cool" to be trans. My son has always been a unique/quirky, very bright, possibly autism spectrum. I also know he has ambivalent/negative feelings about puberty and his changing body. I want to be supportive of my kid but going along with this new reality doesn't feel right to me without exploring further what might be going on. I am looking forward to learning and sharing support with other parents here. Awaiting my account to be activated.
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Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 11-Sep-2019, 06:08 PM
Hi WorriedMother. Your story sounds very familiar. Your account is now activated and you have access to the members-only boards. Welcome.
Posted by WorriedMother - 11-Sep-2019, 01:54 PM
Hello, I'm hoping that I can get help with my daughter 14 year old daughter that just last week told me she thinks she is trans.  Sorry I had to edit this because I didn't realize how much info I provided that could identify me. Thanks
Posted by Marge Bouvier Simpson - 27-Aug-2019, 12:22 AM
Hello and welcome to hismom and stratocast23. Your accounts have been activated. Welcome to the forum. I hope you'll find it helpful.
Posted by hismom - 26-Aug-2019, 08:46 PM
Hi Alice, you are not alone. Our 16 yr old son told us he was transgender in February, after telling us he was bisexual last August. Its been a long 6 months as I've tried to learn everything I can about this. Like you, I doubt he is transgender but he has completely bought into this new identity. I too feel like I am in wonderland or bizarro-land or somewhere other than the real world. I just discovered this board (it was recommended on another GC site that I follow) and hope to join the discussion soon. Sad to see that so many of us are struggling with this but relieved to know I'm not alone.
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